My kids have holes in their shoes, no coats and their clothes don’t fit – where does my money go?

April 8, 2013

Where do i start?.. my partner has two children with ex and two that live with us, we have the children every fortnight.. half terms.. we do travel to collect them thats 140 mile to collect them and bring them back and another 140 mile to take them home.. and csa want 400 pound a month!!

It is ridiuclous money. How is my family supposed to live..i have to take my son on the bus to school which is 100 pound a month and whats worse it the PWC doesnt have to pay rent or bills as they live with mother and works full time, im all for paying for your kids but what i dont get is where the moeny goes. Every two weeks the children have holes in their shoes, dont have a coat, clothes too small and yet we are left to pay all this money in CSA petrol and have to buy them stuff as the mother cant look after them.. how is this justifiable?

Comments

  • chall says:

    Liza90,

    Have you applied for a variation for contact costs?

  • nicole brumskill says:

    Why on earth wouldnt your ex have to pay for his children if these children lived with you it would cost u a lot more than 400 pound to provide everything needed . If you dont like it you shouldnt have gone out with someone with children he fatherd two other children and he should pay towards the cost of them and in the long scheme of things 400 pound is nothing compared to the cost of bringing children up .

  • liza says:

    just so you are all aware we now have custody of these children, due to social services involvement, and why should he pay 400 a month for her to spend money on drugs and drink why the kids walk round like this, maybe you should think before you open your mouth, we were paying all this money for what.. the kids to suffer? maybe you should think before you write comment like that.. i know the cost of bringing up children but obviously you are the same as the mother interested in what she can get instead of providing for the kids.

  • nicole says:

    Excuse me I put my children first I don’t drink or smoke or have nights my children are well dressed I was pointing out that your husband had two children and he should pay for them why should men not pay for children he had with another partner before you maybe you should think about that hey so what your saying is father’s should pay for children they had and left

  • nicole says:

    Something else I had my children while being married my husband had an affair so I need the money he provides to look after his children so am not just interested in what I can get that’s a really silly comment again men that leave have a duty to pay towards the children that they had

  • anon says:

    @ chall – variation would not be applicable as the travel expenses are incurred at a time when there is shared care.

    On the original point, the most frustrating this is that the CSA have NO control over where the money is spent. It is paid to the household and forms part of income which would be used for everyday living (rent, food, clothes, utilities), however in this instance it would almost seem that either the money is being used improperly or the purchases for the kids are kept at their mothers house.

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