Child moves in with father and he claims CSA against me!

November 11, 2011

After 1 years of marrage and 3 children my ex decided to trade me in for a new modle. When he left 12 year ago he got The CSA involved and while he has worked the system he did pay regular amounts. I have worked between 5 or 7 jobs part time jobs so I could be home when my children were home and to keep us a float in order to give my children the best start i could. Earlier this year one of my children went to live with her dad, she is in year 11 at school. my eldest who had just gone to university and my youngest who is also in year 11 are still with me. This means we each have a 16 year old with us.

I went back to the CSA to tell them that one of my daughters now lived with him and that I only had the 2 with me and that one would be going to Uni in October. They worked out new payments. he then took voluntary redundency and so his obligation to them was going to be £0. Not a problem after all one of my children was going to uni and we each had one of our children resident with us. this was all worked out on the old sytem

Next thing I know I have a phone call from the CSA Sunday lunch time to tell me that he is making a claim agaist me, they made a rough calculation and I am going to have to pay him about £40 per week. I have to be on the new system as its a new claim.

In all the years when he was going on forign holidays and having new cars new houses, I was struggling to bring up the children with no physical help. Now he gives up a well paid job gets 3 years pay in redundency money and I have to pay him does this seem right?

Also under the new system can anyone tell me if special circumstances can be taken into account under the new system? I have high trael to work costs and I also have had to have a loan for a car which is essential for my work as I have to travel during working hours alot.

Comments

  • Karl Garrett says:

    they dont care, and will try & make you homeless, they are…. well words fail me. You’d be better off unemployed.

  • Terry norris says:

    You not the alone.my wife left me after just nine months married.I brought up her kid from the age of just 18 months and with not a penny of help from her dad.my wife NEVER hounded him for money neither did she ever contact the CSA .
    When she left me for a german and went to live with him in his country,the Germans told her she would get social for the kids but they wanted to know where the fathers were so they could track them down to make them pay for their kids,I had no problem with this until I learned after they called me that my wife had lied to them about my stepdaughters father,telling them she had nothing to do with him and didn’t know where he lived and yet 2 weeks before when in the uk,she took her daughter to see him.the bitch came the Germans my address but protected him…why ? now she’s back in the uk she has done the same thing,filled a claim with these bastards called the CSA ,and I have £320 a month taken from my salary for a daughter I don’t even get to see anymore,but again as before she protects her other daughters father.That asshole still gets away without paying a penny.and I used to have him in my house,feeding him,giving him my wine and even having him over for Christmas and this is how the bitch of an ex treats me.so you are not the only one shit on by an ex and this disgusting unfair,unjust system called the CSA

  • JP says:

    swings and roundabouts, you claim off him he can claim off you I spose :/
    £40 a week seems alot for someone who works part time with 1 other child to support

  • Sarah says:

    I meant 11 years of magage not 1

    Garath yes I would be better off unemployed, but I decided to go to uni so i could get a better job it took me 7 years part time to get my degree while still working and looking after the girls. I now only have to work the 2 jobs (one just because i love it) its not greatly paid (less than £20,000) but I do enjoy it and its what ive always wanted to do. So I am very reluctant to give it up. saying that I have had to take out a car loan as I need a car for the travel I do for the job so its looking like it may have to go. Ive aleready cancelled house and life insurence but still cant make it balance.

    JP What really gets me is that he has just taken voluntary redundency got 3 years wage as a pay out, which the CSA do not take into concideration around £70,000. add that to us both having one of our children eacht doesnt seem right

  • mark says:

    Good for him well done that man

  • Mark K says:

    I also say well done that man, isnt the country and the laws we live under shit when your ex hounds you down LAWFULLY for money, when you don`t actually think it will get spent on your child.

    Why should he not claim off you if he now has one of the children with him, you work you owe maintenance its pretty simple really aint it.

    If the boot was on the other foot and all that

  • Alf Garnet says:

    I also agree. If he is bringing up one of the children without a job and you’re working… well, seems reasonable to me. Does he know how to spell and punctuate? Because, in that case, it also seems that your child is probably better off with him.

  • niki says:

    of course! if you looked after your child how did you get money?? or someone else!! good for him.. life is not easy just partners (separete one) trying difficult to make them!!
    cheers to your ex man!!

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