CSA system so wrong
To cut a very long story short i am now divorced and my wife lives with a multi millionaire in a 2.5 million house, horses, astons, bentlys etc etc this was my so called best friend??? He took her on as a package with my two children, they want for nothing both in private education see the world on fantastic holidays and even down to all underwear theres a designer name on them! you get the picture do my children want for anything?
So like a fool i was paying her £260 every month she then thought that was not enough so approached the CSA i still ended up paying £260 so no problem until i lost my job thru no fault of my own and i set up my own business i have had the csa constantly on my case as my money was tight and she did not need it so you pay who you have to or so i thought! so 3 yrs down the line i have been to court fined £450 had a charge put on my house and i have now 7 days to stop a forced sale so that they can get £4700 out of me.
The system is so wrong i see my children every week and stay over 2 nights every week and if they did need the money i would have sold my house, would of found it somehow but they dont. Its pointless speaking to the CSA they see us all as bastards not interested in what the mothers got or does she need it???? for fcuk sake my x wife and the csa have had no communication for nearly 3 years, how desperate is she? yet they keep on and on at me.
I paid them £1900 3 weeks ago the very professional company put it in her bank, no letter no phone call no nothing what are they all on there? To sum up it does not matter if the children need the money it does not matter who the mother lives and how much he has got what the csa see is you should pay and if dont we will take your house off you so you’ll have to rent a flat all for your children who want for nothing! how nice? hey but if i moved in with a rich girl they take her salary into consideration and i’d be paying more!
time to die!
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My heart goes out to you,it really does.You like soooo many dads are shit on by these bastards called the csa and the bitch mothers that use them for only one reason….for their own needs.Its got nothing the hell to do with the kids welfare,your story proves this.your ex is a totall selfish bitch forgive me for saying so.
The fucking csa wonder why there is so much hatred towards them when they enforce such an unfair and unjust law on hard working dads.They cannot see what they do only serves to drive a bigger wedge between parents and kids, but hey…they don’t give a shit so long as they raping us for sooo much cash each month to keep the treasury happy.
And you are right,soooo right,if you meet a new woman? The bastard scumbags would want her money as well.fucking arsehols of the human race as far as I’m concerned.And sadly I see the day coming when some poor sod whos been pushed over the edge by these vermin is going to top themselfs? It’s further sad to think that MAYBE just MAYBE…someone with bury this system in a very deep grave and bring out a system that is fair and not one that’s soooo heavily biased towards the mothers in most cases.I am raped of £320 every month for a daughter that was taken away from me by her mother who just got bored of me one day.and this is my reward.whats worse is I have NO FUCKING say on how,who,what my money is spent on.We all know that alot of these mothers just use the kids as cash machines….quite obviously like your ex.I know that my bitch of an ex is not spending £73 a week on my daughter, no fucking way,more like £10-15 …the rest subsidises hers and the cock she lives with lifestyles.
Fuck the csa….fuck em to hell….I wouldn’t piss on the csa if it was on fire
I find myself in a very similar possition. My payments are just under £300 per month. I split with my ex after an 8 year relationship. I paid off her car finance, credit cards etc by taking out a loan in my name (stupid I know, but you do not see these things coming). This leaves me with a substantial amount of debt in my name that is repaid at £250 per month. So thats £550 per month going out before I have paid rent, bills, car, food etc etc. I also pay £4000 a year to get to work on the train which is going up by a further 8% this year. Do the CSA take any of this into account, of course not.
My ex has a well paid job and is now happily together with another guy who by all accounts is extremely wealthy. This year they have three, two week holidays planned already. They have a large house, new cars and can pretty much afford to do what they like when they like.
The fairness of the CSA system is completely and utterly one sided (do not get me wrong, I am all for supporting my child and would do anything for him). Anyway, my ex and new partner will know exactly how much I earn for the next 12 years at least. Why are they not interested in their circumstances? I have a new partner and at some stage we will want to start a new family. This is not possible as the payments I make to the CSA and debt accumulated whilst together with my ex are extremely high and leave me with very little to get by on once everything is paid for. They have no mortgage on their house as they have both inherited large sums of money recently and yet I have to scrape around each month, with nothing to save, no money for a pension etc.
I can not understand the system on so many levels. Why are there so many fathers who do not pay, but seem to get away with it due to the CSA’s incompetance. Why are hard working tax payers like myself seemingly punished for a decision to split up that was not made by me. My ex can just continue with her life without a worry in the world and an extra £300 in her savings account each month. The CSA needs reforming. It needs clarity and fairness (and also staff who do not speak to me like I am a child). Rant over…..
Yes….yet another classic all so common story above.we are all singing from the same hymn book here guys.and yes the staff are incompetent ,rude and treat you like a criminal. Only this week a guy I work with was ranting because he spent 45mins trying to call the csa and each time being put on hold and cut off and not managing to speak to anyone there.
I too have debt from my ex,s past like a wedding,honeymoon,rings,£6000 on a car for her,driving lessons,a dog lol and all payed for from money I have growing on a tree in her eyes.she moves on and leaves me to clean up the mess and even lied to the csa when I appealed about my debts and outgoings,claiming none of them have anything to do with her lol . I see my daughter as just a financial ancle chain that gets pulled every month to remind me of her and what she’s costing me….fine reward for having her and then taken away from me because her mother got bored. Why is it the victims of marriage breakdowns just get pissed on and shafted up the arse by the ex,s and the csa they use as the dildo.
I have been seperated for over 13 years. I had an agreement with my x for maitenance. After a few years of this agreement she decided to tell the CSA I was not paying her any money. This resulted in a long drawn out affair which lasted from 2003 until 2006 following a tribunal I won my case. I obtained a court order in order to have contact with my sons in 2007 only for this to be denied whenever it suited her. I repeatedly returned to court due to her persistant obstructions, which has been pointless, as there are no sanctions placed upon the offender and has cost me thousands of pounds. She has made repeated false allegations against me to the police, my work and involved the Social Work Dept in order to support her lies that I have not seen my children, then falsified the social work report. She then went to the CSA and told them I had no contact with my sons from 2008 to date, which was another lie and gave them an extract from social work to support her false claims. I provided the tribunal with the court order and calendar set out between lawyers in 2010 due to her persistant inability to understand the terms of the court order, as well as other proof that I have contact. In Jan, this year I as informed by the tribunal that my maitenance should be recalculated by the CSA, as they agree with her that I dont see my children, when in fact not only do I have conatct but shared care. The tribunal also refused to back date my pension contributions which should have been taken of my salary since the effective date of 2003, which was not. Maybe this was my punishment for not attending the tribunal but i did not wish to give this SOCIOPATH another minute of tmy time, however, I await the REASONS OF DECISION in order to appeal, the next time i will attend. In meantime, according to Social Work she has not done anything wrong in altering “their mistake” and in terms breaching the data protection act by giving out a section of their report, its nothing to do with them.
Guys Don’t waste your money on courts and legal fees, its a total waste and you won’t benefit from the result.
She will win.
She does not pay legal fees or get harassed by CSA, they support her.
Family courts don’t care about men or fathers.
You’re child will grow up and you will get your time. Just hold on to the thought.
Keep your money as best you can in many accounts i.e family members. Whatever you do never ive the CSA access or your bank details.
This way you get to give your kids money alter onin life and NOT let them rip you off.
I totally agree with you all there are so many slappers out there who have children just for the money makes me sick my other half got with one of them then stopped him seeing the kids then decided to ring him and find out his circumstances then xmas eve had a letter of the csa it ruined my xmas we have a little one who’s 2 anyway it’s just the pure spite of them. His ex has never worked just claims all the time and has another 2 children with other men as well i’m self employed but bearly make a wage and we can’t afford to live as for that spiteful bitch i hate her
Though i do tend to agree with you all, i have to say there are also plenty of men around that are not prepared to support their children at all, there are some very vindictive and nasty people about, unfortunately there are quite a few like yourselves that are taken advantage of and used to the extent that you all are, and some kind of action should be taken against the agency for acting in a way that the common people (if i am allowed to say that) could be arrested for.
I dont agree with the system and think its grossly unfair.
As a PWC what i don’t understand is, if i was on benefits (which im not) i would get a fixed amount for my child £20 weekly (i know this is an incorrect figure but using as an example) why then does the NRP have to pay almost triple if not more than that, i just don’t understand the logic.
michelle,
On CS2, PWC on benefits used to receive the first £10 of any maintenance collected, this was increased in October 2008 to £20pw. The remainder was offset against the benefits the PWC was in receipt of.
In April 2010, a total benefit disregard was brought in and the PWC should now receive all the regular maintenance collected by the agency.
chall ~ afairercsaforall
You are not required by law to give details of your partner’s income. Your partner is not responsible for your children or for you, so don’t give the CSA their details.