I don’t know what to do next about CSA

January 31, 2015

I started paying CSa in1996 after I got in touch with them the agreement between me and them and the mother was 35£ aweek which I’ve paid for 18 years.

Paid for all school holidays all of his clothes had my son every weekend for 14 years anything he wants if affordable I buy still now and he’s 19.

I have worked it out at 54,000 pound been to court twice for liability orders no way of fighting it now they want more money there’s only half a story because don’t know what to do next.

What can I do to keep my head above water?

January 31, 2015

My ex was paying through CSA when he took me to court for acess, when the case finished he stopped paying.

He now owes me £850.00 in back payments and I have never stopped him seeing our daughter. CSA have court up with him and he has asked me to call off csa and he will pay £50 a month.

CSA said he should pay £85 a month. I am struggling and want my backpayments, what can I do?

Possible fraud connected to CSA calls

January 31, 2015

I received a call from a man last night informing me that two payments had not been made to my child’s mother for December or January.

He asked me to make an immediate card payment to correct the situation, which I declined. I told him that the collection of payments was under the responsibility of the CSA and would check my bank account.

All of my payments have been collected promptly from my account, this either means that teh caller was a fraud or that the CSA has made an error.

Why had this person called me without first checking that collections had been made?

The CSA are making me homeless

January 30, 2015

Right the csa have now made it impossible for me to keep my home.

They have said I now have to pay £68 a week when I only take home £180 a week after rent council tax and electric bills that come to £140 that’s before food and other things I need to get.

Im now at my wits end over this and I don’t no how to fight against it I can see myself losing my home over this.

How is it best to handle a pension while on CSA?

January 30, 2015

How much of my income can I pay into my pension (which is before tax) to offset some of the cost I have to pay in CSA payments?

If the CSA calculate payments by taking Gross Income minus Income Tax, NI and Pension payments how much can I pay into the pension pot before they start to ignore it?

Why was I not informed?

January 30, 2015

I get payed monthly from work last week i got my wage slip and £ 262.80 was deducted? on it said Direct Earnings at £ 262.80 no one at work could understand what this was.

On the monday i phoned the wages department? thay staited the CSA has sent a order of deduction to my wage each month.

I staited to the wages department how could this happen when i havent been notifyed by them or the wage department. I contacted the CSA about this?

Thay asked relivant details etc it was for my daughter who is now 19 and is 20 november this year. I told the CSA my daughter 5 years ago staited she dident want any more contact also she was changing her name to her mothers new maiden name as she remarride.

Over 4 years i had bean unemployed due to ill health and depression I was receiving benifit £ 62 a fornight £ 10 a fortnight was taken out for my daughter. during this time the Job centre plus helped me to do acource as a Driving instructor in cars which i qaulifide so 14 months ago I worked as a driving instructor for a few months but the driving school companys take a large amount of the income. So i went back driving LGVs.

My understanding was once the child reached the age of 18 the maintainance stops. The DSA have staited its untill the person reaches the age of 20.

I have also received a letter from the CSA saying that thay will be taiking £ 560 a month Part arears also maintainance.

We are devistaited in that the DSA took these funds with out any notice now thay are saying thay will take a large chunk of my income.

PS my wife does not work totaly shocked.

The system criminalised me without evidence

January 29, 2015

My dealings with the CSA started 15 years ago as a young soldier who left the marital home because my partner was a abusive towards me.

I left two children in the care of my Ex with the intention of gaining custody.

My Ex made up aligations of abuse from myself and My name was tarnished an she was believed.

I was advised that my case of custody would not be heard.

Within four weeks my children of three and four years old were calling me by my first name and contact wis being withheld. I decided to apply for a contact order and more aligations of abuse and that my children did not know me as a father.

I went through a system that criminalised me and put distance between my children and I . I agreed arranged periods of contact watched and assessed when visiting my children. The initial contact was in a room with mirrored glass.

My children were made aware of this. Imagine what they were thinking and how any father would feel?

It was clear that my my children and I had a health and loving relationship and that they were be manipulated and lied to by my ex partner. This was the saddest thing to watch and live through I was helpless and angry. I could see the torment my children were going through and the more I pushed for long term overnight contact the more aligations and lies were expressed forced upon my children to believe.

At around the six month mark I dropped the contact order and agreed that the my ex should be given a residency order to try and put her mind at rest that I was not going to try for custody, but this was used against me in the coming moths in court. Eventually the CAFCAS people dealing with the case could see through the lies, sided with me and actually represented me in the case.

At this point I was paying CSA, court costs, travel fees, hotel fees and legal fees. I was asked to travel 250 miles for a four hour visit at weekends.

As a soldier there was not support system to deal with this situation, It got me into a large amount of debt not to mention the marital debt, which was all in my name. Contact was irregular and made difficult by an inflexible Ex, who knew the military system.

Court cases were cancelled and my Ex would not turn up to justify or explain the aligations.

I was left after 5 years with a doctors noet from my Ex’s solicitors that she suffers from anxiety and depression and cannot attend court until further notice.

The contact order could not be enforced and I ran out of money, and heart and steam. The CSA was relentless and made many with calculating what I had to pay. They took bonuses and operational pay into account from my pay statements and I over paid hundreds of pounds without any rebate.

I left the military because I was bankrupt and found that I was £400 a month better off living on on state benefits This wasn’t my way though and I travelled abroad for work. I spent a year getting my finances in order and rejoined the military.

When I rejoined I was not paid for for months by the Military by mistake and then I got a back log of money on my pay statements, this the CSA wrongly took into account as a monthly wage over calculated and put me into arrears.

I took several months of threatening letters and heated phone calls to sort it out.

I then spent the last several years pleading with the CSA to move me onto the new system as I was paying way more than newcomers onto the system, but excuses of backlogs were given and eventually I was told that my curcustances would have to change.

I eventually bought a house and my circumstances did change , but was never brought onto the new system despite constantly asking. it was only when I retired from the army and I was only living on my pension I was better off on the old system as my house mortgage of £900pm was taken into consideration when calculation my CSA payments.

What do you think happened when my Ex was advised that she would get more if I came onto the new system?

Yes you’ve guessed it , she then cancelled the CSA claim and exactly eleven weeks later made a knew claim on the new system of Child Maintainance. This now does not take into consideration my mortgage and has put me into negative equity every month.

I’m now being told that I have to pay a service fee because my Ex chooses not to let me pay her direct. Even though I’m a regular payer and the child maintenance team was too incompetent to get it set up when I requested it.

The conclusion is that these organisations are there to make money from the none residing parent and no matter what you say or do they will squeeze you for every penny. They will lie and manipulate the system and will not take into consideration your personal circumstances.

I set up a direct debit to pay the correct amount of Child Maint when I was against my will brought onto the new system. I have paid my child Maint regulary and on time for over 15 years and I flatly refuse to pay the admin fee , which has now amounted to over £480 . I would rather go to jail.

Can anyone help please?

The CSA only listens to PWCs

January 29, 2015

Been dealing with the inept idiots at the CSA for more than 10 years now. Gross inequality, a one rule fits all policy and a calculator that guarantees families are anything but supported by both parents fairly.

The CSA are only interested in the opinions of parents with primary care. Whether the the dad had a say in this doesn’t come into it.

My wife cleared off with another man and took my children with her. She then used the ‘more money if the dad doesn’t see his kids’ policy to make me pay as much as possible. I took her to court but she ignored the order. When I finally got to see the kids on a regular basis, she restricted sleep overs to keep her money. It’s a system unfit for purpose and open to abuse.

What frustrates me the most is media coverage that always portrays the poor mother, abandoned by the husband and complaining to the CSA. What about all those dads who are denied access to maximise earnings?

My ex-wife lives in a 6 bed roomed mansion that I used live in and she’s now married to a business man that earns far more than me, but she still manipulates access to have her pound of flesh. Child support? Maybe financially, but who really gets hurt in the long run? The children denied a father because mum wanted them to have another dad that she preferred. Disgraceful.

How do I make sure that my kids are cared for?

January 29, 2015

How can I prove that the money I give actually goes on my kids even tho I can’t prove it I know it doesn’t go on them?

Is there any way I can do it so she doesn’t get her hands on the money? Please help.

How can we make this fair?

January 28, 2015

Hi there, looking for a bit of advice before we take any further action. Me and me other half moved in together 6months ago he has 2 other girls one with his ex wife and the other with an ex partner.

He is on good terms with his ex partner but not his ex wife, he has agreed to pay them both £30 a week which he never misses, his ex wife moved away taking their daughter with her with the agreement that she would meet him half way when his daughter comes to stay as she lives 2hours away, this all stopped when I got with him and she became very bitter refusing to meet him half way and will not pay towards fuel costs which means he us paying 100 pounds a weekend to collect his daughter over the 4 hour journey.

He doesn’t mind going to get her but the money is a strain whilst still paying her the 30 a week on top. We have tried being reasonable with her but she had now cut it down to fortnightly visits because we can’t afford it she says it’s his fault that he doesnt get to see his daughter regularly, but it was her choice to move and is being completely unreasonable by not meeting half way.

He went online and has done the csa calculator and it stated he would have to pay £16 pw. So he has mailed her saying that they could go down the csa route or he could still pay the £30 pw if she is willing to go back to their original agreement and met him halfway on the journeys.

She replied back with a very bitter email saying he was denying their daughter of the money (even though it goes straight into her account) and saying that she wants my finance details as apparently my income will be taken into account if we go through csa? Is this true?

I am on a low jncome I only work 4 days a week and have a 3 year old daughter from a prev relationship that I need to support. He has replied back saying that he will pay half of his daughters clothes/shoes lessons etc if photos of recipes are taken. Which I think is acceptable as we don’t know what the money is being spent on? Also if she won’t budge us their any route we can go down for travelling expenses?

Any advice would be brilliant. Thank you.

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