Can I take a career break and set my earnings to nil?

37 thoughts on “Can I take a career break and set my earnings to nil?”

1. How was u tricked into conceiving? Or u saying you was raped?

2. regardless of what happened maybe just maybe you should celebrate the fact u have a child + play a part in that.

3. I done the same took a career break and mine went to nil liability!

4. You have a child so you pay until that child is 18 and hopefully independent no matter what your circumstances are!

5. no perhaps like me his ex who he though he could trust and was going to spent the rest of his life with stopped her contraceptive to become pregnant

6. Yes u can but any arrears will just be put on hold until yr working again and its till there 20 now so its not just child support but adult support too x

7. Well bill as a man why do they always think it’s down to a women? Did he not know also how to use contraception? If he knew 100% he didn’t want a kid doesn’t take a genius. So no that ain’t no trick in my eyes just commen sense

8. Isn’t having a child a wonderful thing? Regardless of any deception, you have a child.

9. I had the same shit! My sons dad saying he didn’t consent to making him so y shud he pay 4 him….. well erm u didn’t say no when it come to the sex so he’ll Yh u shud pay for him! Both mum and dad should pay for their kids end of

10. Some people see it as an injustice haveing a kid and have to pay for it these days tho. As if they came for free and live for free, takes two to tango. If these people don’t want kids they should keep there pants on simple or use there heads and commen sense. When people seem to split they seem to think it’s like an end of agreement to look after the child they made I just don’t see how any parent in any sain mind can walk away from a kid and exspect it to raise itself? Some people say they don’t want to pay cos they can’t get to see there kids. But iv never come across anycase where a court would rule that the parent be banned from seeing there kids unles they posed a risk to that child in anyway. Most just use it as an excuse as an opt out option so they can move on. Never a thought of how that innocent child feels in such situations!

11. Cudnt agree more Sarah Louise White heard that to my boys dad told csa I stopped him seeing his son (which I never) my son is 8 and never seen him so I sed I wanted it supervised at 1st till he knows my son but apparently I’m a disgrace for that

12. You are talking out of your backside. Dads (mainly) are routinly banned from seeing THEIR children every day in this country because of lieing bitter nasty vindictive ex’s and I am disgusted that you typed that absolute bobbins. You come across as someone well versed with abusing the system to stop a father seeing HIS child and THEIR father and if you are you should be ashamed and in time those children abused in this way will not thank you for it. Your last sentance is LAUGHABLE.

13. Even if you were tricked you have a child who didnt ask for any of this. Rather than feeling sorry for yourself think about your child be there support him/her,emotionally and financially it’s your job as his/her father.

14. If the roles were reversed what would your opinion be then? Its ALL about power and control. If you were happy to have sex with his dad then you must’ve trusted him…or do you just sleep with anyone/everyone? If you trusted him enough to create a child why would you not trust him to spend time with that child?

15. Martin if there being banned from seeing there kids thru a court then there has to be evidence of a posed risk to that child’s safety. They don’t just go on hearsay! My son’s father could of gone to court for FREE due to DV against the child. for access to my son but he’s been told it would mean he would have a commitment to his child for more then 1hr a week that he gets at the moment which he finds hard to keep to as he gets bored of his kid after 30mins and wants to leave. So from my own experiance it ain’t absolute bobbins. And how is the last sentence laughable? Gues u must be heartless when it comes to the wishes and feelings of a child may feel u honestly sound like someone that puts there feeling above a child’s which is far worse then laughable but disgraceful!

16. I don’t see the original OP saying they won’t support emotionally….

17. Heather hall you don’t pay no matter what your circumstances are! I’ve took a career break and mine has went to nil liability and I’m going into full time education which is still nil liability.

18. well letting a kid now that the dad feel’s tricked into having the child,is what i call emotional ……

19. Has he told the kid that? Do you know that? You are making up feminist twaddle…

20. i dont blame you wanting to take a break but i wouldnt tell them your taking a break just have to make out you dont have a job till your ready to work again i no what its like having stupid amounts of money taken from you from the csa as a partner of nrp my partner needs to take a break but we cant because of household bills but if your in the position to do that i would do it.

21. take it your the shit father trying to defend your own bull shit. he doesnt need to tell the kid he has told the entire internet and reading what has been wrote,the kid will know(kids are really intuitive) you sexist prick

22. You are talking complete and utter garbage…and I suspect from your reply you’ve used the system or wouldn’t think twice about lieing in court like so many bitter ex’s do. I’m a single parent of 2 children with FT PR who went through your “don’t act on hearsay bollox” and heard some of the most disgusting and laughable LIES ever seen and heard in court. Ive been at the end of your “hearsay” and have PR so you can stick your bitter nasty ex “hearsay” where the sun won’t ever shime again. I suspect you have and are teling your child what a great father and role model their dad is..not. He can’t have been THAT bad otherwise you wouldn’t have had sex with him….unless you make a habit of sleeping with losers?? Try going through family court as a man and THEN debate your bobbins with me.

23. I know the court doesn’t go on hearsay and I have been thru the court with my ex I didn’t have to lie when clear evidance was there to why he’s now on probation and suspended sentence and only ever aloud supervised contact with his son and like I said he finds 1 hr a week to much. He works fulltime and does have to pay 32 pounds a week towards his son.. I am also a nrp for my older son who stays with his dad fulltime I also went thru court for access the family court and got 2 hrs a month but I never fail to support my son and pay 50 pounds a week thru csa voluntary towards his upbringing of which his dad said he didn’t want the money so goes into a direct saveings account thru csa. I’m a full time parent I dont work my partner does but still I support my child with his father as a mother should just becos I dont see him as much as I want doesn’t give me the right to say well I don’t want to pay for u.. I made that child and I am liable in my eyes to support my own child that I made wether I see him or not I’ll never disgrudge my sons wishes needs and feelings just becos I feel I can do if I wanted to so yeh iv been in both positions Martin Brammer

24. some of the storie’s on this csa page are horrible. what is CSA for? cos to me it doesn’t look like there helping any body,infact they seem to be making a difficult situation worse for parents and the children (increasing arguments). What can be done to stop this system taking the piss? as a single mother I have never asked or got anything off my children’s bio dad and since he doesnt have any contact with them (his own choice) i dont see why he should pay.children need more than money.

25. Well… i agree with Martin Brammer

26. And the bickering going on here from everyone is precisely the reason the CSA will never get fixed.

    The OP asked a specific question, if you don’t like the question then wind your neck in and move on to a post where you can make a constructive contribution.

27. Pretty sure if you leave your employment as a way to evade paying CSA then they can and will keep the current calculation in place, therefore you would be accruing arrears at the rate of £350 pcm while you are on your break, although I note someone above has stated they got nil assesment for a career break, please dont take this as gospel. I would have thought they will want some kind of proof that it is a break and a date where you will return. The only way you can get round not paying the CSA is become self employed or claim a benefit and pay 5 per week.

28. @ karen, csa will have to prove that to be the case, which last time they told me was difficult to enforce….also he could say friends and family were supporting him which he doesn’t have to prove apparently either way apparently and assessed as nil.

29. Thanks for all of the replies, well the sensible ones anyway ;-). I wasn’t raped Sarah Louise White but I was naive to trust someone who not only tells me she’s on the pill and makes a point of taking pills (not the contraceptive pill, as I found to be the case later) whilst I was there, only to then say she lied about that from the start and used me to get pregnant. Whats worse is that when I started seeing this girl we discussed the whole child thing and she knew implicitly that I did not want any and we both agreed. It wasn’t a one night stand so your argument that the man should use a condom is pathetic, do both yourself and your partner use contraceptive at the same time?? TRUST?
    Seems too many people on these sites are quick to judge the NRP without knowing the circumstances surrounding the situation. I have had my whole life changed because of one selfish persons actions and I have to pay for being nothing more than a sperm donor. Not only has she done it to me but a year later she did the same thing again, she has even done it to her now husband who said he didn’t want any more children.
    I have never had any contact with the child nor do I ever want any, I am not her dad merely a meal ticket for the mother who abuses the system like so many others.

30. @ csahater, totally agree, in a relationship it should be about trust but unfortunately if a woman wants a baby she’ll have one and sod the consequences, just the poor kids stuck in the middle of it, they’re also the victims.

31. Someone has said in a reply above that you have to support the child untill their 18, I was under the impression this had been raised to 21? ie you will be paying CSA untill the ‘child’ is 21 if they are not in employment

32. Corryn, they pay till they are twenty, my step daughter is 20 in october got to pay till end of november cos she is in college.

33. @ Sarah Louise White
    You really are the piece of s**t I always thought. You really have a serious axe to grind with the men on here ain’t you. Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit and seems you are full it. I can’t even begin to start on some of the comments you come out with on this site.why don’t you go to hell.
    Look out guys all of us. What ever your story,whatever your plight, don’t matter what precautions you took, don’t matter if we’re we’re tricked, don’t matter if you pleaded with the ex because of a unplanned child and you really not prepared, don’t matter if the ex is in the wrong and screwd u over for another man,don’t matter, if you have no money and at your wits end, don’t matter if the ex don’t allow you to see your kid.
    If you are a man posting on here…LOOK OUT…DON’T EXPECT ANY SYMPATHY FROM THE MAN HATER Sarah Louise White.
    As far as she’s concerned,if you are a man and a Nrp, you should have kept it in your trousers…end of…done and dusted. Nasty b***ch grrrrrrrr
    Gonk

34. @csahater
    totally on your side mate unlike like this b**tch sarah louise white. she will read your comment but you will still be your fault ,you will still be in the wrong…you cannot do right, you cannot be right because you are a man and this b**tch hates men. Yes I choose my words carefully, they fit you to a “T” White for your pathetic summing up of nrp’s…those that are men only..lol
    And Jo…you are so right…if the woman wants a baby…she will have it…F**k the consequences and f**k the donor of the sperm…he has no say in the matter,as far this b**ch is concerned, but sure as hell expected to pay, wrong, totally wrong,why should a man be held to ransom like this.
    gonk

35. Ah thanks for clarifying that for me Jane thomas, only 14 years for us to go then lol!

36. How is it that the CSA won’t change people from the old system to the new yet if any changes come in to force such as the nrp having to pay for longer, then these rules apply to everyone?

37. sarah you are talking out of youre a ss fathers are denied access by vindictive ex wives they don’t care if they break a court order by denying access because they can! court orders are a waste of time when judges don’t follow it up with a punishment. These ex’s exist my husband was married to the most bitter woman the lowest of the low she has alienated his children for the past 9 years and has been paid a very good amount of maintenance every month! so you chat shit as usual from a one sided view!