CSA Dudley stitch me up on arrears
My daughter was born on New Years Day 2002.
The mother was in a relationship before we got involved and were trying for a baby. They then split up, we got together and had a child together although not planned..
As soon as the child was born, the mother left me, and carried on her relationship with her ex.. (So they had the child they always wanted)
Anyway – I didn’t pay CSA for 7 years and had arrears of £8000 – bailiffs came knocking, etc etc..
I was speaking to the CSA in Dudley and said I would pay a final settlement figure of the ARREARS ONLY. I offered the mother £4000 – to be in her account the next day…. And that the remaining £4000 would be written off.
She agreed and the money was transfered. A few months pass and here we are again.
The CSA are on the phone saying that the mother wants the remaining £4000 from the arrears and that I have to pay this back (£200 PCM) for 2 years until the debt is cleared. Even though she agreed to a £4000 settlement figure? Apparently she is entilted to this and she can claim the remainder.
WHAT A JOKE…. I’m trying to find out if this is allowed / the case. We had an agreement for christ sake.
CSA are crooks
Spencer
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Your being duped. they are liars and thieves. It is they who want the money, for their performance bonus at xmas! The more they collect (no matter who they con) the bigger bonus they get!
Welcome to the club. I got Stitched up too!
did you get the mothers agreement in writing? if so then they dont have a leg to stand on, try nacsa if not cus hopefully it would be in your dp files and then you would still beable to fight it
Sorry to hear that. An agreement – even one signed in Court by both parties is null and void in the eyes of the CSA.
I'm sorry to hear that too. They are a bunch of devious lying low life scumbags who write the rules as they go along with no consideration to either the nrp or pwc.
Sorry but the Fact is they WILL keep coming untill the child is 19 and make up loads of bollocks amounts of arrears along the way !!
you are not included in the assessment process nor can you challange any amount they come up with
CSA appear to be above contract law, which is ILLEGAL.
this is terrible. sounds to me the mother used you as a sperm doner, she got the baby she longed for and now wants your money too. not content with having a child and taking it away, she wants to takwe your money. sounds terrible , what a awlful woman!
what a calculating biatch. . .i think you've been royally stitched up . .
There are many PWC's motivated by greed…. they include the decietful, incompetent child abusing CSA to gather any sums the CSA can think of… and wait for NRP to fund their retail therapy…Demand their assessment calculations by which they calculate their arrears… I'v bin stitched up too but I'm fighting it… I wont let go till I'v destroyed the CSA's argument and resolved the conflict of details relevant!!!!!
Yep my ex is the same greedy piece of shit that she is – trashed my army career obviously not happy with that now she is trying to rape me financially yet again. Bloody nasty piece of work.
Jesus Craig !!! I feel the same way about my ex. She's a nasty C**tface aswell. After reading some of these statements i would rather be gay and shovel s**t !!! lol.
It winds me up soooo much with the fact I told her I did not want kids a few weeks later she told me she was prganant and was supprized when I called her an effin A hole. then when the bairn came a long she neglected her – so I had to do all of the work. When we split up she made a false rape allegation which ruined my career. She ensured that I could not see my daughter in 2007 she cancelled the claim I think she may have adopted her to her new husband which I am trying to find out now. She has just submitted the claim again – she ran off with her brother in law and was sleeping with another guy at the same time who she is about to marry tell the CSA all of this and they could not give a flying FCUK she is a parasite and needs to be exposed for what she really is and does. After all of this I find it difficult to trust any women I must say being a chutney ferret does not appeal LOL
Sorry to hear that Craig. Twas only jesting about turning to the dark side !!! I do agree on the trust part – defo. However i have been told that not all women are the same.
I know you were joking mate LOL it is enough to push some peole that far though – I know not all women are the same – I have a good un at the moment but this has had a strain on the relationship
Goodness what a terrible situation, I feel for you. But it's a sad fact that there is a ridiculous number of women out there who will accidentally-on-purpose get pregnant regardless of how the man feels about it. This way, they can justify to themselves that it's okay to live off their ex and all those lovely benefits. God forbid they go out, get a job and earn some money to pay towards financially supporting their own children – why would they when the gool old CSA is there? My husband's ex has never paid ONE penny towards the upbringing of her own kids yet we are both working our arses off day in day out only to be shafted by her and the CSA – and we're on the brink of having to sell our beloved home. He has never, ever missed ONE maintenance payment NOR a single weekend visit, birthdays, Christmas, Easter, Summer holidays, not even missed ONE of the mid-week 2 hourly evening visits, but this still isn't enough for the mother and she demands more and more money despite the fact that she has never worked a day in her life. Live your life as a lazy, greedy, bitter WRONG'UN and you're rewarded, do RIGHT by your children, work hard and you're f**ked.
"Live your life as a lazy, greedy, bitter WRONG'UN and you're rewarded, do RIGHT by your children, work hard and you're f**ked."Im putting that on a t-shirt!
The only thing that you can say is that if she advised for the CSA to stop then you should not be accuing arrears – do NOT make any deals with her that has not been authenticated and in writing by the CSA !
They told me that she can re apply at any time which totally sucks if it is the case – @ Tracy I graft my arse off all day whilst that piece of shit gets benefits coming out of her ears. They are wanting me to pay £816 per month which would FCUK me royaly my rent costs £900 pm then there is council tax gas electric water I would not be able to pay for fuel to get to work pay for heating and electric and food as from what I see it is attempted murder. How can these idiots not see common sense If I cant pay to live then I will have to give up work and go on to benefits myself. It must be horrendous for you possibly going to lose your home all of this really makes my blood boil. Some nights I cant get to sleep thinking of what I would like to do to her. She should be put onto life support so I could beat her and bring her back around and beat her again. Not that I would do this but it gives me pleasure thinking about it to keep my sanity- mind you it is bad Karma I should stop thinking that way as I am drinking the poison and waiting for her to die.
Key question: Did she agree to the £4000 in full settlement in writing?
Its a shame that NRP's are forced to fund PWC's retail therapy, consider asking your ex if she is prepared to allow you to purchase clothing and footwear for your child so she doesnt have to worry about that side of things, see if she is willing to compromise so that you are able to financially provide as a fatherbut dont start till she closes her case with CSA…..It shoudnt cost as much as the CSA demand for financial provision..Unfortunately… the greedy selfish arrogant PWC's are prepared to use the CSA as a means of revenge with financial gain for her retail therapy….If it wasnt for the PWC making such claims, there would be no jobs for CSA staff…. Its the PWC who uses the CSA that keeps the CSA in its position to rip off the child and the NRP!!!
Allan, not necessarily, a lot of old cases had agreements and/or court orders in place, but the Csa just came along and ignored them. However the law has now changed, and the csa must now take these into account. ie the MPs admitted that this whole thing was completely wrong in the first place.
My ex who used me as a sperm donor, is now BUYING her house while Im forced to rent. Lazy cow's never done a days work in her life.
I know the feeling
gentlemen please!!!! we arent all graspin gold diggin schemers. i was gold dug by my ex. he persuaded me to have a child .after 7 yrs, i agreed only to find he was after my family home n the equity i had. damn nr made me n his own daughter homeless by goin bankrupt (for the massive sum of .. . £1100) n coz by mistake, he ended up on my title deeds, he got away with it. he only pays £28 pw. yet lives like a king . . has foreign hols every yr manages to run 2 cars, gets take that tickets etc .while his daughter goes without bigtime. please dont tar us all with the same brush guys . .
Hi Foxy, I can confirm that's true, but there is some nasty devious low life's out there who are prepared to take advantage of some people's good nature. LIKE ME !!! Nuff said.
@Foxy Fox not all women are the same it would seem that your ex husband is doing what our ex wives have done to us so I understand where you are coming from. It is because of pieces of shit like him all of us honest hard working guys are getting shafted because we are easy targets for the CSA. There is good and bad on both sides the CSA cause more problems than good. My ex is on benefits will not let me see my daughter made a false rape allegation against me trashed my army career and is up for doing the same again with the job I now have by raping me financially
Hi Spencer,
If bailiffs have been involved, the agency must have obtained a Liability Order. Between which dates did the £8k accrue (as stated on the LO).
Have you been paying regular maintenance since paying the £4000?
chall ~ afairercsaforall.co.uk
Hey guys…
The mother did send confirmation in writing that she would accept £4000. I’ve never seen it – and have tried requesting it numerous times.
I also wrote to my MP just to see if the fact he was an MP might change anything – it didnt…. The CSA wrote to me (after I complained that I was lied to) saying that the £4000 was paid, and then the remainding was “SUSPENDED” their words…. BUT, I was told that it would be written off… mother accepted it would be written off. My father was told it would be written off when he was on the phone to Dudley paying the money scamming mother £4000…..
The £8000 arrears occured between 2002 – 2009
I buried my head and ignored it (silly mistake I know)
They had a L.O order and the bailiff came knocking.. Since paying £4000 I have paid them £300 in total in 2 months…..
They want £200PCM until the debt is cleared –
Hope I can get some more help – and thank you all for your replies.
Spencer
I really think you should get in touch with Nacsa as they will go through everything with you and will advise you of all your options, dont delay though as the situation will just get worse. best of luck
… my ex's took advantage of my kindness and generosity..Now they attempt to theive from me??? got that sorted… now only my children are likely to benefit.. not the PWC being funded for retail therapy..Not all women are the same… niether are all NRP's the same..There is a shafting either way, but clearly by use of CSA in several cases… I'v said the following before… Non compliants and absents will remain just that…. those who are willing to provide for their children are shafted either by PWC or/& CSA..
Dudley CSA – What can i say other than small minded people hidden behind a phone!
My Case: I was in a brief relationship with a woman who i met of the internet no names given but she is a serving member of West Midlands Police Force.
November 2007 – March 2008 We were together and we split up. In January 2009 i was contacted by the mother to say that she had laid pregnant and given birth to our daughter in October 2008.
I was very happy with this news and arranged to have parental responsibility and that i would do everything possible for my daughter. In January 2009 i sent £100 to her Mums Bank Account and each and every month i sent £215 to her mums bank account.
I also went to a buggy shop in Tamworth and bought her a £575 Buggy. In April 2009 the MOTHER decided she wanted more monies of me & demanded £300 per month or i could not see my daughter.
I refused and said that she could take it to the CSA – The CSA contacted me and asked if i was the non resident parent – I advised that i had been informed that i was the parent but that i was not on the childs birth certificate (Something the mother claims she got legal advise not to do so?) I explained my position and asked for a DNA Test to be carried out.
The CSA wrote to me asking that i stump up £400 for a test – Something i could not afford.
In May 2009 they contacted me again and advised that i would need to pay £155 Per Month through them.
June – April 2010 I was unemployed and informed both the mother and the CSA of my situation. When i got offered a new position the CSA then back dated payments taking 40% of my salary until the arrears had been completed.
In November 2010 all my arrears had been completed and i contacted the mother and asked as to why i had paid this amount and i had only seen my daughter twice in the time from being born to this date? I then sought legal advice and contacted her to tell her of such action.
The Mother then had me arrested for threats harrasment and ABH she claims i had hit her 2yrs prior.
I was left in a Police Cell for 12hrs interviewed and released on bail for 6months pending enquiries.
As such the enquiries came to nothing and i was cleared of all in-justifications.
My arrears had been cleared and then Dudley CSA had said they made an error and that i still owed £600 outstanding – They then again took 32% of my salary.
I discussed with the CSA what was an affordable amount at which they agreed.
On Friday of last i had a letter increasing over the next 12months without discussing – My solicitor has tried to contact the CSA and asked for all telephone recordings to be told i have to pay £10 to get this information – As i now deny that i am the father of the child…..The mother has been contaceted by the CSA and asked to have a DNA Test and she has REFUSED…….So why are the CSA thinking this is my child??????
All responses welcome…..
us mothers arn all that bad im still waiting for whats owed to my two children its not evn much either 12pw so im not being greedy im putting it into savings for my children so when they need shoes or chlothes its there as my 4 yr old is in full time school shes going through school shoes at a mad rate and school tshirts but anyway i think its bad that some women can do that to the farthers of theier children its disgusting n u shud defo fight it with csa they r a bunch of pricks anyway ive been waiting 6 months to evn get a payment so it wud b csa’s fault ur geting into arrears get on to them ive been trying for months but still no further forward it costs me too much in credit i hope u get things sorted soon 🙂
well I think women who don’t want the kids dad to be a part ov the kids life has got a cheek to ask for any money and the csa should look into this, If the woman decidesto remove the father from the childs life she don’t want his money!!! she made her choice when she used the child as a wepon!!!, My x pays £20 a week for my 2 and sees them when he wants with out me stopping them, My husbands x wife allowed him to see his 2 after 4 yrs to try and split us up and dictate as to who we could have at our wedding and who we couldn’t or his kids couldn’t come, they ended up not coming as all the invites went out long before she allowed contact! few months later her relationship broke down, she got away with attacking 2 coppers drunk and my hubby wasn’t allowed to see his kids we moved he cancelled dd as he said he’s not paying for something he cant have through no choice of his own csa now want £600 a month with out the arrears lol we have 4 kids to support 2 from my previous and 2 we have together, he brings home 1535 a month full rent full council tax and £400 a month on fuel to get to work looks like he has no other option but to sign on like the x has for the past 17 yrs since having the kids, I have worked through out having kids and I have 4 some women make me mad, best bit is he is a fantastic dad to all 4 ov my kids they are all treated the same, oh well she has alot to answer to in a few yrs time 🙂 by the way they won’t be getting £600 a month outa us, he will pack in work before handing a penny to this drunk woman!
also he was paying her £500 a month through personal agreement this was on top ov her benifits she got greedy went to csa he had to then pay £400 (lol) but had to have it back dated as he had no proof, only that he withdrew £500 but no proof it went into her hands!!!!!! Greedy, I’m happy wiv me £20 for my 2 and if I stopped em seeing their dad I wouldn’t have the cheek to want his money, these women just have kids so they don’t have to work and can live off the state and the poor bloke who got em knocked up
I am disgusted that most of u think fathers shouldnt pay for there child happyenough lieing in bed an makin the baby, how can u be tricked into havin a baby wear a condom :/ i have 3 kids an 1 of which is a previous relationship, he shud pay me 30 pw which is pennys seeing as he earns nearly 700 a week plus bonus he has 2 other children an they walk round in best clothes they bought a big 3 bed house an i council rent his attitude makes me angry ‘why shud i pay 2ward your water an heatin’ dick!! Its not for me its for his 8 yr old daughter who dotes on him think the sun shines out his ass, but i never slag him down 2 her an he does me to her, his new mrs hates me prob cuz im ex an i left him, we had debt togetha which i paid off!! I met a lovely man an we wnt on 2 have our boys he dotes on my daughter, he pays for dance lesson and party an xmas pressent an bday present not her real dad, he wanted her an know just doesnt give a shit, breaks my heart how she cries ova him, anyway rant ova the reason i took him csa was cuz he offered 2 pay me 8 pound a week yep 8 poxy quid out of 700 a week an so we cud set up days for him 2 c’my lil girl which he hardley ever turns up 4 cuz he is busy with his other family now but as for mother takin fathers for a ride i do agree with some mothers r greedy an spend the maintainence of goin out havin a good time thats wrong should go solely 2 the child in my eyes
Oh an 2 add 2 that i work full time so im not wanted his money for me i dont claim not benefits i am a carer which is demanding my husband works full time all im asking for is a little to help with the upbringing of OUR child