CSA only seem to investigate the father
I have always tried to support my son to whatever my income will allow and for the most part it was fine. I had a relationship with my son (when it suited the mother) until I got married last year of which led to jelousy from my ex partner and thus the CSA getting involved.
The CSA decided that i had to Pay £186 a month when my take home salary was £1200. So if you take out my rent and bills (£650 per month) travel to work (£150 per month), student loan repayment (£50 per month) plus food (£30 – £40 a week) i was left with virtually nothing and those amounts dont take into account debt repayments that i am currently trying to pay to avoid a court summons.
The csa only seem to investigate the father and do everything in their power to HARASS you with threats etc. i got to a point where i was depressed and constantly having panic attacks. In october 2011 i was struck off from work of which i informed the mother and the csa a month prior to this happening so that they were prepared. the csa told me i had to call them back the day after i finished work, which i did!! I started claiming JSA in october of which they were also aware. now they tell me that for october 2011 i still had to pay the £186 because i didnt send them my p45, of which they never asked for and pay £6.80 per week from my job seekers allowance. now do the math! my outgoings are at a minimum £750 per month, i receive £300 per month from JSA, how on earth can i afford to pay £6.80 per week. I have been unable to pay this and am now £380 more in debt.
How does this make sense. if im in the gutter then there will be no future for anybody. and what gets me the most is all the benefits that the mother recieves and is employed. And before i am tarnished with any brush and so nobody thinks im an uneducated council estate chav that sips special brew for breakfast, im not.
I Love My Son, I have a degree, I dont drink (anymore), Im married, and im trying to make something of my life, for myself, for my son, for my wife, and for children i may have in the future. I have been unfotunate with employment and the csa love the bullying tactics that they employ to make me want to give up!!!!!
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so you think £168 a month for a son’s upbringing is too much? And because of this, you have got depression and started claiming JSA? Do you know how much your son’s mother pays for your son? It is much more than £168 a month!!! I feel sorry for your son. If you cannot afford to pay £168 a month for your son, how can support your new family in the future? You mentioned you wanted more children. Are you going to use benefits to bring up your future children? You have good education, why don’t stand up and find a good job and become a responsible father of your son and your future children? I think people like you should be banned from claiming benefits. You are playing the system!
Cathie,
That wasn’t very nice he’s only pointing out his plight. The PWC is and in many cases gets financial support. He is willing to pay but is getting hammered into increasing debt which in the end prevents him working and supporting anyone, let alone his child.
Bri, i notice many men on this website always portray themselves wonderful fathers before CSA chase them for money. They say they used to buy full suitcases of clothes for their children, taking them out, etc. However, if £168 a month is too much for them, what do they do when they are with their children? Watching TV all the time? just buy some chips for your little ones? Bringing up children is expensive. If you want to be a good dad, just stop moaning if you only contribute £168 a month. I am not surprised some mothers want CSA get involved. I think some men deserve to be chased by the CSA. Otherwise they would not do anything for their children! Of course i am not saying all fathers are like that.