How do I escape paying child support?
June 11, 2008
This is one of the things we keep getting asked here at CSAhell.com. How do I escape paying child support?
It’s not something we want to condone, we’re not here to offer advice and suggestions on how non resident parents can get out of paying for their children. We are here to offer advice and support on how you can pay what you owe, rather than what the CSA want you to pay.
Remember that if you have children you have an obligation to pay for them, to pay fairly for them. The CSA want you to pay as much as possible to them, when we want you to pay what is right to your children.
So rather than searching for information and help on how you can escape paying the CSA, you should be looking for advice on dealing with the CSA so you’re not blackmailed into paying too much.
This website has plenty of advice on dealing with the CSA.
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I am paying my ex wife for our 10 year old daughter that she wont allow me to have anything to do with. I have been to court 4 times and each time she has told the court i wont harm my daughter, She has told the courts that i love my daughter and she loves me BUT as long as i am married i will not have anything to do with her at all.
All i want is to get out of this hell hole, I can try and live my life without my daughter in it but each month as a family we struggle to cope with bills mounting higher and higher, Bailifs calling etc etc.
She lives very well in a 6 bedroom house in approx 9achres of land even boasting an in door swimmingpool.
I have recently been approached by a company making me an absolute incredible offer, However its a waist of time as the CSA have already told me they will look to increase my payments.
My step children dont have holidays anymore and hear that my daughter flys to and from America and europe several times per year. She has all she wants and never goes without unlike ours that went withthout anything for months.
Because we gave them some presents for xmas we were unable to do a food shop for three months.
I am now at breaking point and cannot see any reason to carry on. What can i do? We need help from this mess.
kill her
well 3 judges 2 seperate caff cass reports a back ground of domesic violence , and years of not turning up 2 c him and not paying any csa payments for 6 years sounds like it was all your fault .so kill her is a crap response you dont no what your on about
Seriously, the US “justice” system is so fucked up, kill her, srsly. (Btw, I take NO responsability on your actions, even if they’re influenced by this, or any other statments I make.) It’s the only way.
csa is gay we should only pay csa if we can see are child reguarly £32 a week duznt sound much duz it for one child but wen u dont here back from csa u start wurrying and u get an erge to call them and wen u do they say thers a hold up and u say how longs was it held up for and they say somthing like 2 months and they say ur in arreas now so that £32 for one child will become somthing like £122 a week am glad i didnt have twins i think it should stay at £32 a week no matter what duz any 1 no away to get out of paying atall ano my daughter i s my flesh and blood but cum on i think te oter perant should be forst to get a job to and we go halves thats better £16 aweek bit better and if she or he gets another partner make tem pay to csa are wankers
I earn £1000 per month and the CSA are taking £360 out of my wage.I pay my bills with the monies i have left, then i;m broke for 2wks. I’m sinking into the red fast. I’ve been diagnoised with depression since the CSA got there claws into me. I’ve tried appealing, my M.P. without any joy. The CSA are a law to themselves. they are wrecking my life.
I have always paid for my children while being employed. by the way i’m on the old rules and don’t have the money to live on my own any more so have to live with my dad. i pay him £300 rent a month which isn’t taken into account. My son visits 3 nites per week and my girl comes when she wants so that isn’t taken into account. The CSA have taken away my right to enjoy time with my kids. I can’t afford to take them out anymore. What can i do. Please
i feel every ones pain, something needs to be done i make $14.50 an hour and when i work a full 40 hours a week my chesk is only $123 every friday, i work construction so hours are very low and vary during the winter months, another thing thats the check i get claim 9 on my taxes
i am in a large amount of debt, have to live at home with my parents and still cant afford to pay my own bills, this country is rediculous, our president and government needs to look into this and fix it, it kills thousands of americans every year
i feel for u all as i am in the same position i have been paying the csa for the last 10 years at 400 a month.i am getting in to more debt due to the csa i was having my children on a regular basis now i am on sick pay and could not aforrd to pay the csa my ex has stoped me having my children intill i have paid the csa the money. to me my health and children are important as i have been advised by the dr that i may not beable to return work.and now my ex will not let me have my children what can i do can any one help i may have lost my kids and my job
hi just reading the comments im a mother with 3 kids and i dont agree with csa at all everyone deserves the chance of starting again even the fathers. with the csa its impossible for men!! to start new lives when they have had an old one as they cant afford it they cant afford to look after themselves,or enjoy life with another family,or start a new one for the csa its wrong and unfair!! they ort to look at both sets of familys ie look at the old family to see if they actually need the money!!! off the others. we have all sorts of problems with the csa its time they just got rid its a waste of money and causes stress,and suicides than anything else. i think men that have children are seen as an open wage packet for anyone!!! let everyone havea second chance in life. lets face it noone goes without anyway its just for some bizzare reason some familys can have fun and money and some carnt it needs to be equal.!!!!
My life has been ruined for years now and I just get looked at like a piece of crap on top of it all because of child support. They took to much and after years I have given up. They took and took and took. They would take my license, which meant I lost my job then I would go to jail. Make a payment agreement to get my license back, find a job be late on the payment because I had lost my first job because they took my license because we had an unpaid holiday. It was a non-stop circle that I ran around for years. I am about ready to kill myself seriously.
I won’t really kill myself. So don’t anybody make my problems even worse by traching my IP and crap.
I’M A FEMALE AND TOTALLY AGREE ABOUT HOW SCREWED UP CHILD SUPPORT IS. I HAVE 4 KIDS…2 WITH MY CURRENT BOYFRIEND AND HE HAS JUST BEEN ORDERED TO PAY $307 A MONTH TO HIS EX FOR HIS 10 YEAR OLD HE HAS WITH HER. THE CHILD DOESN’T EVEN STAY WITH THE MOTHER. THEY LIVE IN A BIG PLACE WHILE WE’RE STRUGGLING IN A SINGLEWIDE MOBILE HOME. BUT THE COURT DOESN’T CARE ABOUT THAT. I AGREE HE SHOULD PAY SOMETHING BUT IT DOESN’T TAKE THAT MUCH FOR ONE 10 YEAR OLD. CHILD SUPPORT SHOULD BE MADE TO GO ONLY THE CHILD NOT THE MOTHER. ALL SHE DOES IS SHOP AND GO OUT TO EAT ALL THE TIME. YOU SHOULD HAVE SEEN HER FACE WHEN SHE CAME OUT OF THE COURTROOM. SHE HAD A SMIRK. BUT NOTHING WILL EVER CHANGE I GUESS.
If you have savings put them in an offshore bank account outside the csa,s jurisdiction, also I think it maybe possible to pay yourself through an offshore ltd company.
Join the French Foreign Legion. You don’t have to pay during service, and after service, you might be able to get French Nationality and settle in France.
why do fathers need to pay child support when they are not allowed to see there children due to the mothers saying no. and when you work and try and take these mothers to court it costs a lot of money that you dont have because you pay child support, also when you find out these mothers have been sly and fall pregnant on purpose to keep a man then it back fires on them and the man wont go back to a relationship that was not working. and the man still has to pay the law is unfair.
Women in the developed world want all the benefits of a free culture but none of the responsibilities. They need to be held responsible and accountable for their actions. The “income-shares” model of child-support does not do that. And no reasonable alternative is ever considered. The child support system in the developed world is simply a mechanism by which malignant narcissists may hold their children hostage for ransom and defraud the fathers of their children and abuse the children. Nothing more. We are truly an evil empire, if ever one existed. Makes Libya, Egypt, North Korea and Iran look like paradise.
The entire concept of child support is irrelevant since almost all fathers have historically supported their children the best they can. All child support has accomplished is to absolve mothers of any responsibility for their behavior and enslave fathers. Even if the income-shares model provided for a reasonable amount of child support, it would still be irrelevant and destructive. But it doesn’t even do that. This is how bad things are in the US and why no one wants the government taking over health care. Do you want the same people presiding over your health care who preside over child support enforcement? God, what a disaster.
I am a partner of sum one who pays csa and I think it is a load of s**t. The ex gets everything off the goverment a house the full wak! And then money off a ex who lives wit me!
I herd that if they re marry u dnt hav t pay them csa r is they live wit new partner? I wanted t know how true this was and any other ways t stop paying
And if the cild wants t cum live wit u, how do u go about doin this. As I feel she is a un fit mam the states the child comes to ours in is minging and ther the house is a mess! How would any of u’s deal wit this??
my brothers ex [girlfriend] has two of his kids, she had several affairs during their relationship my brother was faithful to her, after her last affair SHE DECIDED SHE DIDN’T WANT TO BE WITH MY BROTHER ANYMORE SO HE [MY BROTHER] was distraught and left the house [that HE paid for]
They sold the house He gave her half the money, 5 years later she is still screwing him anyway she can, she has married and has had another child, my brother has his children 2 nights per week minimum, my brother recently had to shut down his successful business, because this bitch has csa on his back for even more than he is already paying her because she says he has bought property [after she said she doesnt want him] and that she is entitled. I know for a fact that he was not required to give her half the money for the house that he paid for but did anyway. this bitch is no more than a thief in my eyes and uses the children as emotional tools and all the while has full backing from the criminal sluts association [CSA] Its down right disgusting, something needs to be dione now before more fathers kill themselves because they have been pushed over the edge…equality? what the fuck is that then?
Yes, I have the perfect solution. I wrote a book on how to stop paying child support.
http://www.scribd.com/doc/49423814/Stop-Paying-Child-Support
Once the system gets a hold of you, they will never let you go. You are their bread & butter. Millions of people would lose their high paying jobs if people stopped paying child support. Beside, no amount of money is ever enough for the women. They will always be whining and fine a need for more and more money. Your best bet is to avoid child support and let them whine to each other like here on this forum. Guess what we are going into a depression, and guess what ? your still going to have to pay child support and when things get better in 5 to 7 years, your still going to have to pay, plus interest. So get my book and be a man.
Wow..
You all need to man up, and better yourselves so that you can support the kids that you brought into the world.. got a crappy job? work hard and get a better one.. yes your support goes up, but so does your take home. your support is going to help your child… now, and to go to school. Before you slam me, I am separated, have a daughter, that I have for half the time, and have to pay 700 a month in support and special expenses. This is what is required buy the law.. so I pay it. it pisses me off to see men, hiding income and trying to get out of paying child support.. you are giving men a bad name, and you are the reason agencies like the CSA have to exist. for every one man that legitimately has a beef with the amount of support that he has to pay, 10 are are just greedy and what what they consider their money.. your kids have a right to your money, like it or not.. Man up, stop making it harder for men to have equal time with the kids by giving us a bad name, and live up to your responsibilities.
i have a nine year old son for who i have had no support for from the father what so ever. we were in a relationaship when i fell preganant which incidently wasnt to trap him things just didnt work out between us. i tried to get him to have contact with his son but he didnt ant to know unless he was in a relationship with me. i have struggled as a single parent for nine years and never asked for a penny. i also work hard so am not sponging off anybody. i recently got a letter off csa saying they had an enforcemnet order on my sons father and i should be recieving some payment very shortly. i suppose all you people think this is wrong and i shouldnt get a penny. i have never stopped him ccontacting his son he shirked his responsibilities. opinions please
Anne-marie parker you are not wrong, he is being a dead beat… these guy’s are angry because they are getting there pockets raped by the system and they can’t see there children ! I know that feeling all to well my ex use my money to buy pain pills to get high and to get her nails done. Never did she let me see my children unless she wanted a baby sitter . she is very selfish. but you are doing what you need to do!
ok I have a problem with the csa. on a avrage i take home £1000-£1200 a month the csa have just up there money to almost 600 pounds a month my rent is 320 pounds a mounth so that 920 pounds gone straight away. I agree i have to pay for him but i need money for clothes food and train fare to work witch the csa wont take in to acount i only have one son age 12 . and the back payment is only cos the mother was unsure who the father was(that why i left her) then she say it not mine,so got a dna test done when he was 6 years of age (so he mine) and before i even started paying csa i was in arrers cos the mum was unfaithful. i now have a girlfriend who i love she is devorced and has 2 kids one of 7 and one of 14. but i dont dere tell the csa cos if you have a girl friend they think you can live of her wadges(wrong). i have no life can not even take my girlfriend out for a drink . or buy my self train tickit to work and i have to walk 13 miles there and 13 miles back.
I had enough of this im so depressed i have bills tom pay after my bills and rent and csa took a big chunk out my wadges i was left with 10 pounds to live on for a mounth. i told the csa i have a loan to pay off witch i got before i knew he was mine. and the csa told me i should thought about getting a loan before i had a kid(excact words!!) . The mother wont even let me see him but she let him phone up and swear at me down the phone. yes i agree i have to pay but not that much it wrong. she has i nice 2 bed house nice new car goes out clubbing getting drunk at weekends. why i go back to a room i rent with no t.v no computer just a bed. I think the csa was founded by women that hate men they need to know that it not just the men who are bad. some of the women are the ones that are bad i feel i being victumised. can any one give me advice or show me how to blow up the csa building grrrrrrr.
all i can say about the csa is there a set of tossers the lot of them
There are clearly a lot of flaws in the CSA system. I am just wondering if the people that can not afford to pay the maintenance set by the CSA have considered working less and having the children more therefore allowing the resident parent to work more sharing the cost and care more equally. Of course when I suggested this to my ex he told me he could not afford to work less..But of course I can, even though I have an extra mouth to feed….In his opinion anyway!!
have seen both sides of the story i don,t dissagree with the csa but i think it sould b under different reasons my husband payed for the depoist on his house his girlfriend at the time was not working she carried on at the time when my husband came home from working abroad she didnt even worry about it it the police came to the houise and told my husband he had 30mins to get out the csa are a joke they don,t give a monkeys about the second family the go on about child povity and they put most of them in povety it is a joke
i forgot to say i have disabled daughter but that dosen,t matter to the csa they dont care as long as they have money for the first family
forgot to tell u that my husband payed the money for the house she did,nt work at the time . he payed 38,000 for it and now she is selling it for 90,000 odd so where is the justice in the it is a jokje
Guys listen, i’m in a library in Louisiana, for guys who want to get out of support, Run, me and others run, we move a lot and have met others who run too, we are posting these messages for men who are on the brink, sadly my best friend committed suicide over paying child support and was going broke. so like others, i took up running. unless your in our shoes, you have no idea what it’s like. Men start running, people who know your running will help, we have camps and hide away places and safe houses. Society wants you to take up support so you can line the pockets of CSA with cash. i was paying for two kids who are not mine but because i was married and she cheated and conceived two kids with this man and tricked me into signing the certs. btw for female responders, in louisiana, if the child is born while your married to the spouse who gave birth to the child, no matter what, its your child. RUN Guys RUN, ” Run fast and run in the shadows for the csa has eyes on you”
The answer is very simple once you accept the fact that men have no rights as fathers in America. The entire Child Support Agency is staffed by angry and bitter women, that are more then willing to use unethical actions in order to criminalize fathers. Many people say to kill your wife, but that won’t stop the racketeering in the system, and your ultimate destruction. The only way to turn the problem around is to make the civil employees in the system live in fear, then they will begin to think twice about their corruption and the direct consequences. Real fear is a great motivator for change. So if your thinking of ending it all, at least go out making a difference for the rest of us victims…besides there’s thousands of them to choose from and only one wife that leads directly to you. Of course I’m only referring to legal actions…lol.
you spineless pathetic bunch of cowards and idiots…….how dare you all even try to compare yourself to someone left with children….and all of you women defending all of these fuc…rs i hope and i wish one day you will be in such a convenient position as single mother. now F…K YOU ALL!!!!
Thank you for all your comments. It was quite amuseing to hear different views and opinions. I myself am tied down with the CSA. My Ex wife is a very angry and shallow women. I dont see my children and i am struggling just like the rest of you to make a new happy life. Seriously i agree that we should put up and just try to move one. But what happens when you have tried and put yourself out only to find heartache from the suffering and hurt that the new people in your life who love you have to endure along with you. My wife had an affair and that how we broke up. i forgived her but she wouldnt let this other person go. We got a divorce and gained three quaters of the profit from the house. thanked me for being very reasonable and said that i was such a nice guy and its a shame that she isnt still in love with me. She said that she would never take me to the CSA for all that i had suffered and all that i had done. Afew months later after blowing all her money and not wanting to work she took me to the CSA. It hurt me, our children and my new partner and her children as they take an amount that leaves us really struggling. I am a nice guy, i’m sure that most of you guys are too. We can’t give in and the people who have commented with just accept it are the people that cant finf or dont want happiness and have already give in. If your child was constantly being bullied you wouldnt say ‘just accept it ‘and then ignore it. We need to stand together and work together. Communicate and understand each other. Everyone has the right to live and there is no reason for either party to be unhappy. It only takes a small compremise. The problem is some people cant get shut of their anger and just want to cause there existing partner pain. The Threat is the CSA, they’re unreasonable, inhumane and very arrogant. Unproffessional and unsincere. They need to be stopped and something has to be done. If we as parents who have lost the chance to live just lie down, then we are lying down for all those that are constantly being bullied, lying down for the week people on this planet who cant defend themselfs and we are not doing what makes us human. To stop caring and to stop believing is giving up all rights to be human. If you are reading this and have any idea’s legaly on how we can change the way of practise and make afew lifes better or less painful, please feel free to email me with your idea’s. Chin up people, ignore the negative comments on this site and concentrate on putting your next actions to good will. Take care, karlbeaumont@tiscali.co.uk
open a pension scheme paying just a little more than c.s.a take off you, cancel it after you recieve your 1st statement then inform c.s.a that you have now got a pension for future finansial reasons
I have 2 children with my ex. They are 13 and 16. Their mother receives 1200 a month from me for child support. She lives in a home fully paid off worht $400,000. Sje earns 90,000 a year. She has redone her home in many ways, takes 2 to three vacations a year and has a very good bank account. I am re-married and am struggling to pay a mortgage and take care of my wife (hasn’t worked in 6 years) and 5 year old child. We have a home with a mortgage I can barely pay. Roof leaks and can’t afford a new one. Haven’t had a vacation in over 7 years and can’t even afford cable television. My wife is from another country where her parents live. They are old and in sick health. My wife wants to move there to take care of them. I need to stay here and work. I will be separated from her and my 5 year old for who knows how long because I can’t leave my job. I’m from NJ and they will not reduce or stop child support for any reason just about. If I leave illegally and just stop paying they will take it from my SS when I am able to retire. Then, I won’t be able to retire. When I divorced, I gave my ex the house to have child support at $50 a week. When she petitioned the court 4 years later to ask that the support be raised, the judge didn’t even care about the divorce agreement and just raised my support to the max. Each year they raise it a little more and you can’t even fight it. I’ve felt like a prisoner since the divorce. I haven’t seen the kids much and they always seem to have something planned on the weekends, scouting, dance, karate, whatever. Child support is a scam for good people. I have always thought of the kids never missing birthdays, christmas, graduations, etc. and have tried my best to be a father. But the court system makes it more than unbearable. It’s a joke, but I could have killed her many years ago and been out of prison by now. This way I have at least 8 more years of the prison of child support. What a shit world we live in.
EVERYONE GET YOUR MP involved!! NO matter what.
Regardless send them a copy of every letter you send to the CSA. You’ll be amazed how many NRPs together we can get better, improved, group response. Don’t let the MP do nothng! Stand up and get the MP over worked with local CSA cases guaranteed to piss them off and force the issues directly with higher CSA bods..please pass this message on.
CSA will only take notice if an MP gets pissed off
Thanks
Brian
first of all every female on here pretty much says that men need to man up….well first of all it takes TWO to make a child now that being said it should be down the middle and fair but women just wanna stick it to hard working man to pay half his check so she can spend half of it on her new man while the kid is at her parents house…..but women drag you into court trying to milk it for all its worth and turn the screw on man the system we are under isnt fair to any man and half the time a man is a better parent and provider….PRIME EXAMPLE; KASEY ANTHONY!!!!
like i said it takes two you wouldnt have been able to make a baby if she didnt spread her legs first right duhhhh so why does it always fall on the man instead of women trying to live off the govt or a man try to get a freakin job be an adult responsibilty goes both ways
What is an MP?