I took JSA because CSA would have taken any money I earned

January 21, 2011

I split from my wife when my daughter was very young and before the CSA existed. I always paid my ex maintenance for my daughter but, like a lot of women (not all, though), she wanted more while she sat around and didn’t work. I didn’t really mind her not working at the beginning as my daughter was pre-school at that time. I could not afford to pay her any more and it ended up in court (which cost me thousands and took me over 3 years to pay off) but she was actually awarded less than I was paying her originally.

Then comes the CSA, totally raped my wage packet – left me with just over £26 per week. I had to leave my job but took the opportunity to educate myself and went to University on a grant. The CSA was kept informed of all this but somehow amazingly told me that I was due to pay around £15,000 per year maintenance. I was only getting around £6,000 per year between my grant and student loan. Did they want to hear this – did they hell. I got so fed up with them that I just started ignoring them as they did not appear to be listening to me.

After Uni, knowing that it would be pointless to get a job as they would take everything, I sat on JSA working one day a week (which I did declare to the JC).

A couple of years ago they sent me a letter demanding something like £50,000 in arrears – I nearly died. I sent them my award letters to prove my income at the time and they reduced it to around £30,000 – I nearly died twice. I have sent them every thing that they have asked for (none of it has been returned, so I no longer have proof of anything) and they are still saying I am liable for around £30,000.

I have always spent time with my daughter since the split – I even had to go to court to force my ex to let me see her. I then had to pick my daughter up from her parents house 15 miles away even though my ex and I lived less than a mile apart. Her way of trying to force me to stop seeing my daughter. My access was on a Sunday – 1 bus an hour and only about 7 minutes from getting off the bus to having to be back on it for the return journey – many a time I missed it because my daughter was not ready.

My daughter came to stay with me when she was 15. She then went to college – did the CSA want to know about it – did they hell. It took them over a year to contact my ex and said that they could not back date it. I know for a fact that she was on over £30,000 a year at the time (I know someone that worked beside her doing the exact same job – and that’s another story about my ex’s madness when she found that out). They awarded me something derisory like £23 per week eventually – don’t know how they figured it out – but she never paid a penny.
Now I find out that my current employers have received a letter from the CSA – looks like I’m going back to Uni.

Just so you know, my daughter is now 22 and has been living with me for over 7 years.

Maybe I could just pay my daughter the money directly. Probably not, eh?

My ex never spoke to my daughter for over 4 and half years after she came to live with me. No contact whatsoever. No birthday card, xmas card – nothing. I mean, c’mon, this is the sort of person the CSA was set up to go after in the first place – parents who paid nothing and took nothing to do with their children – but then again, she’s a woman so they weren’t interested.


9 Responses to “I took JSA because CSA would have taken any money I earned”

  1. lyn on January 21st, 2011 3:45 pm

    I must admit I have not been on this site for sometime now as I find it so upsetting reading the stories and living a nightmare with the way my ex partner was treated by the CSA. Like you his ex works 2 days a week and sit on her backside expecting him to support her and her new men.

    Like you he was handed a bill for £36,000 eventually amended to £29,000 and they took his house! The judge was horrified at the way he was treated by the agency but still granted them the liability order.

    These are horrible wicked people who are out to destroy peoples lives.
    Believe me they will not leave you alone until you are in a pine box. They dont care.

  2. chickpea on January 22nd, 2011 10:20 am

    Lyn what they did to your partner is dispicable, nobody should be able to take anybodys house, and your partners ex should be ashamed of her self for letting it happen.
    This poster states that at the beginning when the daughter was younger the mother did’nt work, she is now working getting around 30,000 a year!
    He avoided paying for his daughter by choosing to go to uni to avoid paying. then claiming JSA. I can’t understand where the huge amount arrears come from though? If he was at uni then on JSA surely he should of been on nil assesment then £5.00 while on JSA?

  3. No Tellin Ye on January 24th, 2011 4:21 am

    chickpea, you make it sound like I went to uni to avoid paying – that is not the case. i had to give up my job because they were taking almost every penny from me – i decided to go to uni rather than sit on the dole. And I don’t know where they get that amount from either – still arguing with them

  4. Lyn on January 25th, 2011 8:16 am

    Chickpea, you will find yourself arguing and arguing but believe me it wont work. I watched my ex partner fall apart and worn down with the way he was treated. You know the Case Worker had the cheek to call his previou employer and ask how is my ex partner living now that he has lost his job and his house. His employer told her to get off the phone and that the CSA had destroyed one of the most sincere, hard, loyal working man.

    Guess what her response was? TOUGH THATS THE WAY IT IS!!!!!!

  5. No Tellin Ye on January 25th, 2011 2:08 pm

    Just a wee update. Apparently I can’t just give the money to my daughter – it has to go to my ex as reimbursement for expenses for when my daughter was growing up. Maybe I should as for receipts to confirm these expenses – after all, by definition, you cannot reimburse what has not been paid out.

    Just got an appointment with my lawyer – I’ll see what he says.

  6. chickpea on January 25th, 2011 5:12 pm

    Lyn it baffles me how they come to their arrears figures! Record every single telephone call, again i’m baffled at how they are allowed to get away talking to people the way they do. Maybe all nrps need to start an encampment outside parliment, and see if the press are interested then?

  7. Lyn on January 26th, 2011 9:29 am

    Believe me I have seen it all and I am still in shock as to how they can get away with it. Like I said when he went to court even the Judge questioned them as to how they came to their figures but it didnt matter as he granted them the liability order.

    Only a few weeks have passed since the libiality order and they have started their bailifs going to the property.

    You know what makes me sick his ex wife has a Son from a previous relationship who is serving time in Prison for MURDER! He murdered a man for money. I bet her Son was treated better in court then my ex partner was and I am sure he has all the luxuries in his cell while my ex partner is homeless.

    The Students stood their ground and marched so why cant all these NRP’s do the same?

  8. No Tellin Ye on June 2nd, 2011 4:04 am

    Just a wee update. Gave up my job at the end of February as they were going to take £400 off my wages which would not have left me enough to pay bills and get to work (I worked 15 miles away in a place that has no direct public transport links to where I stay and also worked shifts which either started or finished in the early hours of the morning when no public transport would be running anyway). My lawyer wrote to them just after my last post on here and has written to them again since but has still not had a reply – that’s 3 months ffs.

    It’s getting to the point that I can’t afford not to work but equally I can’t afford to work as they would take all that money off me. I’ve just applied for a job abroad – maybe that will resolve the problem.

    I’ll let you all know if and when they respond.

  9. No Tellin Ye on June 2nd, 2011 4:07 am

    Clarification – it’s actually four months since they were contacted by my lawyer – it’s been 3 months since I gave up work.

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