How should I go about getting access to my son?
November 20, 2013
This time last year i was happily married with a beautiful daughter. I had just landed my dream job and after five years of trying my wife had just told me she was expecting our second child. i was over the moon.
On the 20th of November 2011,i answered the phone to a private number. It was the CSA! At first i thought my wife had left me,then after a while it become clear I was named as a father to a ten year old boy. i was in total shock as you can imagine.
I had been with my wife for 11 years, we did have a bad patch and we both had very short time with other people.(a few weeks at most) before we got back together and married.
Straight away i asked for a DNA test.
The mother agreed. Stupidly i didn`t tell my wife.
I couldn`t make the DNA test so they asked for wage slips ect.
I did not give them anything, and i still did not tell my wife.
A few months went by,I had taken my daughter out for the day when i arrived home my wife was sobbing. My mother in law took my daughter.
My wife showed me a letters from the CSA. Payments they wanted. It also showed the DOB of the child, it was the same day as my daughter,three years before she was born.
My wife was crushed. I know I should have told her,but I was still so shocked about it all myself.
My wife said she was leaving with our daughter and she would not be keeping our much longed for baby.
It turned out the CSA had sent the letters to my mother in laws house and in both of our names.
My question is how can I go about getting access to this child who will be 12 early next year? i have no details for his mother,i have tried to trace her via facebook and other means but have so far had no joy.
My marriage is over which deeply hurts,but on the other hand i have a child, a boy, that i have already missed nearly 12 years of his life. I need to meet my child but i have no idea how to go about finding him please help.
Comments
Child Support Agency Poll
Loading ...
Recent Forum Replies
Recent Forum Topics
-
what impact of media for children
by 5 years, 11 months ago
-
csa arrears after case closed confused?
by 6 years, 7 months ago
-
Pay Your Way – Avoid The CSA
by 7 years, 1 month ago
-
Can the CSA find me?
by 7 years, 3 months ago
-
CSA to CMS
by 7 years, 7 months ago
-
what impact of media for children
by
one get the DNA test done. you get no were with out it make sure the kids defo your then go to lawyer find out y take the mum that long to tell you about the kids and see what they can do she cant just come up after 11 years thinking you o her anything she chose to keep it from you
You have my deepest sympathy,. and it is disgusting what the CSA have done to you, everyone here who will be reading this knows what disgusting low life scum that the CSA staff are, this includes that piece of Filth Devaney, who is a Director of the CSA and will be reading this, as he frequents this group.
The first thing you need to have done, is a DNA test, so you know whether the child in question is indeed your offspring, you must provide the CSA with all details of your earnings, or they will just guess at your earnings and this will create arrears on your account, these arrears give the CSA an excuse to impose an attachment of earnings order on your wages via your employer. These are the first things you should do, but don’t think its easy to fight the CSA, it isn’t, because they will distort fact and lie