Trouble ex causes means I cannot see my daughter
May 11, 2012
I have £10,700 in arrears. My own fault as wife and I emigrated in 2008 to Canada. After being laid off 5 times with different companies we decided to call it a day and come back home. I had every intention to pay, even wrote the letter to be sent. A week after starting my new job, rumour went round of possible lay-offs. 6 weeks later I was out of work. No money and not allowed to find alternative work because I was a temporary foreign worker and had to go through mountains of paperwork just to find a company that would sponsor me again, they then had to convince the government why they should employ someone otside Canada when there were thousands out of work. (Canadians by the way prefer not to work for less than $25 an hour but prefer to go fishing and snow boarding instead).
3 months later I was asked for an interview, secured the job and then was laid off again. This happened 5 times and in between jobs I was told I wasnt allowed even to pick up a broom. One nervous break down and attempted suicide (really), we had to come home.
Meanwhile, the CSA had been forgotten. After securing work back in the UK, the CSA were all over me like a rash. All I have out of £1166 a month now is £792 that pays for rent, council tax and utility bills. I am not allowed money for fuel to get to work, (240 miles a week), money for food or car insurance. They have made a deductions of earnings order for the next 12 months of £374. I may as well walk away from my job and take cash in hand work. the wife is off work with depression and stress caused by all of this. i tried reasoning with the CSA, but I may as well talk to our neighbours cat, he has more sense and feelings. The CSA should be abolished and branded as uncaring, incompetant, and utterley useless in understanding the feelings of the NRP who has already has to deal with the break up of his family.
The courts should be given back the power to deal with this and not an unsympathetic bunch of low lifes who meddle in peoples lives. My ex partner told me to *off and that I will never see my *ing daughter again. That was just over 8 years ago – and true to her word, I havent seen my daughter.
I think of her most every day but when I think of the trouble I will have to go through to see my daughter, (as on my ex’s terms), it would seem the best course of action is no action. There are ways to beat the system without having to go through costly solicitors but you are going to have to get cash in hand work and keep quiet about it. Work hard and put the money by.
That’s my story.