Shared custody yet still I pay CSA

February 17, 2012

I’m in the same boat as a few others on this website. My ex-wife and I share my daughter 50/50. Split like I have her Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday one week, then Tuesday, Thursday the next week. So in effect every other day and every other weekend.

My ex-wife had numerous affairs, I finally had enough and moved ou. I’ve ALWAYS had contacy with my daughter and have paid my way. My ex gets all the child benifit and I have just as much expenditure with regards to the upkeep of my daughter, as she does. Yet I still have to pay her a couple of hundred pounds a month.

As far as I can make out, she doesn’t get enough school uniform a month to justify the money. Her sports clubs, of which I still pay half, don’t cost that much. I still have to pay for food and the clothes she wears when she’s with me. So how can the CSA justify making me pay anything??

I can understand absent fathers, the ones who have nothing to do with their children, having to pay out but fathers like us?? It’s almost as though we’re subsidising them. I know for a fact that my exwife and her new man have just paid for a holidy using the money I give her and my daughter isn’t going with them!!

I do feel like we are a silent voice to the CSA. We actually WANT to support our children. So why aren’t we allowed to alone, instead of by proxy through our ex partners?

Can ANYONE offer any advice??


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