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Questioning Paternity and requesting DNA

Hi,  I am in the process of writing a letter to the CSA with reasons why I am requesting a DNA test.  Now I note that many people have taken years to get these robbing agency to agree to do the test and wondered if anyone could please give me some advice as to hit them.

The child is 5 years old now (I know it has taken a while) and I did request it when she was first born but being so young and naive I was shot down and made to feel ashamed for even asking them as the mother just rejected the possibility.  I now have a family and have tried in vain to see the child and things were fine (as long as it was on her terms and I have to drive 1.5 hours just to pick her up) until last year.  She now keeps rejecting me contact and the last contact I had with the mother all I got was just pay the money and forget about seeing the child.

I now have 2 other children and not only myself but all the children involved need to know if she is mine.  The reasons for me questioning paternity is that when I got with the mother I was told she could not get pregnant (I know I know!!)  After 5/6 months she fell pregnant and 2 weeks after she finished with me.  During the the first 6 months of pregnancy her due date changed, now being so young I believed this could happen.  Having worked on the dates (that she gave me) the child had to have been concived on the 10th Dec 2003 but we were annoucing she was pregnant 6 days later.  Now looking into this I believe after a baby has been concived it takes between 7 and 10 days for the egg to travel down and it is approx 7 days AFTER that that you can get a positive test (that being with todays tests). At the same time I worked with 2 people that had known her for about 4/5 years (one being a very good mate) and both highly suggested I get a test as she wasn’t the most faithful to anyone.  The child doesn’t have anything in common with me (ways / looks etc) and there are other reasons but the main ones are above.

I am not hoping the child isn’t mine but I feel there is a 50/50 chance and feel that all the children involved need to know and ASAP.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Kind regards,


8 thoughts on “Questioning Paternity and requesting DNA

  1. You say that you requested a DNA when she was first, who shot you down and made you to feel ashamed for even asking was it the mother by any chance?
    Obviously if your being shot down then they have something to hide and it is your right to request a DNA test to be done. It’s all very well these mothers saying just forget about the child and just pay the money, how typical is that sounds like another mother who just wanted you for a sperm bank and then toss you away when you have fulfilled your duty.
    Write a letter into the CSA special or recorded delivery and tell them that you request a DNA test to be done, give them 14 days to respond to you and keep an eye on when they receive your leter through the royal mail web site and print it off along with the signature.

    If the mother of the child wants to carry on acting stupid and refuse the DNA test then the case will be closed and she cannot reopen it which means you then do not pay for any more child maintenance, you wil probably have to pay for the test yourself and it will have to be a court recognisable DNA company.

    Once the case is closed you can then procede to get access to your child through the courts, only thing is the way the closed family courts operate don’t expect the mother to play ball as the courts rarely prosecute the mother for breaching court orders.

    Hope this helps
    Dead Beat Dads

  2. In order to answer this question accurately, it is necessary to know when your case commenced with the CSA and whether you had initially denied parentage on the form which they sent you to complete…

    1) If you have denied parentage on your form, a DNA test will be organised. Should the parent with care refuse such, the case can be closed.

    2) If you did not complete and return the form, the Agency can assume parentage.

    3) If you did not deny parentage on the form you where sent, the Agency can refuse to do a DNA test and you would still be liable.

    – In the case of the latter 2 options, you would need pursue the matter via the Courts.

    If I can help further, go to – you can find me in the forum.

  3. if dna proves i am the father do i have to pay backdated maintenence from when the child was born ? i wasnt sure he was mine as she was seeing someone else but 3 years later she is telling me its mine and we are now arranging a dna ,

  4. I’m not 100% but I think it depends on when your ex made the claim. If there is no claim through the CSA then no, I dont think you do.

  5. i asked for dna test last year and was denied by the mother point blank how dare i , now i am in a relationship she gets less money she has phoned back up and is trying to force me to take the dna test can i refuse this as the case against this child was closed and she only wanted to pursue one child at the time last year . where do i stand and what are my rights ?

  6. hi i have a child with my ex bt recently had a child wiv my current partner and my ex also has had a bby 2 i have only found ot dat da new bby of my ex has my last name but i know that bby nt mine wot do i do how can i change the baby name?

  7. @ mrgarrett

    If you weren’t present with the mother at the registration of any of the births, then you are not documented on the birth certs as the named father. This means you are not legally obliged to provide for them, unless a paternity test proves you have an obligation to provide for them. If you were present with the mother for the registration of the 1st child, then you are legally deemed the father – unless you have doubts, then again, only a paternity test will clear that one up too. If the 1st child does have your surname (as on birth cert) then perhaps the mother wanted some continuity for the 2nd child. But this does not mean you are the father of the 2nd child, unless the mother claims you are. To avoid any uncertainty and any potential CSA arrears, I would pursue a paternity test for both of the children, so you know what your position is.

  8. My current partner has a 10 year old daughter who he has not seen for 5 years now. He has paid CSA for the whole of her life and still is paying. He was refused for the child to have his surname but was allowed on the birth certificate which immediately cause concerns of whether he was the father or not. She refused DNA 10 years ago. There have been several things said recently that have led us to believe the child is not actually his. The mother is also referring to the child as the surname of her new partner (which I didn’t think she could do with my partner being on the birth certificate and having parental rights despite not seeing her) how does he go about requesting a DNA and if she refuses STill after 10 years will the CSA be stopped?

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