CAB told me that people take their own lives because of the CSA – what can I do?

June 28, 2013

I split from my ex over 10 years ago. We have 2 boys who were aged about 11 and 5 at the time. She was bitter and went to the CSA. I refused to give the CSA money as I would rather give the money to my kids, take them out etc.

Things were ok. I was working full time and seeing my kids every week and they were staying overnight. We went to restaurants for dinner, football matches, days out in the car etc. She seemed happy with that as she kept saying that she didn’t want my money, she just wanted me to do my bit with the boys. Which was fair enough.

I left my job through stress and started my own business. It wasn’t easy and I had little or no income. My boys were still staying every weekend but I couldn’t take them out as I had been. After 3 years of really struggling my business went bust. The bank repossessed my flat and had me evicted. I then had to move in with my girlfriend who was a single parent. The bank had the flat valued at 85,000 and put it on the market. After a while they flat sold. The bank accepted 65,000 for it and by the time debts were paid I was left with nothing.

The CSA meanwhile had stepped in and claimed 12,500 from the sale of the flat to cover arrears that they said were owed. I was still seeing my boys and I eventually got another full time job which meant I could start taking the boys to places and doing more with them again.

I split from my girlfriend a while later and had to move in with my brother for a while before renting a flat of my own. Then I started seeing someone else and after about 6 months I moved in with her.

By this time my boys are 20 years old and 14 years old. My ex then got back in touch with the CSA and I received a letter telling me that they were arresting my wages. I was still seeing my boys and taking them to football matches, cinema etc regularly. My next payslip showed a deduction of almost 600 pounds. That was in January 2012. In October 2012 my engagement to my fiancee fell apart under the stress of the payments being taken from my wages and our struggle to pay for the wedding etc which was planned for July 2013 and I am now back living at my brothers with no way of affording to rent my own place let along furnish it.

I can’t have my boys to stay overnight because there is no room. I am now limited to having a few games of pool with my boys at the weekend because it is all I can afford. The CSA have been taking 600 pounds from my wages every month since January 2012. My take home pay was around 1,400 pounds per month before payment of any bills etc and now I am working for almost 800 pounds per month. I have to contribute to my brothers flat and buy food etc and he doesn’t work. This is killing me and it seems like there is nothing I can do about it. I went to the Citizens Advise Bureau and was told by the guy there that he had heard of people taking their own lives because of the CSA. That really doesn’t help. What can I do?



4 Responses to “CAB told me that people take their own lives because of the CSA – what can I do?”

  1. Peter Brown on June 28th, 2013 12:14 pm
  2. Mark on June 28th, 2013 1:41 pm

    There is help, as the law has changed.

    Great website.

  3. Lisa on June 28th, 2013 3:53 pm

    They actually are right, the CSA have in fact made so many men commit suicide over wrongful enforcement, wrong debt, accusing men of being fathers that actually were not, and taking money on the say so of some women is despicable, we want action to get the place closed, its a disgrace, it needs to happen before another man takes his own life and poor kids are lfet without a father over a few quid,

  4. Mrs Beckham 2 on June 28th, 2013 7:24 pm

    I thought the CSA could only take a max of 40% of your wages?? – I don’t mean ‘only’ as in a small or acceptable amount I mean their fkin made up bullshit rules!
    I can’t work out why they are taking so much off you if they took £12k off the sale of your flat!! And how the hell did they get their hands on the flat money?? Surely a solicitor would have been involved?? Sounds like stealing to me.
    Mind you the CSA are a bunch of thieves – CSA could actually mean Conniving Stealing Arseholes!!
    They stand for a lot worse!! It’s deffo NOT child ‘support’ though that’s for damm sure!!

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