CSA not chasing ex for full amount

October 22, 2011

I separated from my ex, the kids dad, on new years day 2006, since having the kids I have been incapacitated from working, although I’ve tried, I can’t do it…when I started to try to gain independence, although I was primary parent, he was and is an offshore worker, and he made very difficult for me… embarrassing me in front of friends and the kids teachers. Anyway, he decided that, despite having a lovely Xmas 2005, that when I wished him happy new year, he was working away over new year, that he would wish me a new year and divorce. Never had any reason as to why, I don’t care TBH, but he’s been so horrible to the kids since.

If I don’t play his game the kids don’t see him. I stopped playing his game as soon as I left the family home, and since then he’s been a nightmare. He says he’s gonna see the kids, we turn up at the meeting place, he doesn’t turn up !! I then get a text inviting ME to see him. It’s been nearly 6 years since we separated, and over 4 and 1/2 years since the divorce. I still get random texts from him, saying he loves me, or wants to meet me, I’ve been in a relationship for nearly 4 years, he’s been in a relationship for at least two years. He won’t see the kids unless I ask him ‘nicely’, and he hasn’t paid child support for over 3 years.I have spent thousands of pounds trying to get this ‘man’ to pay for his kids, but the CSA can ‘only’ at this time , chase him for £1,600, this man owes over £15,000. I am waiting for the outcome of a court decision, when I may get £1,600, and we start all over again chasing the arrears that he hasn’t paid while the court ‘find’ him.

Would it not be cheaper for the CSA to hire private investigators to find these ‘dads’, rather than wasting taxpayers money on ‘hide and seek’ games. I know whereabouts he lives, not the exact address, I know the first name of the girlfriend, I know his NI number, but the CSA have this, he changes address to avoid paying but I have 2 definite addresses and one possible.

So unless I go myself, 300 miles, and find him, then sit on him until the CSA arrive ….I’m not going to get any child maintenance !!! Disgraceful !!!


  • karen bedford says:

    You are very right on many points. Please join the facebook groups child support agencies failings and others for support and advice as this is unfortunately common

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