Can I see my children if I pay the CSA?
Hi, hoping for a bit of advice.
Me and my ex split almost 2 years ago we have 3 children, my ex finished it so after a while i moved on and started seeing someone else.
Then inturn she stopped me from seeing my kids ( yep she’s a spitefull weirdo, think most blokes know what im on about), but then applied for csa after 1 year of not letting me see my children.
I was on jsa and had 3 different statements asking for different amounts (of which some ridiculous), so contacted them and they said i owed them nothing, but now i do again, im confused. I’ve just started work this week and offered to pay her directly to save the csa makeing anymore cock ups but she is saying there is too many forms to fill out and they would stop her benefits while they investigated or some crap, and im just wondering why do women think its ok to stop a dad seeing their kids (which is not fair or in the best interest for the children) for no reason but think its ok to take money off the dads for the best interest of their kids, is there anything i can do?
I’d like to pay for my children but she wont see reason and the csa are shite.
Just feels like im being bent over a barrel and shafted in any which direction.
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sorry to say it…but you shafted. You have testicles, therefore you are WRONG in the eyes of the CSA.
Just keep EVERYTHING in writing and signed for, speak to no one, and hope for dear god the kids aren’t getting to “poisoned”. If you in the CSA (like me) then your in for a long haul….
The payment figures are extortinate, which is why so many people try to avoid them, it’s quite simple.
I can only afford to speak to my boys on the phone, as the CSA won’t take into consideration the 400 mile round trip to see them!.
Such is life I suppose.. I’ll be free once I’m dead… 🙂
Firstly just wanted to say, not all women are like that 🙂 I don’t get a penny from my ex, but have never stopped him seeing them because he doesn’t pay/has a new gf/whatever. In my case their Dad is the spiteful weirdo!
From reading the stuff on this site, the CSA only target the one’s that are trying to do what’s best for their kids and rip them off/give them nothing, yet the good guys like yourself, get completely shafted, and the good girls, like me 🙂 get shafted too…
Anyway, she’s talking utter garbage, if she’s on benefit’s, and she’s getting money from you through the CSA, she won’t get it all, there will be no investigation on her side other than to find out she’s on benefit’s, in which case, the amount she gets would be capped, the rest would go to the government. If you gave her the money direct, she’d be able to keep it (I think, not sure as you’d obviously want proof your paying her) if not, you could buy them clothes, uniform’s, or whatever she intends to use the CSA money for.
Agree with Karl, any money you giver her, do it through a bank account, or get her to sign for it (not very pleasant, but she sounds like she’d take it then ask CSA for more!)
Get to a solicitor for access to your kids too, unless you’ve beat them up or done them any harm, the court will always thing it’s in the kids best interest to have a relationship with their Father.
Good luck 🙂
I have 2 children which I pay my ex husband, he has now moved to weymonth, and is now making it impossible and doing all he can for me not to see my own children, the csa dont care as long as they are getting thier money, thought they where suppose to care about the children NOT the money!!!! Not seeing your own children is the worse thing in the world, it’s like your heart is torn out.
Yes my husbands ex did that as well – fought through the courts – cost us £3500 and she lied and ended up getting her own way – it doesn’t automatically get you access to your kids but you should get in touch with a solicitor and see what your options are.
Bear in mind one thing – if the mother is evil enough to prime the children – depends obviously what age they are then if the child says they don’t want to see you then it won’t matter that the judge thinks its better to have access to both parents. We are examples of that. Just don’t get your hopes up – my husbands ex wife knew how the play the system and made her own Son lie to a doctor and in court. He was 9 at the time – an influential age when you are being driven by the equivalent of the devil. I wish you the best of luck.
CSA don’t take material equivalents i.e. if you buy them school uniform or shoes, clothes and toys. They take what they want and then if you happen to have any money left you can buy things from that. Sorry to sound so pessimistic only we have had nothing but injustice and grief throughout our lives and it gets you that way. We are good, decent people but for that you get walked all over……..