CSA never helped me when money laundering ex wouldn’t pay

February 4, 2020

When I say my ex is prolific, I mean it. He is amazing, fudging figures, fiddling the Tax man, not paying any VAT and using women’s money to benefit his personal gains.

16 years ago I thought all my birthdays and Christmas’s had come at once, oh boy was I sadly mistaken. I conceived 2 beautiful boys with a man who genuinely didn’t want children as I had already a son of 13 years, but hey ho its been hard. When I left him after many episodes of getting me to sign for cars, paying his bills re-mortgaging my house many times to buy one thing or another, he eventually talked me into taking 35k out to buy another house. This time he was really on form, having gone through the motions together he managed to convince me in him putting the house in his name only. I asked the solicitor about this in a conveyancing meeting he suggested that a declaration of trust be drawn up and we both arrange percentages and it will be sorted. My ex went nuts at me in front of the solicitor continuing as we left.

I paid for all the renovations to the property as he was in Amsterdam for a week. I had 3 children a part time job and a four bedroom detach to get straight in a week. He returned home on the Saturday evening and by the Sunday morning he was telling me and my children to get out of HIS house. A year later we did as I couldn’t take anymore plus I guess the penny had dropped that he had abused me financially psychologically emotionally and he had abused my children too.

The police let us down, the system let us down its disgusting and nearly 17 years later he still continues to do what he has always done.

He failed to comply with the system when they asked him to pay maintenance.

Meeting another woman, the year I left she stupidly told him she had 40k in the bank as she’d lived with her father for 34 years. They opened a café, put and now have a restaurant. He has been money laundering for years, I have spoken to the tax office, and the child maintenance but to no avail have I ever got anywhere. The system stinks and it’s all wrong, I understand that everyone’s positions are different, but my life and my children’s lives have been affected by this both economically, emotionally and psychologically. It is no joke when your children self-harm due to the rejection of a parent who lives down the road with their new children etc. My ex has the greatest job to not declare, he has catering business, clients, customers, events you name it he has it. All I ever hear is well we can only check his bank account and because he pays himself a wage of £173 per week, he can’t afford to pay any more than £6,20 to his children.

The house I paid for he’s run it into the ground did not pay the mortgage for a year and now its looking at repossession. even though there has been a court order on him to look after and maintain the property since 2016. My journey with this animal is nearly over but what I want to share is that strong women like me who fail to admit defeat will conquer, but it’s the children that suffer, is it any wonder why the children of today are like they are.

Yes, I have well and truly been screwed that’s for sure, I have not been supported by the system in anyway shape or form and neither have my children, its disgusting, isn’t it about time someone re-wrote the laws of todays life not keep using old ones.


  • Sinny says:

    Hate to be harsh, but how dumb are you falling for a con man. Buying a house and putting it in his name? Are you mad?! Lol

    Sorry for your financial loss.

  • educ951 says:

    I’m not sure mad came into it, I think it was more to do with trust to be honest but thank you for your intelligent response, how I love the empathy of the ignorance lol

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