CSA tell me to claim benefits to pay them!

January 20, 2010

My son is 13.

3 Years ago he wanted to live with his father, so I agreed as he clearly didn’t want to be with me. I still had my daughter with me. My income at the time was only £700.00 per month (not enough to even cover my mortgage). All I got from my ex was £5.00 per week (even when I had both of my children with me).

As soon as my son moved out I was ordered to pay him £50+ pounds of this per month. When I explained that he was in reciept of over £2000.00 in benifits, Private health insurance and working tax credits they were not interested. I asked how I was supposed to support my daughter. Their response was to sell my house and go on benifts.

This didn’t happen as I have been brought up to earn your living. My parents helped me through this financial struggle and eventually my son was placed back in my care via social services. Good job I didn’t follow the CSA’s advice as when my son came home I was still able to put a roof over his head.

My Son has decided he is old enough to choose to live with his dad now (who wouldn’t when you can get away with anything, eat what you like, go to bed when you like, miss school when you like etc?) and never came home after school. His Dad picked him up and he has told me he is not coming home.

I am now petrified that this will cripple me financially. I will loose my WFT credits for him and also have to pay this man to have my child. I don’t even want him there, He should be at home with me, His mother, the person who gave brth to him. I certinly should not have to pay for the fact he has taken my son away from me.

I get a meare £5.00 per week off of him for my daughter why does she have to miss out because I am going be aprox £500 per month worse off. Why is the system so unfair? Help me before I lose everything.

Comments

  • Karen Bedford says:

    Michaela I so understand, I wasnt brought up to go on benefits, even though at times I have had to, but struggled to stay in and find work throughout. The system is so unfair and unjustice

    Please go onto facebook and join the group Child Support Agency failings and then add me as a friend, so we can ‘talk’ to see if I can help give you any more advice.

    I know its not much consoliation, but you are not on your own and if there is enough of us, we WILL he heard!

  • flint says:

    I REALLY HOPE HE DOES NOT PAY A PENNY. AND GETA AWAY WITH IT. IF IT WAS THE OTHER WAY ROUND YOU WOULD HAVE SILLY PELE SAYING YOU SHOULD HAVE PUT ON A CONDOM. GO GET A JOB

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