How do you avoid paying the csa

February 2, 2012

I think the men and women who are getting out of paying CSA are sick, you are meant to be paying to support your son or daughter yet you are willing to go to jail than pay a measly part of your wage!

Haven’t you thought who is stuck in the middle? The children! They are the ones who are suffering, they can’t go out with there friends because YOU have not paid.Have you wondered why your child doesn’t respect you? Because you have left there mother or father in debt because you do not want to pay.

I wouldn’t be surprised if they did not respect you for the way you have treated there parent.

I am in that situation I am a child and I don’t respect my dad after the way he has treated my mum over the years.

I know what It Is like! And It Is not fair having your dad moan on at you about the CSA blaming ME for his debt.

Do not let your Child get in to the situation I am in because soon enough they will want nothing to do with you like I want nothing to do with my dad.


6 Responses to “How do you avoid paying the csa”

  1. bob on February 2nd, 2012 9:20 am

    Abigale, being a child, you would not understand. I don’t call between 15-25% a measley part of a pay packet. You should know that both parents have a duty to support their child financially.

    The chances are quite good that a lot of your resentment towards your dad comes from your mother. Parents can easily manipulate children. Take one example: a mother and her new partner take the children swimming, bike rides, walks, trips to the pet shop, do activities gardening, take both midweek and weekend activities and don’t take them kfc/mcdonalds but instead give them healthy meals and also educationally support the children… Dad on the other hand relatively speaking contributes a measley sum of money from his wage packet, takes them KFC and a take away on nights he has them and only on the rarest occasion has taken them bowling (his hobby) and badmouths ex wife… Who do the kids think is the hero?
    I would suggest that you focus more on the quality of time you have rather than the money

  2. Joanna on February 2nd, 2012 12:17 pm

    What about the NRP who don’t give a toss and want nothing to do with their children let alone financially support them? Plenty of those out there.

  3. chall on February 2nd, 2012 2:16 pm

    Hi abigale,

    You don’t say how old you are, but it’s such a shame you feel this way and although it’s no consolation, I expect other children also have their own experiences and emotions to deal with, and your not on your own 🙁

    None of us are in a position to patronise you with comments like “you don’t understand”, as we don’t know you or your parents.
    Try not to let any comments that may appear on here upset you, sometimes adults inexcusably show a lack of what is fitting and considerate when dealing with others – expect I’ll be in the firing line now 😉
    Regardless, it’s good to have a child’s view, all to often websites can get choked up with adult emotions and sometimes the child’s get over looked. You have as much right as anybody else to voice your feelings and opinions.

    Take care
    chall ~ afairercsaforall

  4. Terry norris on February 3rd, 2012 10:12 am

    Yes Abigale
    I’m sure you are such a young child from the garbage spewing from you.You do not have a clue young lady.i am one of those sick parents you describe who’s wife left him for no other reason than she got bored of me and I never walked away from my responsibilities as a father….I was relieved of them by the mother.And now my reward or kick in the teeth for that is having to pay £320 out of my salary each month for a daughter I am not allowed to see.YOU young lady will understand one day what it’s like to pay bills and a mortgage and run a car.I only hope you don’t have to pay out for a child that was taken from you for no fault of your own? You wont be spewing out this garbage from your lips then

  5. chall on February 3rd, 2012 9:16 pm

    Are you still your parents child?
    Does it matter if your 14, 24, 34 or 44+. Your still your parents child!

    I realise you have your own issues, but if this how you deal with somebody that states their a child…. OMG!

    chall ~ afairercsaforall

  6. Helen Foskett on February 6th, 2012 8:38 pm

    @terry norris. you do not have a clue what Abigail’s situation is, you don’t have a clue what has gone on between her mother and father and you are in no position to tell her she is talking garbage. yes you probably have an ex wife that has been difficult, but that doesn’t mean that all men have it hard trust me! i think you need to look at it from all points of view before you start throwing comments like that out! would you speak to your child like that if she had an opinion ?

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