High CSA payments mean I might have to quit work!

April 16, 2021

I split with my wife jan 2020, first 4 months I gave her 180 for my 2 sons. Then lockdown happened and I was furlonged and also lost my shift allowance in work.

We were on speaking terms then and because I took them out everyday and treated them she agreed that was fine as she didn’t need it as her social life was zero. I then lost my job then got another one as a keyworker. I immediately got my own little place for me and my 2 sons. I work everyday Monday to Friday then I have the boys Fri, Sat and Sunday night. I clothe, Feed them and make sure they have the usual things. The ex has never asked for money and we have always said if the enevitable split did happen we woukdnt go down this route.

She has a new bloke how is moving in with her after 6 months so she will loose her universal credit.

Seems like I’m the cash cow.

She has them the 4 nights during the week. I cant as I work shifts and it woukd mean them being on their own which I woukd never do.

And she has everyweekend free to do whatever. She never calls or text the boys. Out of sight out of mind.

So I’ve been hit by the csa for just over 500 per month. I earn 1600 a month. After my rent, car (which I need to get to work) bills, petrol, food cloths im just about getting by without this CSA payment.

Do they listen though? No.

Its no wonder there is so much mental issues and suicides.

I have to probably quit work as its just not possible to pay.

It all seems unfair and it seems there’s no help whichever way you turn.

CSA lying to my face!

April 15, 2021

So until October 2020 I lived away from my son I still saw him whenever I could, weekends, school holidays etc. We had an agreement in place that I’d pay £125pm which I know wasn’t a lot and that’s why I asked more than once if she wanted more to which she declined.

After the 2nd lockdown I moved back to my home town to be closer to my son and since then I have had 50/50 care of him. School uniform has always been split 50/50 and the day to day care is also split 50/50 so when I mentioned about possibly stopping the monthly payments she immediately opened a claim with the CSA.

I’ve had several phone calls with them stating the arrangements of care of my son and each time they have agreed that I shouldn’t have to pay anything. Then at the end of March I received 3 letters the first dated the 26th stating I was to pay £45pw then 31st I received 2 more one saying I was required to pay £54pw and the second letter was a DEO saying they have asked my employer to deduct £350 a month, which doesn’t even add up.

I feel like I’m being lied to my face when speaking to these people and discriminated against for being the father.

CSA calculated my income wrong and rejected my appeal!

April 13, 2021

My ex recieved the live with order for our two children G13&b9… I became unwell in 2017 and until that point I was the sole care and financial bread winner looking after my children and working full time as a nurse. The lack of support myself and my children received from my ex, their father caused me to have a breakdown. He wouldn’t contact for days and would only have them over night every couple of weeks, in addition to this he was often late or “forgot” about the child maintenance I asked their father to step in and take over for my childrens sake and so that I could recover. He refused to let me see them while I was poorly and fed lies to anyone who would listen, this prolonged my poor mental health and took longer for me to recover. While I was poorly my ex seized the opportunity to start his new life with his new partner. Many, many hours of court battles later and much financial ruin he received the live with order and I was given contact arrangement, every other weekend, fri-mon overnight in the week wed-thur and we split all of the half term somewhat equally, I get more time in the term and don’t lose my weekends in his terms. It averages out about170 nights per year.

During the start of covid, I worked in the hospital in ED. My ex stopped contact between myself and my children because of my job. He, my children and his partner were not clinically vulnerable or at risk, thus I did not have contact with my children for 111 days during first lockdown and even when lockdown ended. He made me have to take him to court so a judge would tell him he breached the court order and was in the wrong. Again he told lies about me and I was subjected to alcohol testing at a cost that needless to say I passed! In the time I wasn’t seeing my children I occupied my self by working hours at the hospital during the pandemic. It was tough but I was either to sink or swim. As a consequence I was earning more money. I get paid £13.79 per hour and an insentive of £75 to pick up shifts working in the front line in the emergency department.

My ex informed the CSA that my income had changed and I was no longer having our children (no fault or wish of my own) The then calculated an annual review, which I disagreed with. It went from £23 per week for 2 children to £88 per week for each child. When I challenged it they performed another annual review, for the weeks I had been earning extra during the pandemic. They calculated that I earn £907 a week (which I did on a small amount of occasion, working a 60 hour week and having nothing else to do in my life) and therefor they said that i earn £47350 thousand a year, meaning that I now have £219 per week coming out of my earnings. My ex told the CSA that I was refusing to pay and they decided to do a deductions from earnings. This in spite of me sending them evidence that I had been paying for my children, their school uniforms, bank deposits, food shopping and treats that I was sending for their whole family whilst they were in isolation.

I challenged the CSA and explained that I am on a zero hour contract and my weekly earnings change dramatically, for instance, last week was £500 and this week was £66. they seem to take this into account when I speak to them on the phone and they say that they can see my earnings are not always the same.

I have to provide for my children when they are with me, food, clothes activities etc as their father refuses to let them bring anything to mine when they come to stay, so not only do I pay a percentage based on a fictitious wage I also have to pay double to feed and clothe them. Most of the items I buy for my children are never returned from their fathers. Their father also refuses to admit the actual over night stays my children are with me, so the CSA base it on the lowest amount going. I have them for the next 2 months at least a month worth of nights due to half terms etc.

I cant enjoy my time with them because we have no money, and I have to work while they are with me just so I can afford to pay my own bills. I pay for both of their phones and I give them pocket money each week otherwise they have nothing. My children are always coming to me to ask for things and I cant say no, but its truly not fair at all.

CSA will not listen, I have launched an appeal but that was months ago and Iv had documents back but no court date. I have spent so much hurtful time in court when it shouldnt have been. I would never imagine that anyone could be so nasty and spiteful as my ex.

I am not sure what else I can do? I have started a new contract, which I will work full time in ED for £26970, I have told them, when I looked on line today it said, parent income change rejected!!

what is going on and what more can I do, iv considered MPs and News papers… I am sick to death with worry that my first salary wage at the end of the month will be gobled up with DEO! I v already been late with rent and phone bill payments not to mention all the solicitor bills that I am still paying just so I could see my own children! What is going on with this world?

Child has been adopted but I still have to pay!

April 12, 2021

In August of 2013 £3210.00 had been stolen from my Bank account. I was subsequently informed that this money had been taken by the CSA! I had received no prior written notification of this. A SAR revealed that it was their policy not to notify me of their theft of my funds, a situation which continues to this day!

Further investigation has lead to me finding out that the child was around 15 years old at that point, but I had never heard of him! Fast forward to the present day, having wasted time writing to the not so “Independent” Case Examiner, and the equal waste of space aka the Parliamentary Health Service Ombudsman, I am unable to obtain any information about this child.

I am still being subjected to the theft of my wages, which I only ever find out about after the event! The Ombudsman suggested that I should go to Court which I am happy to do. I have written numerous letters and emails to the CSA, which are always ignored. I have found out that the Mother is MARRIED, and that there is NO RECORD of the birth of the child in question. I have reason to believe that the mother has RELATIVES who work for the CSA, or whatever they are called now. I also believe that the child has been legally adopted. Is there anyone out there who knows what steps I need to take in order to get this heard by a Judge?

Many Thanks


Will receiving child maintenance affect tax credits?

April 9, 2021

My step daughter is currently living with my husband and I. She is 39 and has two girls aged 2 and 4. She is working full time. Her husband is currently in Scotland. They separated last autumn. My step daughter tells me that if she seeks maintenance from the father she will be deducted by that amount from her benefit which I think is some form of tax credits. Is this correct. If it is and the father doesn’t contribute then the tax payer is paying instead. She says that currently she gets 85 percent towards child care which will be affected if she seeks maintenance from the father.

Child maintenance: total incompetence from CSA!

April 8, 2021

Now after 2 1/2 months this is a total joke.

Started off with covid I lost work, For a start I was not claiming as my partner was working, then she lost work so we got universal credit.

I started paying my ex on payment direct as I have done for the previous 3 years. Then I get a letter saying I owe nearly a thousand pound, after many threatening messages sent by them , pay within 3 days , and the other iff you do not make your payment we will take you to court and seize your assets, finally after numerous calls they finally agree that the amount is wrong and I have in fact overpaid, but it will have to go to collect and pay.
Many more calls later bank details gave to them for my refund which I never received they agree for me to pay direct payment which I am already paying for less than I’m paying but now I’m £80 in areas.
In the meantime as me paying maintenance direct, they are taking money on collect and pay through universal credit.
The whole system is a disgrace, they are incompetent, if there’s any advice? At present I am waiting yet another call from them.

CSA sent me to prison and still expected me to pay!

April 1, 2021

23yrs ago, ex accepted £27,500 as settlement of divorce. CSA got involved and you cannot imagine the amount of paperwork you have to fill in back then, you always felt it was a waste of time as they never seem to take much notice of you circumstance’s. however agreement was reached for weekly payment, always keep up to date. ex appealed, turned down, ex appealed again, turned down. independent hearing ex turned down. whilst this was ongoing, ex always withheld my access to the two children awarded by the courts, she was warned that the CSA should not be used to stop access.

my solicitor provided all documentation to prove the payments were up to date, it was the CSA that had not paid her. From then on it just went out of control the CSA were in a different world, claiming that the arrears were now £78,000 when i believe if my memory is correct based on a weekly income of about £250 per week. The CSA claim to have a protected income rate, so that you have enough to live on this was and is utter nonsense. When they deducted monies from wages, left me £130 below their protected earnings rate, As this would mean my out goings were more than my income and the CSA were not interested and would never accept their claim of £78,000 left the UK.

10yrs ago CSA said I would go to prison if I did not pay £42,000 went to prison for the maximum 6wks. Didn’t know at the time that if you are a murderer or rapist, when you come out of prison you are a free man, not so the CSA, you still owe the money. This is why the CSA is set up so wrong, in their Ivory towers lost all reason with the real world. They want you to pay, how do you earn in prison, threaten to take away driving license, probaly no work