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Your paying towards your child so how’s that not deserved?
Well said amanda. The money is for the maintenance of the child.
Ignore the 2 man haters Amanda and Charlotte. They are CSA supporters and therefore will have nothing supportive to give you.
All I can say is, think yourself lucky that you are only milked £100 a month.
I am stung £300 for 1 child.
The likes of above will never get it into their thick heads that most NRP’s on here are here because of the unfair system called CSA and the mothers that just use the kids as cash cows. WE have no problem contributing towards our kids. We have a HUGE problem in that the money is just taken and handed over to the mother to spend as she wants….FUCKING wrong and bang out of order that I have NO say on how or even IF my hard earned money is actually spent on my child as it should be. That’s one gripe that I, and it pisses me off beyond believe, that and the fact it’s not means tested, the skank I married left after just 9 months and took my daughter with her to live with her lover. Both those fuckers work and she gets other benefits on top. WHAT do I get, fuck all is what, accept the privilege of topping up there salaries each month for a daughter the bitch took away from me.
So I guess you might call me angry and slightly bitter and resentful, the later ONLY because I have no say on how my money is spent. The bottom line is this. I absolutely object to my money being used to pay any of their fucking utility bills. That’s their business, not mine. My business is to provide money for my daughter for things like treats, ie the latest shoes, iPad, clothes, school trips, holiday spending money. I object to paying for her everyday needs such as food, roof over her head. THAT should be her responcibiliy and HIS. She didn’t want me around anymore to provide for her and be father to my daughter. And he made sure he was going to get my wife and child. So how the fuck is morally right that I am milked in this nature. I should be able to spend on my daughter as I see fit, as it should be.
Sorry for going off on a tangent there, but thought I’d say it so that the man haters can read before opening theirs mouths to call me a uncaring father, bitter father that resents paying for his kid….HE DOES BECAUSE OF THE WAY IS TAKEN.
Gonk
Maintenance for the child….what a fucking joke…lol…some people really do see the world through rose coloured glasses….lol
Gonk
@ gonk…..you should hear the bile that Charlotte speaks on another post, that if an nrp doesn’t pay then they shouldn’t see the kids….this is what the new system is hopefully trying to destroy from vindictive pwcs….children are not or should not be used as pay for view!!
Hi Jo
Yes I can imagine, already Sussed this charlotte out. She obviously makes a good little earner out of ex’s and the kids she’s had by them. You will get the other men haters telling me that the guys that fathered her kids should have kept their dicks in their pants lol…of cause , the woman never had any say in the issue and was forced to open her legs lol…they are not to blame in any way. Lol
I been called from time to time on here as being a troll but can assure you I am not.
I just voice my opinion and anger on this site when reading some of the garbage these women put up. Not out of the benefit for my own health either, but from experience of being bled for hundreds of pounds each month , just handed over to an……..who quite frankly…don’t fucking deserve a penny off me. She left me to be with another guy, he wanted her, so I say fuck em!!! He’s the man of the house now, he should look after my daughter, he wanted her. I should however be able to spend my money freely however I choose on my daughter, that’s the difference, I do not or would not resent a single penny if I knew it was being spent on my little bean ( her nickname)
Gonk
Jo
It’s disgusting that some pwc’s use the kids as weapons like this.
With some, they limit or deny any access or overnights with dad in order to max out their money making out of the kids.
Gonk
In my opinion they’re actively making themselves single parents, if only they knew what it’s really like…I’ve had no help from my ex and sooner take the offer of him being there for our children than his money, but sadly he doesn’t want to be a dad which is his loss…then I see stories about vindictive exes, my husbands ex being in that category and it makes my blood boil! Ultimately it’s the kids that get fucked up!
I admire you Jo. You see the kids needs for their dad before money signs in your eyes. Sadly your ex’s loss.
What really hacks me off with my ex is that when her other daughter was 18 months old, I came on the scene, I raised her daughter up until the day she left me, so she was 8, and her dad never gave us a single penny towards his daughter. I used to have him in my house at Xmas time for dinner and stop overs, parties, birthdays. I had no issues with him eating our food and drinking my wine.
If my wife not leaving me after just 9 months married ( we been together 8 yrs) wasn’t hurt enough? What really really hurt was she involved the CSA and opened a case against me without even consulting me, but she NEVER filed a claim with the CSA for her other daughters dad. After all I did for her and she treats me like that.
Gonk
@ gonk…sadly I cannot understand your ex’s mentality, she obviously saw £ signs and knew you would be an easy target. I hope in your case your daughter realises what has been done and sees through her mother’s venom and wants to live with you….this happened to my husband and guess what he never claimed against his ex because he had no desire or need to yet the crap his ex and csa have put him and us through is beyond a joke!
Also Gonk, what I had in benefits whilst I worked was plenty enough to survive on….I got more back then than I do now living as a couple with ny husband and children, so the argument that an nrp must pay doesn’t work with me, of course children should be the responsibility of both parents, but I think emotional support outweighs a financial one.
Best of luck to you.
Jesus I wish more women were las understanding and accommodating as you.
Sadly my daughter I feel, has already been poisoned by her mother. My daughter thinks its perfectly ok for her mother to use her as a cash cow. Her mother probably tells her that she gets no money from anywhere,not even from her full time working partner. My daughter actually believes that it’s only my money that keeps her, her sister,her mother and her lover with a roof over their heads and food in their stomachs lol.
Just makes my blood boil that women like her can just put there husbands out with the trash because they don’t want them anymore. ” you have nothing I want” she said, lol…..accept my money..lol….she wanted a new life with a new fella but thinks its morally ok to still rely on the ex for cash, using his daughter as the excuse to get it. I Trully believe that in cases where a woman pushes the man out in favour of another man, and that man goes the extra mile to break up a family, then they deserve no favours by way of cash injection each month from the ex…morally fucking wrong.
It should be my right and privilege to spend whatever I like on my daughter and none of it forced from me and given straight to her grrrrrrrrrr
Gonk
There was a write up in the paper the other day from a child psychologist that children who live with a parent that alienates from the other parent are causing more harm than good. Children are only going along with the residential parents wishes in order not to upset them, it’s a form of manipulation that is used…and also a form of abuse.
How old is your daughter?
I totally agree that the nrp should have a say where the money goes or at least help out in other ways…hopefully this new system will work, but giving csa’s track record I highly doubt it
Just like your situation, this happened to my husband, she was having an affair and moved the guy in…my husband gave her the house, before csa came into force and everything else thinking he was doing best by his children but it still wasn’t enough…his daughter when older, totally saw it for what it was but sadly his son poisoned beyond return…all because his mum used bribery tactics!
All I can say there is light at the end of the tunnel, I know my husband feels he lost a son but I see his son lost a loving father who is a good man.
My mentality is, I can’t miss what I haven’t had and live within my means!
That’s very sad….and yes, what your husbands ex did to him is all so typical of a lot of money grabbers, they never satisfied with what they get.
My daughter is 11 now, her mother took her out of her stable home with her daddy at the age of 3, at first I saw her every other week, the joy in her little eyes when I picked her up on the Fri, and the pain in them when I brought her back on a mon morning used to break my heart. I drove away punching the steering wheel once and in floods of tears watching her in my rear view mirror crying in the doorway , felt soooo angry because this was the result of my selfish wifes actions.
This woman even adandoned her for 5 months and ran back to Germany to be with her dickhead after they split and the girls returned to uk. He came over and she went back with him and left her 2 daughters with her mother and didn’t return until 5 months later.
Gonk
Not seen her in 2 yrs now
Gonk
All the CSA does is destroy parent and child bonds
Gonk
That’s terrible that you’ve not seen your daughter, it makes me so angry as I would give nothing more than my ex to take an interest in his kids….your ex quite happy to take your money though grrrrr!!!
Csa are instructed by those who open a case, but with their constant fuck ups and lies of course it doesn’t help a situation. Certainly not used for the purpose it was set up for!
Your child is only 11, my son is 12….they have no concept of the real world, my son always on the want with no knowledge of money, it’s a nightmare! As your daughter gets older she will start asking questions and put 2 and 2 together, just be there with the answers…your ex can only lie for so long, it will back fire and she will end up with a very angry adult and rightly so…karma!
I believe in Karma Jo and indeed, the bitch is more than happy to take £300 a month from me.. the parasite said to me once, “its not my fault how much you have to pay, I didn’t ask for so much” Hell…but watch her complain bitterly if I won a variation and got it reduced.
the pair of them are laughing their arses off at my expense. just not fair that im forced to hand it over to that parasite
gonk