The CSA should be shut down
I for one would love the CSA to be shut down so that way my Ex can stop using them as a theat to get what ever she wants from me.
We had an agreement in place I would pay £80 per month and had it set as standing order so I have proof of payment.
She recently decided to leave Bristol and move down to Devon with her new BoyFriend who she has only been wit for 5 months and enrol my 3 year old Son into a new school. That would all be fine if she talked to me about it first rather than wait till 4 days she is about to move to tell me this through FaceBook.
On top of that she then said I can only have m Son every other weekend instead of every week and that I would have to do all the travelling.
And on op of all that demanding that I pay her more maintainence.
Undouptably I was most unhappy about all of this and expressed my opinions but in the end I said I would increase the mainainence to £100 per month providing that one weekend I have my Son I would pick him up and the other weekend she drops him off at mine and then picks him up because I cant afford to do both.
She failed to see that was reasonable and went straight to the CSA.
I spoke to the CSA and I gave them my income over the phone and they calculated it would be £23 per week and they take traveling cost into it too.
so I thought happy days I’m better off with that untill I just got off the phone with them and they want my income details since May last year which is going to really screw me over abit. I am self employed and last year I was on £1500 per month before tax but my contract hours has just been reduced 2 months ago so I only take £850 before tax.
But because they will average my income based on an income I am no longer on it will look like I will now have to pay about £50 per week which I really cannot afford.
I have tried to be reasonable with the Ex and I love my Son to bits and when I see him I always try to treat him to day trips etc when I can. I have never missed a payment on the maintainence and support my Ex before she even got pregnant.
But now because of well to be honest it was all her own selfish decision, I may be screwed by the CSA and as a result may not even be able to afford to see my Son anymore because of the traveling costs and then be classed as a deadbeat dad which I do not want.
Anyone with advise would be great I am getting quite stressed about this and cannot find much help on the web. All I have found is ranting women throwing abuse at fathers because they canot seem to see it from our point of view.
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I am so sorry to read about your ex playing god with your Sons life. My parners ex tried to do the same thing luckily he found out before she moved and fought her in court for custody of his 2 children. He won and they now live with us. I’m not saying this is possible for all men to do but she has no right to take your son away from a loving and caring father. My suggestion would be go to court and get a hearing in place for visitaion right and arrangments. In my very recent experience most judges will say that travel should be shared 50/50 between both parents. Especially as she has chossen to move away.
Good luck with it all xx
A.S.A.P.
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She’s just being a typical ex. You must do ALL the travelling and pay up, big time!
You comment, most judges will say travel is 50/50, is unfortunately untrue. The only way you’ll get that is if it was in a negotiated Court agreement when you separated, and then you could even have had, the person that moves must do all the travelling. Seen both, but more often the father just ends up with it if he wants to see his children.
Again, every other weekend is the usual, plus half of school holidays. And when distances become greater then contact may reduce to one in 3 or 4 weekends.
Do not talk to the CSA on the phone, any correspondence must be in writing, and I mean writing not email. That way you have a proper paper trail of what is going on. Otherwise your conversations will be twisted to what they want.
They need at least three payslips, they do not need to go back to last year. And if they still say they want them, tell them that they are not a fair reflection of your current circumstances.
Can you come join us on Facebook? CsaHell on Facebook is down at the moment so for the moment we are discussing on Against the Csa on Facebook, or if you need help with contact you can go to Separated Dads or Dads with Kids, both on Facebook.
Hi Chris
Sorry to read about your awful situation with the ex. I agree the csa should be shut down but for a different reason. They faked a DNA test result to get money from me for a child they know isn’t mine, I accused them of this over the phone, the woman hung up without answering me. The trouble is (as sure as I am about my evidence) I don’t know if It’ll stand up in court.
Good luck with your situation
Kevin in London
i have two young boys with a very bitter ex.i have taken her to court on numerous occasions as she has kept my children from me every time she feels like it for over 3 years.she has met a new partner and has another child now too but continues to keep playing games at every opportunity when i dont do as she wants.i have been unemployed for 8 months as every time i try to better my financial situation so i am able to provide and do nice things for my children,she makes claims to the csa to damage any opportunity i get to try and better my childrens life and my own.i have a court order now in place where i have my children 5 days out of 14,and more than provide for them when they are with me.i do all the travelling and do everything for my boys and im the only one who does things with them both.i am finding it impossible to be able to work because of the claims she keeps making all the time when i try to,but i want to know if i have to pay her csa payments when i have the children nearly half as much as she does.