Fed up with how CSA treats NRPs

Hi there, after reading this blog, it makes me realise, that we are not the only owned who are soooo fed up with the CSA attitude to non-resident parents!

My husband & I have been married for nearly 12 years & have been dealing with constant attacks from his ex all this time, she is using CSA to stress us out, emotional & financially.

The reason why their 10 old marriage broke down-is that she has been sleeping with her own sister’s fiancé, YES! You have read it right! You thiugt these things can only happen on Jeremy Kyle show- now it happens with people who use Dr. title in front of their name!

So after leaving business to her as well as half of the house , cars etc & taking care of all the loans/credit cards & voluntarily monthly contributions towardsds 3 children, my husband found himself dealing with CSA for the first time.

When I met my husband he was broke & had to work from home as he had no money to pay for business premises, but he always been the best dad anyone can dream of & spend as much time as he was “allowed” with children. (We have kids every Tuesday till Wednesday & every second Friday-Monday as well as half of all holidays.) All these years we had constant accesment from CSA & most of the teme managed to prove our point, but it takes determination & a lot of time writing letters/phone calls.

While every time she felt like it-another investigation will immediately follow, it’s almost like a game for her, as we have never failed one payment for the last 13 years not accommodated her requests to look after children extra while she is on holidays. She is married to the same guy she has left my husband for ( not to mention she hasn’t spoken t her own sister for over 13 years).

Recently, we had another assessment asking to show our business accounts, my husband & I own a company 50/50 so CSA should only look at his income not mine, but they have assessed us on our both income & it’s been over 4 months that we are trying to prove them wrong. What I have learned is CSA are never wrong, even the error is obvious! We are nor dealing with the appeal unit, but feel like it’s just not going anywhere.

At present time, our accounts are getting deeper into overdraft & soon we will start failing to pay for the house we all live in ( we have a 7 year old (as well as 15 year old & 18 year old who we pay CSA for) We regularly speak to the appeal unit & they tell us that our case is the next in line, but it has been like that since end of June. The ex on the other hand enjoyed another luxury trip to Maldives ( she goes there couple of times a year) but still claims that it’s not enough money to buy school shoes for my step daughter & on many occasions she had to ask for dinner money from me, as her mum did no given her enough for the months, you would have thought CSA contributions are for the children & not for luxuries for the ex.

Sorry it’s such a long story, but we feel like giving up our jobs & moving somwhere far away. It’s ot like we don’t want to support the children, but even they saying to us that if we can give them money direct-they will be able to have control over it, they old enough to see that.

I think CSA is the most unpleasant, useless & pointless organisation, with rude & incompetent stuff who have complete disregard to any human right. I know a few mothers who has never received payments from their exes & CSA not bothered chasing them up, but when you have a job & pay maintenance entry months, also contribute extra on top of the maintenance for clubs, trips, clothes, etc & pay your taxes- you are the perfect target for them, they can play God with you & get away with it.