All ex wants is money when I want to be part of my child’s life
Just after a bit of advice and/or help please =)I’m 28, bit of a geek – but hey I look like Chad Michael Murray =)
About 7 years ago I stupidly slept with a lady who blatantly said she was on birth control (yes I know, what an idiot – being a trusting man).
Lo and behold she fell pregnant, she avoiding telling me, or indeed talking to me at all, until about month 4 of the pregnancy. I have seen the little boy twice and have had no input, not that she would let me! I have no legal responsibility, no say in any part of his life but I have a financial obligation.
I was already a single dad at that point, having lost my fiance, working full time with my daughter in nursery. I can only assume she thought this would make me a good candidate for a “live away dad”.
The lady in question was in a lot of financial trouble – which she then got out of as she could claim lots of single parent benefits!! And evidently since then she has used the CSA.
I begged her, cried at her, pleaded with her to make it stop. I was struggling so much with the amount they took from me and my daughter. I had to leave full time employment and get a part time job just to feed ourselves. (only in the UK could you work less but be better off!)
I have now recently married (well 3 years ago) and had 2 children with my wife. We try to have a good life, but the children that live with us miss out on so much. The Christmas before last we had to make all of our presents.
I feel like such a waste of a man, such an excuse of a human being. I’ve had three nervous breakdowns – the last being quite public, I ended up on channel 4 being a Superhero in 2011.
I would have loved to be a part of this childs life, but all she wanted was the money and the opportunity to get a “free loaders” life.
I am just so sick of bringing down 4 other people with this.
It just makes me so sad, when our children ask us for a bike or a holiday or even a game and we (I) have to say no we (I) can’t afford it.
If I left the country, would they drop it and leave my family alone?
If I became homeless, would they drop it and leave my family alone?
If I kill myself, would they drop it and leave my family alone?
These are the only three options I can think of, to help my family…
Any one else got any ideas?
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“If I left the country, would they drop it and leave my family alone?”
Depends on what country, and if you feel like the following statements below, then indeed look into it.
“If I became homeless, would they drop it and leave my family alone?”
Probably not, they would be waiting to see your NI number flash upon the screen the minute you found an address or a minium wage job, and wham, be back on your case again. Compassion is not a word within the governments vocabularly.
“If I kill myself, would they drop it and leave my family alone?”
Yes
“These are the only three options I can think of, to help my family…”
What a sad statement of our times. Committing suicide so that the rest of the family may be able to enjoy life….but they wont, your wife will lose out on her husband, her lover, and the children you both created in that love will lose a dad, and part of their mum, with you. You are not a waste of a man, nor an excuse for one…do not shoulder the blame for an evil dictatorshit, known as our government. Sorry they are not mine, I did not vote for them. Or any of their colours.
I hear from my uncle and aunt down under, that, Austrailia is becoming just like Britain.
Any one else got any ideas?