I am in favour of the CSA – I think they’re great

March 24, 2013

I think the CSA is a good thing. My husband left me and my two daughters to fend for ourselves for 18 years with no help while he was always out drinking and having a good time wearing the best of clothes.

I worked hard at my job and paid everything for the girls. He promised to pay money but payed nothing and even complained about the petrol he had to spend to visit them.

I even bailed him out on one occasion with no thanks. He would have had to pay 20% approximately of his take home pay leaving him with 80% which doesn’t seem so bad. A lot of NRP just won’t help if they are not made to. I just wish I hadn’t been so gullable.

I just don’t know how a NRP can sit back and allow the other person to take all the financial burden.

Comments

  • Carol says:

    Most people on this site are not against an nrp not paying maintenance but the tactics used by the Agency. Most nrp’s here do pay then the Agency say there are arrears and whenever you have complaints against the Agency it’s never sorted out.

    The Agency are abusing their powers. When CSA tell you there are arrears they then take 40% of the nrp net salary, even when you disagree.

    I personally do not see why every tax payer in the UK should pay for this Agency, especially in the current economic climate. Powers should be handed back to the Courts

    Did you use the Agency to collect maintenance for you?

  • Pete says:

    ? Are you for real, or is this some sort of sick joke, So you love thie csa,
    Let me tell you, Is it justifed that NRPs who have comitted suicide due to them being financialy raped,
    2. Is it justifiable that an NRP to loose his House,
    3. Is it jusifiable that a PWC stops the child/children from seeing the absent Parent.
    4. Is it jusifibale that the CSA tell NRP to go and jump of a bulding.
    5. Is it justifiable that the CSA can bully, Lie, make up false arrears, input wrong information,
    The list is endless as to what this corrupt, not fit for purpose can do to any NRP or PWC.
    and what about the CSA staff member whom put funds in to her own account, Bet you did not read about that one did you.
    If you love the CSA, well all i can say to you, Is go and sahve that hair off your top lip, Or stop talking like a cunt.

  • stuart says:

    I just don’t know how a NRP can sit back and allow the other person to take all the financial burden.

    Yup lets tar all NRP’s with the same brush, ever thought of working for the CSA?

  • carol says:

    I just dont know how PWC’s can use children as pawns in order to hurt, manipulate, destroy a person (NRP) because they are still resentful and havent moved on.

    OP, yes I know its hard bringing up kids on your own, but the state do help. You didnt say if he let you and kids have house…or whatever.

    You didnt say how far he had to travel …because even living 30 miles away, is a 60 mile round journey…and yes that soon adds up.

    If you think 20% is fair, then you fail to add to that tax and NI…certainly not left with 80% wages. Which makes me question what planet you are on, and if you really do have a job yourself.

    But as long as you love the CSA…you will enjoy the karma truck thats coming to all those who perpetuate in this sick STEALth tax that detroys lives of parents and children alike.

  • Jo says:

    To the OP…….im a pwc and think csa are shit, im also an nrpw and still think they are shit!

  • KMcQ80 says:

    You may think the CSA is great but I can’t say the same about your choice of father for your children.
    The point here is that the father of your children is lowlife, regardless of their being a CSA or not.

    Let this be a lesson for girls and younger women who like ‘bad boys’.

  • carol says:

    sometimes KMcQ80…the mask doesnt slip until its too late. My ex…nicest guy you could ever want to meet, helpful, polite, the lot….but behind closed doors, the abuse was slowly but surely upped bit by bit. Took a long while to come round from it, was already pregnant by then.

    Our partners can be so good at keeping up the facade you dont know about any of it until they decide to leave you and show you their true side…we should learn from it and listen to our gut in future x

  • lisa says:

    @ Carol
    Never a truer word spoke

  • Madeline T says:

    Yes it was a very bad choice of partner as KMcQ80 mentioned. He only had to travel 3 miles. There was no house to receive as we lived in rented accomodation, I work as a university lecturer and pay much more than 20% each month for upkeep. I wasn’t tryng to manipulate x partner as I only claimed CSA after children were 18 and 12 years old. I now receive 10 pounds for both children every 2 weeks which is enough to make X realise that he at least has some financial responsibilities. The CSA helped me and I thought they did a good job. I am wrong to say that NRP are all the same as this is clearly not the case. To be honest I salute all NRP that pay maintenance for their children and parents should somehow try to work things out.

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