I thought I was paying but then my work went into administration

March 28, 2014

I was paying csa as normal by giroslips every week and all of a sudden there send me a letter saying there don’t except it like that no more and but a deduction of earnings order against me which mean there forse my employer to take money out of my wages.

This was going on for about 8 month then all of a sudden my former company I work for goes into administration which was bad enough then I get a call of csa saying there weren’t getting the money of my former employers and that I was a thousand pounds in debt.

I was fume in because I’ve got wage slips to prove money was taken of me every week but there say because there never received it . It was still my debt and that I ave to reclaim the money back of my former company administration which I’ve tried for 7 months only for them to say I can’t get it back cos there no funds available.

So il lost nearly a thousands pounds which I can’t get back and I’m in arrears with the csa ave u any advice for me on how I can sort this matter out do the csa take responsibility for the money I’ve lost?

One night stand wants to use me for CSA

March 28, 2014

I had a one night stand with a girl i have no for a while, it was in the heat of the moment so stupidly we didnt use protection, i said to her to make sure she went to the clinic to get the morning after pill and even offered to drive her, but she said she would go with her friend.

A few days later i was talking to her and asked if she had gone she said she had but left it 2days after we had had sex and was apprently told the pill might not work??

Anyway its about 5 weeks down the line now and shes come out with “im pregnant your the dad and im getting csa off you”.

To start with i dont even no if im the dad because i was told she was with another man a few days after i slept with her which in its self is wrong, it just seems like shes trying it on i have asked her to produce the pregnancy test and she keeps telling me no saying that i dont care and shes just using me for csa now?

Im going absolutely crazy thinking about it, and on top of all this just to cap it off i later find out she’s had 2 children and both have been taken in care!!!

So basically what im asking is will i have too pay CSA?? will the child be taken into care if her other 2 have?? and what should i do please help??

If I could do without the pittance that he pays I would

March 27, 2014

Why can my ex get away with not paying regular payments even though he has an attachment to wages,also as this has happened more than too often why the csa can not do ANYTHING ABOUT IT?!

So i was told ,i mean i know they contact the employer and issue warnings and fines however this does not help me and the financial difficulties that we are in,why can he get away with not paying regular payments and thier must be other legal routes i can go down to make sure we get a payment every month without fail.

Why is their not stronger laws for this from what i can gather he is in cahoots with his employers and when he uses his gift of the gab to stop the them paying any money it takes up to 6 weeks at least to get back the money owed and then he is safe from any arrears because he payed within the next month.

He is only doing this because his son refuses to see him why cant anything be done he is responsible for a life and not only that but i have given details of a further employer who csa have not investigated i also know he earns more than he states.

I am not a money grabbing victim i have a child who is 6 years old and is growing fast believe me if i didnt need this pittance that he pays us i would go without and thats for sure.

They lied to me to buy time

March 27, 2014

First letter I ever received from the csa was in 2012 which I contacted them straight away told them I refuse to pay for a child I don’t see and is not biologically mine, then conversation got a bit more heated, and the person at the csa became very rude by “so your refusing to pay?”

I said would you, & then he said so you think it’s acceptable to create these children and not pay for them? Which got me really angry, to which they told the case had been going on since 2008, I said I’m not paying for a child that is not mine and that I want a DNA test done, they refused to help as the case had been opened to long, I could see I was not getting anywhere fast, so my last words was i’m not paying it and ended the call I never heard nothing again till recently February 2014 at my new address.

It was a assessment for attachment of earnings, which was incorrect said I was single with 1 child, i’m married with 2 children, so contacted again told them there assessment is wrong, and the child isn’t mine still refusing to help me, told me I need to do my own private dna, I said I don’t mind paying for the dna, the csa said but we wouldn’t get involved in that, yet again I was getting nowhere, so I contacted c.a.b, they said I will need to arrange a dna, so I contacted csa again, told them I’d been in touch with c.a.b, was gonna take it further, cause the child is not mine & there assessment is wrong.

Then the woman said hold the line please, then after about 10mins came back and offers me a dna test said can do it 1 of 2 ways either I pay up front and if not mine will refund the money or csa will pay and if mine I will have to pay the money for the test, I opted for the csa to pay and I said so what happens now, we contact you in a couple of weeks by letter to contact your doctor to arrange to have the swab done, so I have to do anything just wait for this letter? She said yes.

Then received a letter a couple of weeks later but not the letter I was waiting on, it was an attachment of earnings for £375.00 to start the 226th March, so I contacted the csa yet again, said that I’d received a letter of attachment of earnings, but no letter for a dna, he said why would we send you a letter for that? As we wouldn’t get involved in that now, I explained the conversation with the woman a couple of weeks ago, he said I can only apologise for what you was told, at this point you can imagine I was fuming, to which I responded I feel like I’ve been messed about just for you buying time to get this attachment of earnings started.

All kept saying was all I can i’m sorry for what you was told, I said sorry that means nothing to me, sorry ent gonna pay my bills and feed my family your sorry is costing me a 3rd of my wages, I ended the call by saying you haven’t heard the last of this!!!!

So I got friend to draft me up a letter of complaint, which I sent recorded delivery, then I contacted the c.a.b again, explained what had gone on, they logged everything that had gone on, onto their computer, said I need to write a letter of complaint, said I’ve already done that showed a copy of the letter I sent, he said OOk they have to respond within 15 days, which was Monday 24th March.

So contacted on 25th March, to be told hold the line will put you through to your case worker, was on hold for about 10mins, he then came back and said can’t put you through at the moment, can I take your number and get them to call you back, and I said how long will that be? He said within 24 hrs and im still waiting.

And so it still continues…..
Still being messed about by them…
And still not getting anywhere…
And paying for a child that isn’t mine. …

Any advice would be gratefully received.

She gets a cash incentive for not letting us see our son

March 27, 2014

Hi, my husband has a 9yr old son with his ex. She has never had him, but stops him for seeing us since we had our son.

She decided to go to the CSA even though we were giving her money. This was 2008. In 2012 she gave up his son completely to MY husbands mum.

We fought for over a year and they’ve now backdated the closure to 2012. They had £888 in arrears, we argued and now it’s £500.

We had shared care of him for a year in 2010, which we told them, they’re denying it and are still saying he owes £500. We’ve appealed and are waiting for an answer.

What I can’t understand is…. My husbands mum has taken care of his son for 241 days a year (fri-mon, and all the holidays). We challenged the csa about this, and they said “doesn’t matter as long as you haven’t got him.” She won’t let us have him because she gets a cash insentive for us not to have him, and palms him off to my husbands mum whenever she wants!

How is this fair? And is there anything we can do about it?

We’ve wrote to the MP, however the last time we did (2009) they just said we can’t comment on individual cases, because each case is different, they have a one size fits all policy. But she had him for 4 days a week, he was at school 8:30-3:20 and she put him to bed at 6pm.

My husband’s mum pays for everything and the money should have gone to her!!

Will he still have to pay arrears if he has paid some directly to me?

March 26, 2014

Ive had a case with the csa for around 2 years my ex failed to pay payments in full which the csa calculated which accumulated arrears.

He then payed me direct for a couple of months to avoid the arrears which i was happy with as rather some sort of contribution than nothing but then payments stopped and became irregular again.

So i went back to the csa and was told the arrears still stand even though he has made payments because he works regular and should be paying. But now im being told the arrears will go as he has paid me direct.

I have been informed several different things from different people can anyone help??

I’m constantly being fobbed off by the CSA

March 26, 2014

April 2013 I put in a claim to the csa. Its now march 2014 and I havn’t even recieved 1 penny in money, despite them taking money from his wages in feb.

Im constantly having to call them every week, to be told a different stories every week. Its so frustrating. My daughter dad doesnt give A shit about the welfare of his child, has never asked or thought to buy her any clothes shoes ect. He lives at home with his mum, drives a convertable, spends money taking women out on dates. This is why ive had to go to the csa and they have failed me like has.

I made a complaint over the fone 3weeks ago, the csa contaced me saying they will award me with compensation, im still waiting. They are even blaming the fathers work for not passing on the payment which I do not believe there payroll department has done, being its a professional place.

Yesterday I send an email to my local MP.I will also be requesting a copy of my CSA files.

Can anybody sugguest anything else. and has anybody recieved compensation from the csa and for how much.

Please HELP!

What options do I have to keep my abusive ex at bay?

March 26, 2014

I’m due to give birth next week and am desperate to move on with my life away from my possessive, violent ex.

He is currently being treat for depression and drinks too much. His divorce has finally completed last month and he has a relationship with his 12year old son. He has him 1night through the week and every other wkend and coaches him at rugby.

To the outside world he is plausable and a good dad but i have witnessed myself only this jan him throw his son roughly into bed and scream abusive foul language at him. This is partly why i left him.

Throughout my pregnancy i tried to remain amicable, hoping he would be decent and sensible for the baby, no luck. Now i truly feel it in her best interests to be raised in a stable, loving environment by myself.

I have reams of drunken abusive texts which i did show a solicitor last month. Was advised not to put his name down when i reg the birth. We live 1half hours apart and part of me is hoping he will leave us alone but im concerned he will demand access, court, dna in order to get PR or file for a contact order.

I’m willing to sacrifice the csa money if it means he stays away am i correct in thinking that to obtain csa he needs to have PR? If he does fight for PR and access am i entitled to reclaim her money from birth?

He is so unpredictable and self absorbed and this is my first child, the stress and upset he causes is too much and i dont want my baby to suffer.

I’m well aware that people say children have the right to see their fathers but every circumstance is different and i think the mother has to be able to decide. He changed as soon as he found out i was expecting.

I’m unsure of whether to mention to social services about his volatile temper. I was informed in cases where there is domestic violence the father is kept away and also the mother is awarded legal aid. My only worry is he will play the perfect dad routine with his son and it will be my word against his.

If he behaves in a respectable way i will prob allow him to see the baby with my parents present providing he contributes even 100 quid a month to her care. if he wants to play doting daddy he can chip in!

The only thing hes given me whilst ive been pregnant is a load of abuse and a punch in the face! if i offer him limited access and try and make own financial arrangements in this way and he refuses what options do i have to keep him at bay?

Why am I still paying for my son if he is interned in hospital?

March 25, 2014

My son assaulted me and for the last 12 weeks been in a Mental Health Hospital undergoing Assessment.

Due to his Risk he has also been Assessed for permanent residential care depending on medical diagnosis.

CSA will not stop my Payments as I am the NRP. But I thought CSA was for a child living in Home Environment to pay for all necessities in life , the PWC has not had to buy anything besides shower gel.

Surely there is legal Argument? – in this very traumatic case.

I may lose my partner due to stifling payments

March 25, 2014

My partners son turns 16 this month, he is registered disabled and get disability living allowance when he turns 16 so will my partner have to pay csa still?

My and my partner have 3 kids a 2 year old and 6 month old twins so money is very low in our house as it is, so having to pay csa will end up splitting us up or making my partner leave yet another job, plz help!

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