My CSA payments have been upped thanks to lying ex

July 2, 2015

My ex lied to the csa and was found out so they upped his payments. He paid only £5 aweek for 2 children, we have 3 but 1 was older.Two of the children are over 18 and live with me permanently, I pay for everything as they are both at college. My ex earns on average £55,000 in 3 months. My youngest lives between the two homes his and mine.

So now my ex has applied for and got the child benefit. I gave up fighting for it as I wouldn’t state when my son stays with me as he didn’t want his dad to know, He tells his dad he stays at friends and his girlfriends.His dad is so lax so long as my son doesnt come to see me he doesnt care where he goes. At court my ex took an undertaking that he agreed to me having all the benefits as I am a lower earner.He has broken this. The csa have told me they don’t care what I have to pay for, mortgage, council tax etc. they will approach my employers and take 15% of my wages and I will have to make do. I already dip into my savings regularly just to pay bills. We haven’t had a holiday and I am struggling, whereas my ex has just come back from florida after paying for 5 adults to go and has just bought a new BMW. Is there anything I can do?


4 Responses to “My CSA payments have been upped thanks to lying ex”

  1. Alan Bigalan on July 2nd, 2015 3:21 pm

    5ppund a week on 55,000 he gets in 3month that cant be right only paying 60pound every 3months

  2. Sarah Louise White on July 2nd, 2015 3:28 pm

    Why can’t u state when ur child stays with u he’s ur son and sounds abit immature to me… toying with kids aswel both grabbing for money from each other! so yes if ur haveing 15% of his wage for ur other child then u also wil av to have ur wage dipped into to.. u can’t have one rule for u and one for the other but if he’s on 55k every 3mnths that’s atleast 15-20k a month so you would be on 2.5 minimum from him? I must say I wish I got 2.5k from my ex LOL..

  3. Becky KJ Mummywright on July 2nd, 2015 4:00 pm

    If he gets £55.000in 3 mths he well not get child benefit, tell him ur son loves with u half the tome if he stops seeing his son then that his problem take him to csa then.. Not that he can stop him at 18

  4. Gonk on July 3rd, 2015 10:54 am

    You see…the CSA don’t give a shit how you live, they said so themselfs “they don’t care what you have to pay out in mortgage and council tax etc”
    That just proves they don’t give a shit about the kids welfare as well, as you having no means to support yourself after the fucking CSA have bled you, leaves you little to enjoy ( if not anything) with your kids.
    @ Sarah Louise white.
    My skank ex bleeds me for £3.600 every year. Not a penny of it does she deserve. Why? Because my daughter does not live with me, so why am I paying for her everyday upkeep. That’s her mothers and her partners problem, not mine. Her mother decided she did not want her dad around anymore and wanted to live with another man and he to play daddy to my daughter, so I say “morally they don’t deserve any of my money….fuck em” I should be allowed to put my money away for my daughters future the way I see fit, not some government fucking dictatorship.
    To think both those fucks work and yet I’m forced to top up their salaries each month to the tune of £300 and have no say on how,who or even if my money is being spent on whom it should be being spent.

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