Can solicitors help us in this matter?
My wife has recently gone through CSA as her ex stopped paying, their mutually agreed, £100pm. CSA were brilliant and had things sorted in a few weeks and let us know she would be entiled to £210pm.
We then recieved a letter the next day informing us that the payments were going to reduce to £140pm as there was a second child who’s mother was claiming. How odd that this person would be claiming at exactly the same time as my wife?!!!
The ex does have another child…with the woman that he lives with and is in a long term relationship with and therefore is not entitled to CSA. I cant belive that a man would deprive his child a few pound a week just to have one over on his ex wife.
CSA informed my wife that he is commiting fraud and they cannot do anything, they gave her the fraud prevention number and the guy at the end of the phone could not be more unhelpful. He is going to get away with this and it makes us sick, he has changed his car three times in the last 2 years and is recently back from a foriegn holiday – but didn’t take my wifes (My step) son but did take his other child – what a father!!!
Please some one hepl with this – what can we do can solicitors help in this matter? i appreciate your help and commnets.
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Grey area……If you are married to the mother and treating the kids as your own and the father has no contact then you should be paying for their upkeep. If the father still has contact then he should be paying his way NOT CSA but Holidays for the kids, days out, cloths……As a father myself who does not have contact with his daughter down to my ex’s aptitude why should I have to pay child support? That is my option.
Grey area……If you are married to the mother and treating the kids as your own and the father has no contact then you should be paying for their upkeep. If the father still has contact then he should be paying his way NOT CSA but Holidays for the kids, days out, cloths……As a father myself who does not have contact with his daughter down to my ex’s atitude why should I have to pay child support? That is my option.
The whole system is not fair and the formula used to calculate payment is part of the problem wih acess to children (less overnight stays with the NRP results in more money for the PWC)..
However, in your situation… the father concerned has TWO children and BOTH children should be treated equally…. if the CSA hadn’t got it wrong in the first place (by informing you of a calculation based on ONE child) then you would have been none the wiser… and got an amount that was based on fact… one father, two children… that is 100% fair!!
I sincerely don’t think he was intentionally trying to deprive one of his children over the other (the one living with you) but he has his own overheads and bills to pay before ANY CSA payments are made..
Involving a solicitor will only cost you money and based on the information you provided, why spend money on a solicitor when you are complaining about getting less money from the childs real father… wouldn’t that money be better spent on the child??
I would do the exact same thing he has done….
So they had a mutually agreed arrangement at £100pm, now you have a CSA ruling at £140pm and you are not happy because they tempted you with £210pm before being enlightened as to their mistake?
Surely you can just be happy that it’s gone up?
What i don’t understand is where your outrage at this sum comes from? Is it based on what you believe this child actually needs as half of his monthly outgoings which should be shared between both parents (i.e. uniform, school lunches, scholol shoes..)? Have you worked that out? Or is it just because you think the ex shouldn;t be able to afford to change his car if he wants to and you want as much of his disposable income as you can get?
What difference does it make what car he has or if he goes on holiday? Surely he’s entitled to have a nice life from his hard work?
Personally, even if we had my partner’s kids 7 nights a week I wouldn’t want a penny from their mum – I’d be happy to pay for them 100% if we were lucky enough to have them live with us. If I were you’d I’d try to appreciate that, otherwise you’re in danger of making this child think you resent him and how much he costs.
Ben at least be thankful you wont get the name calling like the PWC who are female do! Its pretty one way on here that if you are a woman PWC and having problems with child support you get nothing but abuse, apart from a few who will give good advice. Its v.sexist on here on that one.
If you want advice you can join my friends group on facebook child support agencies failings – no name calling, no abusive, no stupid comments.
Its such a shame that this has got to this on here that no one who is a PWC who wants advice will be able to come on here without the abusive and admin shame on you for that doing something about that!
This is meant to be about the problems people are having with the CSA because they cant cope with the job in hand because one parent is playing the system.
Ben Stay wellclear of the child support agencies failings – no name calling, no abusive, no stupid comments.They are full of shit, Evil nasty women whom have want money money momey, Its al about htem and the classic me me me me me me, This so called group is just as corrupt as the CSA The choice lies with you.
Karen I like your reply. I can remember when I needed some advice and all I got was abuse. I am female and the NRP.
I can remember when I was the PWC and went through the CSA I got a fair assessment. My ex went to live with a woman who had a child living with her from her previous marriage whose father was paying her maintenance for that child, fair enough, but the CSA took £20.00 per week off my child, his flesh and blood to support her child, and like I said was getting maintenance for her child from its proper father. I know for a fact that he would have not told her and just put this extra money in is pocket, our daughter was desperate to do extra things, which her child had already had the opertunity to do as the father of her child was very well off. I do not think that was fair. Denying his own flesh and blood over someone elses child. And no I am not an evil nasty woman the father Pete he was the evil nasty person,you do not know each persons personal circumstances and how they come to such outcomes.