CSA making me pay huge arrears to someone who didn’t raise our child
October 20, 2016
where to start… I’m 41 now when I was 19 I had my first daughter, my ex cheated on me shortly afterwards and my daughter ended up living with my ex’s parents full time. They brought her up and at first I was allowed to see her no problem, then they started making things difficult and my cases to her slowly stopped. I was young and nieve at the time and ( I’m sorry to say) I lost contact. At first I was paying £25 a week which obviously I didn’t mind.
After a while I moved jobs and lost contact, every time I tried to get in touch I was met with a brick wall. When I was 26 I had another child and once again the curse of the cheating partner struck again. Happily I still see my second daughter and we had an arrangement that I gave her a monthly sum which was good all round.
A few years ago I met someone else she has son and we have son together we all live together and both work part time so that somebody is always home to care for my son who is 2. I earn around 760 a month and the Csa take money out of my wages and leave me with £488 every month,my partner earns about the same and out of that we have to pay the rent, council tax, insurance,travel bills, food etc. It leaves us with very little and to be honest it’s soul destroying that I can’t treat my kids to nice things and holidays etc.
I understand that we all pay for our kids, and I totally agree. My problem is that half of my arrears payment is going to a person who didn’t bring my child up at all the child in question is now 21 and working. ( and the Csa say I’m in arrears to the tune of £11000 ) and this is having such a negative impact to my youngest child. Is there anything I can do to lessen the repayment of the arrears?