Wife ran off to Australia with my child, now CSA hounds me for money

October 3, 2012

About two years ago my wife told me that she wanted a holiday to Australia to see her family. Both myself and out 9 month old baby boy flew out there for a 2 week break.

After the end of the 2 weeks, my wife ask me if she could stay for another 2 weeks to catch up with old friends that she had not had time to been whilst we had been there.

Considering that I believed there was no problem with my marriage, I told her that it would be hard to spend two weeks apart, and I had never gone longer than 8 hours without seeing my son….. but if it made her happy..i’d be happy.

You can guess whats coming….

After 2 weeks she telephoned me in Europe and told me she had no intention of returning……I was devastated.

After waiting for 2 months in the hope it was just a knee-jerk reaction or her just having a “wobble” I consulted a lawyer (especially after finding her profile on multiple Australian dating websites)

My lawyer told me that as consent was not given for my son to be retained in Australia, that under the Hague Convention she was guilt of child abduction and be returned to Europe with my son, arrested and charged.

I informed her of this, and her reply to me was that she did not want to return, but she would sponsor my spousal visa so that at least I could live and work in the same country as my son and have a relationship with him.

What she actually did during this time was to go and visit a feminist man-hating lawyer who informed her that if she went to court and told them that I repeatedly beat her, raped her and “interfered” with my son… she would not be deported……..so thats exactly what she did.!!!

Whilst this was going on, I had already decided that deporting her was not in the “best interest of my son” so I informed her that I would like to take up her offer of a spousal visa.

It was at this time she told me the actions she had taken and that she would not be deported and she had taken a DVO out against me.

I emailed her begging for her to help me, and to tell her I had secured a job in a completely different State to her and would she consider helping me with a spousal visa.

She then used this email to raise a complaint of harassment,a breach of DVO and reported me to the courts and Immigration authorities for illegally trying to obtain a visa (you cannot get a spousal visa if you are legally separated, and I did not know she had formally declared separation to the courts)

She then proceeded to tell me that she would drop all charges if I bought her a new house and a new car, and that if I did not she would make sure I never see my son again.

I told her that I could not afford my own house, let alone one for her!!! I told her that she had made a conscious and planned decision to leave the country and move to a place where she had no job, no house, no money and no car…….she had no right to complain that she now had no house/job/money car!

Anyway, things went quiet for a while and I managed to get out to Australia to see my son for 8 days…. on day 2 she demanded $10,000. I told her I didnt have access to that kind of money abroad, so she told me that I had to withdrawal the maximum amount each day from my ATM in order to see my son for the remainder of my trip from the UK to Australia..(Pay-Per-View!!)

I told her I could not as my money had been spent on flights, hotels and hire cars.

There and then, right in front of me she phoned the police and claimed that I had attacked her..They arrived, grabbed me, handcuffed me and threw me in a police car and took me to a police station….right in front of my crying baby boy.

They told me that until the allegation was heard in court the following month, I was not allowed anywhere near her.

I told the police that I have custody rights to see my son, but unfortunately my wife had to be present…… the police told me I had no chance and may as well go back to the UK…..so I flew home the next day after seeing my son twice for 2 hours.

She has since made additional claims that I have breached the DVO (even though she is in Oz and I am in UK).

Anyway, she recently informed me, that much to her delight, I will never be granted a tourist visa to enter Australia and will be denied a work visa due to her insistence on lodging bogus claims against me in order to punish me.

So now, I will not be able to see my only son until he is over 17… and that is IF he decides to come and see me. Considering the nature of my ex-wife and the lies she tells to anyone that cares to listen I will not be surprised if he never wants to meet his father.

To put things into perspective let me just state the following:

1. I have another daughter who I have faithfully made payments for over 15 years. On top of this, I have bought her a race horse, a car, laptops,Iphones,iPads,LCD TV’s and many exotic holidays. I speak to her most weeks and saw her every weekend whilst i was in the UK.

2. I gave up everything to move to Singapore so that I would only have a 7 hour flight to see my son…I have now been sat in Singapore for almost 2 years hoping she will change her approach, but it would seem she has an infinite capacity for hate, anger and spitefulness.
Considering I cannot enter Australia I am moving back to the UK.

She is now going to court to chase for child maintenance, spousal support and anything else she thinks she can get.

I have offered Child support, and payed her $600 every time she allowed me to see my son. She has rejected my offer of a private agreement as she has demanded 4x the value of what I currently pay for my daughter (who is now starting college)

I made the point that my daughter is more expensive due to her age, and my offer is not only generous but also the easiest option to close this matter……..but no, going through the courts is yet another way to punish me from a distance!!!!!

The way she has been behaving, anyone would think I had slept with her mother or sister!! (heaven forbid…they are both disgusting creatures). And considering it was her choice to leave i am completely at a loss as to why the hell she is behaving like this and where all the anger is coming from!!!!!!!

Anyway….I now expect a court order and REMO sent through to the UK and for me to be ripped apart by the CSA…..lucky me

Just to finish my rant, I am disillusioned and disgusted with the law…especially when women use DVO’s purely as a tool for punishment. They do not need ANY proof, and an allegation is enough. It’s a travesty to the women who genuinely need help by those who are just hateful bitches.

SO apart from being vilified by way of DVO’s, Im now going to get financially raped by the CSA for a child I can never see until he is an adult..

(And before any women reply on the financial welfare of my son, I offered to pay an amount which is many times the national average…..Her parents are Millionaires and encouraged her to leave…my son will go will go without nothing. The amount that got rejected by the greedy ex will be placed in a trust for for my son for him to spend as he see’s fit)

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