CSA not allowed to use social networking websites to locate fathers
I have been a single parent for some years now and I have a beautiful daughter, and unfortunatly the sperm donor (the so called dad) has only ever coughed up £5.00!! I have had an on goin case for 8 years and the sly balless male keeps putting them off, not givin them details, sayin he pays me when infact he walked away frm responsibilities when she was 2.
CSA keep ringin me sayin do I have any contact etc but I have not seen him since he turned his back!! What I also found out is CSA are not allowed to use social networking sites to locate these balless morons!!! Why ever not?? They would catch out half of the culprits!!
Its a shame that he has not been around, coz weve been through bad times, but its his loss and I get all the pleasure. Hes walked away from another mother and child. These kinda people need to man up, but ther balless and just a sperm donor to me at the end of the day.
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Just a sperm donor to you at the end of the day!!!!
What are you complaining for then???
just about the MONEY isn’t it!!!!
heres another disgusting woman that trapped a man!and then using her daughter as a cash mashine!your daughter is not a pay as you view.about time bitter women like this one woke up and smell the coffee!!!!!
At the end of the day it takes TWO 2 TANGO. The lass is not bitter, she is just one of many! Many mothers like myself have to work hard, bring kids up and use childcare while some ‘dads’ simply walk away. Men who turn away just don’t deserve to be a dad. How can you turn away a child. And of course its about the money!! A child needs clothes, and its not so cheap in the UK now. And if a father keeps trying to run then when hes caught so he should be made to pay up.
Speaking as a NRP who has paid his dues from the time of the split with the mother of my child, albeit for 7 out of the last 9 years via the CSA ( because she got greedy and tried to blackmail me for more than what the CSA would take in any case, sadly for her, the plan backfired ) Out of spite contact was withdrawn, yet i still paid. My child after all is my child. She didnt ask to be born did she! Twice over the last 7 years i had the opportunity to go and live and work abroad. The CSA would have been none the wiser until it was too late to do anything about it. Did i go? No!
While i do question the validity of maintenance being paid when the PWC decides to play god with our children, i am mindful of the fact that as a parent, albeit a none resident parent. We should help to maintain our kids financially. But it shouldnt be a sum any greater than what the state would provide in child tax credit/ child benefit either. That is means tested. So if a PWC is getting double with CSA included it is more than enough to raise a child on. Also, any lump sums given to the PWC with regards to divorce etc for the kids should be taken into account, but are they hell! As should any joint ex marital debt being paid by the NRP. But it isnt.
As for NRPs that do their utmost to shirk their responsibilties. Shame on them! Though i can see why some do their utmost to avoid the CSA.If it takes them a year to get a payment schedule up and running (15 months in my case ) they shouldnt be allowed to hit a NRP with arrears on top of the assessment. That is the CSAs incompetence, not the NRPs. On the flip side however. The CSA does have the power to work alongside the DWP and the HMRC to track down these individuals to see if they are working or not. And make them pay accordingly. Sadly the CSA only tends to prioritise and chase after “soft targets”. NRPs who earn a reasonable income, who are not likely to flit from 1 job to the next to avoid paying maintenance being in this category. Either that or the long term unemployed. Those NRPs who are self employed, run their own business and have a good accountant on the other hand are a law unto themselves. As are NRPs who drift in and out of work.
While i am no fan of the CSA, they have boxes to tick, targets to be met. Soft targets will always be given precedence over those who just refuse to co operate. The one thing i can never get my head round, is why some women allow themselves to get pregnant by guys who are absolute losers that dont have the availability to take care of themselves. let alone any offspring they may sire! Could it have something to do with being shunted to the top of the housing list and have a raft of benefits thrown at them along with maintenance for the next 18 years if they are lucky enough to bag themselves a “soft target”?
I have tried to show both sides of the coin here. There are women out there who dont want to work. Who have kids by different dads and get a kings ransom in benefits and maintenance. The clever ones are more selective by whom they have kids by. Just as their are ” sperm donors ” as you call them who flit off from one woman to the next. The CSA tries to be a one shoe fits all organisation. That will never work. Until something is done to change both the way maintenance is arranged and the way benefits are paid, nothing will change sadly.
Hi Mick, since reading some stories on here, its discusting how they have treated some people. Its really sad and it is screwing families. They certainly do not deserve this.
I apologise for the term I use for my daughters err dad and as for the above comments they dont know me they just assume im some low life gold digga wanting hand outs. I left home at 16 and have been independant ever since.
Ok I hold my hands up the welfare system supported me and my daughter for a year, but thats because my job didnt pay enough so they said I was entitled to government based maternity. But after a year I got into work and my daughter was in childcare. We lived in a flooded flat and me furniture turned green so I turned for help because of the situation I was in. And I bet ye thinkin well u put your self in there, yes I did, I was with the wrong man, and I fell pregnant but not for a house, not for money.
Now as for the missing parent, I never asked him for money, local authorities came round, I gave them his name. But Ive never asked him for a penny, Im just more sad that hes turned his back. And that is my fault because I should not of been stupid, but I can never regret the daughter I have. Im just explaining that I aint that type of bint to go screwing around for money n wunt use my kid as a tool. Ive taught my daughter well and she never wants this or wants that when we hit every shop.
It is hard but I get on with it. Im not everyone and these 2 1st comments ther just assume every woman is like that. Ther on1 cause they’ve been screwed over by CSA. Theyve met the wrong woman just like I met the wrong man!! Our absent dad had to pay 5p a year no joke lol so I supose it narks me about the runaway types!!
In any case as for the mothers that dont want to work laws are changing that every mother will have to work wen the youngest kid is 5, so that will solve that matter, but ther is other women that do want to make an effort and not take the pee.
Screwed up society now!!!
Hello sarah, i was aware the law was changing last month for lone parents. Taking them off income support when their youngest child is 5 or over and replacing it with JSA. I am not at all asuming all women with kids are gold diggers. Far from it! I can only go by my own personal experience. My ex wife simply doesnt want to work. Its beneath her because she doesnt have the brains to earn a decent living wage. I know there are nice women out there who same as me made bad partner choices early on as a young adult. I accept that. A fair share of PWC do try and manipulate or play the system though as well. I did try to be fair in my first blog despite my own experience and didnt mean to tar ANY PWC who actually strives to better themselves at some point rather than just sit and vegetate for 18 years or so. Thats why the laws on lone parents have been changed. Because too many are jumping on the free money without consequence bandwagon. Money for old rope isnt it if you know how to play the system as my ex does. More than she could possibly ever hope to actually go out and earn by her own endeavours.
I am a pwc and I have worked since my child was 18 months old I read all the comments people saying we trapped men or use child as weapon that not the case in every woman I did not get pregnant for a council house or lifetime of benifits? As living that lifestyle does nothing for the child or my own self esteem I let my sons dad have contact it was his idea to walk away the csa was in place from day I sighned up for benifits as I needed help for the first 18 months! Which I paid my taxes for yes I now get around 400 a month csa but its not spent on drink or fags its spent on my child I don’t rely on it for my bills it goes on clothes treats and this time of year xmas I feel sorry for pwc that get abused on here sometimes u get in a hole on benefits and can’t get out but they don’t get loads money there are no jobs around for some so I guess they take the easy way out also the csa have a protective earning amount and won’t they accept lower repayment on arrears if u asked?
Please join the facebook groups for advice and support child support agencies failings and others – this is what you need to do –
complain in writing, send recorded deliver, keep diary and log of calls, etc.
ask for special payments – compensation
contact ICE Independent Case Examiner to complain about the CSA
ask for a departure hearing – appeal tribunal
find whatever info you can on him and then see if you can get the Criminal Compliance unit involved who work with the credit ref agencies.
Does he have property? a director in a company, many bank accounts, etc.,
Ask for advance payment – lump sum –
Good luck, dont give up
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