CSA want to send me to prison
March 4, 2010
Hi all, Im just waiting for my court date to arrive where I expect i will be sent to prison for 42 days for breaching my payment order. I dont want to bore anyone with all the exact ins and outs but I will try and keep it short!
I met a woman and was seeing her for about 2 months, then she told me she was pregnant! we moved in together and she was always going out on the beer leaving me to babysit, after a while I gave her an ultimatum, stop taking the p*** or im leaving. Things improved for a while then it was back to normal, I wasnt being a doormat any longer so I left.
She went to the CSA the next day and told me never to see her and the kids again, she moved house, never knew where she went nobody would tell me. Csa found me through my work and I had an attatchment of earnings order for £110 a week because I didnt respond to any letters, I was only earning £160 a week so I panicked and quit my job!
I decided then that why should I pay if I cant see my kids. I moved from house to house and job to job, I know it was the wrong thing to do but I was acting on principal. I was caught a couple of times and ended up in court , arrears still mounting. I then was told by her ex best mate that she had been sleeping with her brother every week for around 9 months before she fell pregnant but the court said that I will have to go for a DNA test. But to do this it would cost thousands which I didnt have.
I agreed to pay regular payments which were made. I got married and money was tight so I stopped paying, Then I got a warrant for my arrest so I moved house again, with the thought of me having to pay for kids that may or may not be mine! I managed to trace her and asked her for a DNA test and she refused, why?, something to hide?.
I then got a call from work saying there were 2 court bailiffs waiting to arrest me, I handed myself in and went to court again and they said they want £300 a month or I will go to jail for 42 days if I miss a payment. That was in 2007. In july 2009 I broke my leg so I was off work for 8 weeks and being self employed I wasnt earning anything, didnt even get sick pay so I had to borrow off family.
I informed the CSA of this and they wanted proof so I sent them all sorts from hospital and a copy of my sick note. I went back to work but failed to tell them as I thought paying back family in my eyes is more important than paying the government! Then last week I got the call I was waiting for CSA Enforcement officer telling me if I dont pay £4500 in the next 3 weeks when a court date is set I will be jailed for 42 days! Now dont get me wrong but in a nutshell I didnt have a problem paying maintainence if the kids were mine, but I thought people were innocent until proven guilty, but in the case of the CSA your guilty till you pay thousands to prove your innocent!
Now i owe £25,000 in arrears and dont see a way out! On top of that I owe £35.000 in debts my ex wife ran up in my name and Im looking at bankruptcy! Suicide is sounding like a good idea every day that passes. All I wanted was too see my kids but she stopped me, I wanted to prove my kids were mine but I couldnt afford to do it and she refused the test!
I stopped paying CSA through principle and now that principle will end up finishing me!!