Heartless CSA has failed me and my wife

Five years ago I dated a girl she seemed lovely and then one day she disappeared. I later met someone fell in love and got married. The week after I got married the girl who went missing said “I know you have just got married but you have a child with me now 4.” I found out the girl when I was dating her had a fella but couldn’t get pregnant so she used me as a donor. I knew nothing of him.

She had played happy families with him until they split, he was on birth certificate. I had to pay three hundred pound to csa for a test to prove it wasn’t mine else they would take money straight away. It transpired it was mine but she doesn’t want me see the child I have no way of knowing where she is living and now because I am paying 500 pound a month to her I can’t afford legal case.

This broke my wife’s heart who was pregnant at the time, through all the stress we lost the child and csa rang the day we found out for bank details I explained what had happened and they said if I don’t call tomorrow they would take it straight from wages. So heartless. And before anyone says u made it, I used condoms and then went to the docs with the girl as she was going on the pill. Little did I know she had no intentions of using the pill.

If my wife and I split and we had made a child I would fully except responsibility but how is the system fair when this horrible girl admitted everything to the csa but is still entitled to so much money a month which I work for and am having to put back starting a family with my wife since loosing the baby through money trouble. The system has failed me and my wife.