Ex refuses to let me see kids and makes my life hell

September 16, 2015

I’m getting desperate after 18 months of hell and agony with the child maintenance service. I don’t know what to do or where to turn anymore. I split with my ex in May 2014, she attacked me and tried to stab me in front of my sons, we ran, and she changed the locks and I couldn’t return but she took my boys back. When I left I left her £1000, in the bank as a starter maintenance for the boys and £1200, in rent credit again as maintenance for the boys, which she refuses to evidence to the CSA. I fought with my solicitor to get agreements from my ex regarding contact and weekly stays but my ex refused to sign anything.

My solicitor advised I pay a lower amount of £247 per month as I had contact with my boys. This she accepted but refused to. Admit to the CMS and refused to admit I see my kids. This has been going on for 18 months, now I am in an IVA as I can’t get credit because the CSA say I owe them money. This last month , with no notice or explanation, they have taken £500 direct from my wage and told me to stop paying her. I cannot phone them as I only have my works phone but I write to them but they are now ignoring my letters. I am on the verge of becoming homeless and having a mental breakdown I just cannot see a way out. Can you help??