Can I make the CSA pay me and hold the debt against my inconsistent ex?

March 15, 2013

My ex husband is only now paying the arrears due on his account for our sons ages 25 and 22 this is how long it has taken since we split when my youngest was only 1 yes i said ONE. Now he is paying arrears by Court order and Arrestment of Salary orders he is still able to dodge the odd month like this month by claiming he has not earned any money although he works for a government department they believe him.

Last November it was he was dying in hospital seriously ill but was able to pay the following month. total load of rubbish. What can i do. I hear there is a way of making the CSA pay me my money and leave it to them to hold the debt against him. Does anyone know if this is true?

Comments

  • Lisa says:

    Omg another bloody drain, what is about women like you, your “children” are now grown adults, have you ever thought maybe he didt want them, maybe he camt afford it, the csa are nasty pieces of work, seems to me like your just after a few quid, get a grip, if anything the boys should be getting the money not you, its all me me me, its women like you who make the csa what it is, your a disgrace

  • wilf says:

    Carolanne:- No it is not true.

  • carolanne brown says:

    Who the hell do you Pete Peter and Lisa think you are.

    You DO NOT Know ME and my circumstances. Where did you get the idea I do not work or have never worked. Who said he did not want the children considering he has quite a few more up an down the country.

    THIS IS A DEBT HE RAN UP NOT PAYING HIS SHARE FOR HIS CHILDREN AND LIKE US ALL HE HAS TO PAY IT. I would love to not pay my bills.

    And for your infomation it is not MONEY MONEY MONEY it is about HIS RESPONSIBILTY TO PAY FOR HIS CHILDREN. IF HE DID NOT WANT THEM HE SHOULD HAVE NOT HAD SO MANY RUNNING UP AND DOWN THE COUNTRY.

    I SHOULD HAVE LISTENED WHEN 99% OR PEOPLE TOLD ME NOT TO MARRY HIM.

    SO UNTIL YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT SHUT UP PETE, PETER AND LISA. JEALOUS I DONT THINK SO HAVE A BETTER LIFE THAN ANY POOR BITCH THAT TAKES UP WITH HIM.

  • lisa says:

    You came here for advice you got it!!!! You truly are scum of the earth, expecting the CSA to give you the money and chase him, its people like you that give good mums a bad name, do yourself a favour and grow up, your sons are grown men, your ex owes you nothing, absolutly nothing, the CSA should close your case and thats that, Child benefit isnt in payment, why should you benefit from him working and you living it up, you selfish bitch

  • carolanne brown says:

    Lisa. I came here for advice on a particular subject NOT FOR SOME IDIOT UNEDUCATED FEMALE HATING MAN IN A WOMANS BODY to write abusive messages to me. MY EX owes my sons this money and he should pay it. You obviously have no idea what you talking about or you really are a man who has had to pay disguissing himself as a female or maybe wish you were. I feel sorry if you do have any children what kind of warped minds do they have. Unless you can answer peoples questions with some civility or sense you should cut you go lock yourself in a cupboard and give us all a break. This is the last i will respond to you stupid uneducated person, write one more obusive message I will be passing it to the appropriate department. AND BEFORE YOU SAY ANYMORE I DO THINK PEOPLE WHETHER THEY STUPID LIKE YOU OR NOT HAVE A RIGHT TO HAVE THEIR SAY.

  • lisa says:

    Your kids are grown up you dont need the CSA, while you are wasting resources by trying to still take your ex for what you can, there are genuine people out there who really do need the CSA help,(not that anybody with half a brain would use them) you really are more stupid than what i thought, uneducated no, female hating man in a womans body definitly not!!!! Been through more with the CSA in all these years than i care to talk about, its people like you who cause people like me and the other poor blokes who struggle to survive every week the problems that we have because you cant move on with life and still want want want!!!! Now anymore shite that you would like to spout, If it was the case that you are recovering money for your sons, then why are your sons not opening a case against there father and spending the money themselves instead of it being put in your account?????? Speaks volumes do you not think, The government dept he works for obviously stay one step ahead and like normal firms who also hate the CSA let the poor bloke keep his money, at this time in his life he is well entitled

  • lisa says:

    The answer you was looking for is NO they cant pay you and take it from him,

  • carolanne brown says:

    WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU A MEDIUM
    How the hell can you know what age he is where the money is paid to what is bought or paid for with the money. No you don’t so you cannot judge or say he should not be paying it.
    For you information I was not the one who says he owes the money the CSA decided he had to repay all the years he had refused to pay and his fault for not paying in the first place.
    His sons are the ones suffering in this modern day they need the financial support of both parents to help them get on their feet and please explain what right does anybody have not to pay what they are due.

  • lisa says:

    Since YOU are his EX, you dont assume to know all about his life, his account balance, how much his CARS/HOUSE etc are worth, when you became his ex you had no right to know anything about his lifestyle work or otherwise, Have you any idea how many men have commited suicide because of women like you who make presumptions about there ex,s lifestyle and only after the poor guys death has it come out that actually they were wrong, thats what makes me so mad about your post, do yourself a favour and get on with your life, piss poor do your still chasing CSA 7 years after your eldest became a man

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