Why am I paying for children I don’t get to see?
August 30, 2013
She stopped me having contact with my kids even when we had been through the courts. she knew she used the kids to hurt me – she even changed kids name to her new husbands name without me knowing.
Its not as if I was hiding I was in the next village to her. she knew where I was but kept on telling me no way was I having contact with them .I am not a runaway dad as the csa like to put it as I have married again brought up a stepchild and had a boy of my own we have claimed nothing for my stepchild who I have loved as my own.
my former children are now 33 and 31. they are taking nearly 300 pounds a month out of my wages which I cant afford .the dates they are claiming for are from 1993 to 2000. not only that I had a letter off them on the Friday they took my money out of my wages on the Tuesday how can they do that when it has taken me 7 months so far still not got finale paperwork waiting for it to seek legal advise
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If kids had your surname then no way can she change names with out your consent
RT @CSAHell: Why am I paying for children I don’t get to see?: She stopped me having contact with my kids even when … http://t.co/t9TKUc…
Not on at all! There should be a law if the mother refuses access then you don’t have to pay as much!! At least then those mothers who do it to get more money won’t win, the children will as they get both parents! And after all that’s what it should be about!!
Sound bit like what I have to put up with apart from she’s being ok at the moment.
But do you have PR rights if you do she done wrong and you may be able to get it changed back
The law needs to be changed and its not hard for them to use their brain. and this is one reason why. Fathers do need to pay for their children but the way in which payments are worked out needs to change. Like payments are worked out after LIFE bills and taken into account first like food rent etc. Then they also needs to look at the full household income of the mother and take that into account so the money doze go to mums who really do need it not mums who want the use it to pay their new car off why you cant pay your rent.. They need to stop taking into account working tax credits and child tax credits on the fathers side as an income also. Also if the mother will not let you see you kids you should pay less. It the mother gets married or moves in a new partner then that’s a family unit and a parent who hardy sees their child should not pay a full amount. Like this if you agree and for this to change everyone being used as a money cow needs to come together to have there vice heard. Maybe everyone wright a letter to your MP telling what’s happened to you and tell em you want how its worked out to change all on the same day lol? Its not going change by just griping about it on here.
Cannot change surnames without your consent. I have an ex like yours, good luck to the guys who take them on. If your name is on the birth cert then drag her vindictive and spiteful ass back to court!
the story states the children are now over 30, so there’s very little that can be done, unless your the csa who are still taking money. this is bull shit… contact your MP now!!
She can actually change her kids surname by deed pole thou and doesn’t need your consent for that unfortunately
It’s only if her new partner wants to adopt them and change name that she needs your consent to do so