CSA said no nore payments were needed, then changed their minds

February 5, 2013

I am the NRP off two boy’s. Now aged 19, and 18. Both have “special needs” so are easily lead. My Ex other half has Banned them from seeing, or having contact with me since we divorced 3 years ago. I pay CSA voluntary every month without complaining.

CSA informed me Both boy’s had “moved away” so no more payments were req’d. Then a month later told me they had mad a mistake, and forced me into paying for there errors. My Ex earns far more than i do.

Then I learnt that the oldest had been found guilty of a sexual act on a younger girl (Child) and had been put on the Sex offenders register. (10yrs!) this was via a newspaper article, not from the mother.he’s also got a suspended sentence (Again this was because I believe his Mother lied in court!) I explained this to CSA as i don’t see why I should pay for a convicted sex offender. (and he’s now 19!) they don’t want to explain, other than he’s getting Child support payments. WHY ? he is a convicted criminal. The mother will not respond to any mails, or calls.

The CSA seem to bury there head in the sand, and don’t want to investigate any possible fraudulent claims, they just seem interested in getting money, that I know she spends on herself, not them I don’t want to support a child sex offender as it’s totally against everything I believe in. What can i do ?

Comments

  • chall says:

    Richard,

    Whilst your ex continues to receives Child Benefit, and the child does not always have to live with the PWC, it is likely that you will continue to be liable to pay CSA.
    On 10/12/12 the CSA increased the maximum age to 20 years, inline with Child Benefit rules.

    The link below will take you to info re Child Benefit;
    http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/childbenefit/start/who-qualifies/index.htm

    If you suspect your ex is fraudulently claiming Child Benefit, you would need to report such to them, as the CSA will not investigate it.

    chall

  • Sally says:

    Hi Richard

    Have you contacted social services as they may be able to help you if your children are registered as special needs and now on the sex offenders register…. it might lead to nothing but maybe worth a try?

    As chall says, while your ex recieves child benefit (fraudulently or other wise) the CSA will expect you to pay. Also, the CSA are not interested in the amount your ex earns or that you are struggling… as far as they are concerned, you are the NRP and you should pay what they dictate… 🙁

    I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you get some answers that help you.

  • carol says:

    Was your child put into jail/secure unit? If he was, surely you do not have to pay for his maintenance as he is not in full time education etc etc.

    On a side note, this must be very distressing for you knowing your son has done this, and the damage it has caused to another child and their family. But for what its worth, sexual boundries are not so clear with people with special needs, and they are often crossed for a variety of reasons I wont go into on here. Obviously not condoning it, however. When I have worked with learning disabilities it can get a lil uncomfortable at times, so I always wear a wedding ring to offset any advances or attempts, without making it about ‘them’.

    Sad situation all round. You should not have to pay for him if he is not living at home in education.

  • Richard says:

    Well thank you all. Carol yes this is very distressing for me, as I can’t have any contact with either of them. I did try texting,the youngest but that stopped (I think she got me blocked on his phone) As to the eldest, he went off the rails so to speak, even when i was still married. He didn’t get a custodial sentence because “mum” spoke up for him in a court, I only learned of this via the local paper someone sent.
    So he is living at home, and (allegedly) living at home. But I cannot see, how he can be still at collage, or get a job, being on the sex offenders register. I will try Social as you suggest.
    Also thank-you sally My Beef is Why should I pay for someone who will never get a job, (see above).

  • Adrian says:

    Interesting. I’d be going to the papers

  • lisa says:

    Richard the best thing you can do is have a word with his probation officer, having a suspended sentence would have ensured he had one, they will be able to let you know the in,s and outs of whats happening, because you have always been in the boys life they have a duty of care to inform both parents on his needs, bearing in mind he is an adult now, the CSA really shouldt be collecting from you now, im almost sure if he has been convicted of a sexual offense would stop him from going into further education due to the risk of others around him, and then maybe go to the press and see what they can also find out, good luck, sounds like your in desperate need of it, x

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