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Can my ex just cut down on my payments to buy other things?
April 29, 2014
My ex husband pays me csa of £56.00 per week for one of our children.
He wants to take him away in august and him and his new wife has told me they are stopping £20.00 per week from the 23rd may for 10 weeks to pay for some new clothes for his holiday.
Can he do this without my permission?
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i think that is fair you still get money and your little boy gets a holiday gaurentee if he went on holiday with out your little boy you would be moaning its not about your permission its about the child he wants to save abit of money so your little boy can have some clothes and possibly some spending money its being spent on your little boy so i think its more than fair. x
Of course he can! Hate people like this! The money your not receiving is being spent on your son! Stop being greedy because I doubt the £56 even goes on your son
Firstly his new partner has no say in the matter at all if it’s a private arrangement then it’s up to you both to agree on the terms if you don’t agree then go through CSA but it is best to try and be amicable first. If it’s through CSA then no he can’t just pick and choose what he pays that’s assessed by them if he fails to pay it then arrears will arise
well the money still going on ur child so yeah i think it fair .
Don’t see anything wrong with that at all…..the money’s being spent on ur son…..unless u don’t usually spend HIS money on him……
Why doesn’t she have a say at the end of the day she is his wife so yeah she has a say in the financial side
Oh my god how greedy are you and as for permission my god are you his boss
Because the child isn’t her child regardless of wether or not the ex has married or not
I bet she expects the wife to pay though like a lot of women do
No she expects the child’s father too. So then in your view she should have a say over her exs new wives children too then??? No because they are nothing to do with her. Things are complicated enough for the actual parents to sort out with out clinger ons who have no right to any say
You could take it through csa but you could end up losing money £56 is alot per week !!!
But the child is going to be with his wife and their finances are together are they not?
Wish my ex was like the op but sadly not, so think yourself very lucky!
If you haven’t got your son then technically he doesn’t have to pay you anything whilst the boy is in his father’s care….if the shoe was on the other foot bet you’ll feel differently!
Exactly ^ as he is with them you should get bog all for 2 weeks. Don’t be greedy, it is likely that some of this clothes will end up at your house is it not, so you will be saving on not have to buy some for a while yourself!!!
So if the dad wants to take the kid on holiday he can decide to keep £20 a week towards this ….. Wether it’s for clothes or whatever is irrelevant …… If the mother was taking the kid on holiday would she then be able to demand an extra £20 a week so she can kit him out in new clothes for going? …… It should surely have been a conversation between them both to decide something like this …… And as for calling the mum greedy , does it cross any1s mind that perhaps this money is already relied upon to pay for other weekly expenses for the child , it’s not bloody cheap raising a child
if people were not so greedy they would not have gone to the csa in the begining,& children are expensive to raise they need:- false nails
wine
hair extensions
spray tans,the list is endless.!
Colette…I was a single mother of 2 who gets nothing in maintenance let alone an ex who wants to take the kids away on holiday, which would be welcomed for a break. It isn’t cheap raising kids, but unlike the nrp the pwc in a majority of cases get help in additional benefits to help with this cost. In my opinion yes the op is being unreasonable and like I said the nrp does have a right to some child benefit whilst the child is in his care. The money is still being spent on the child which is what maintenance is for.
@ Colette
Wind your neck and NO she has no right to demand any more from the ex if she was the one taking the kid on hols…what do you think he pays CSA for in the first place.
He pays HER remember! for looking after his child…his contribution all the while the pwc has the child. Why should he pay whilst the child’s in his care?
Next you will agree that the pwc should get the same payment each month even if the Nrp had the kids overnight on a regular basis…lol…and as for other expenses…..well that’s tough…..go get a job I say…the CSA dictate what the Nrp pays and he he don’t get any help in way of other benefits..unlike the pwc.
Gonk
@amanda Johnson
First of all, she is not his new partner, she is his wife. And as his wife, they are a partnership, legally all he owns his hers and vica versa, they are ONE so finances are EVERY thing to do with her and she has every right to dictate THEIR finances to his ex as far as I’m concerned
Oh and I guessed you be commenting on this thread. You choose the threads that suit you, don’t you Amanda. And 9 times out of 10 you choose to comment in favour of a pwc.
I didn’t see any comments from you yesterday about the guy who is contemplating suicide…not even a word of sympathy….disgusting !!!
Gonk
Oh and Amanda Johnson
I’d bet a yrs salary that if this pwc thought their was a way to bleed the new wife of cash for her kids? She be straight onto the CSA to enforce it.
Gonk
I agree totally Amanda !! I’m sure I would have been able to come to an agreement with my ex about our children if his new partner hadn’t been involved ! Not every single woman is a money grabber in the same sense that not every single man is selfish and irresponsible !
Don’t have any of those or drink etc but it costs I raise children and that’s what Nrp are contributing to
Exactly no one person decides anything it’s a joint decision but if both don’t agree it won’t work
Or how about a home , gas, electric , food , clothes etc …..