Employer fails to pay the DOE and CSA does not chase

June 17, 2011

I have no idea what’s happening with my payments. My ex has a DOE but it rarely gets paid, if it does get paid i usually have to phone the CSA and it then gets transferred. I phone them at least once a month and the employer has been sent many warning letters. Why hasn’t the employer been fined yet?

I’m dismayed by some of the comments on here by some of the fathers. It seems the bad fathers get away with not paying yet the ones who want to help support their kids are crusified. My ex takes home around £550 a week, i take home £360 a week, my outgoings are £340 a week (i don’t get housing benefit or council tax benefit). I have two teenage children, i buy my clothes from a charity shop, i don’t go out, i don’t smoke, i rarely drink. Once a month i take them to the cinema, we never go out for meals.

The kids father chose not to see them for over 5 yrs and as such said he shouldn’t have to pay maintenance. Since when do you PAY to see your kids, payment has nothing to do with access. He is supposed to pay £100 a week, i think this is fair as his wife takes home the same amount as him so he shares the outgoings with her. I just want to be able to pay for school trips and shoes and save for a holiday for all of us, i’m not asking for a fortune. Not all of us mums are raking it in and bleeding the fathers dry, some of us are genuine.

I’m getting tired of fighting for money, but with my income so low i have to. I’d appreciate some advice on what i should do now.


  • karen bedford says:

    please join the facebook groups child support agencies failings etc for support and advice, as I can totally understand where you coming from as had similar problems. it is a very unfair system.

  • Gonk says:

    Since when did you have kids expecting to be paid ??

  • Sally says:

    Don’t believe a word the CSA tell you…. it is possible that your ex is paying but the CSA are not forwarding it on to you!?

    A PWC posted on this website that after many months of chasing CSA for money (that she was told her ex hadn’t paid), she contacted her ex only to find out that he had been paying all along and never missed a payment (she said that he showed her his bank statements). The CSA were lying to her and holding on to the money!!!

    4 members of staff have been sent to prison for stealing directly from NRP’s…

  • Sally says:

    sorry, one sent to prison, the others fined!! Clair Jones was sent to prison for stealing 7k!!!

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