The ONE Show wants your help

April 20, 2009

BBC One’s The ONE Show is making a film about disputed parentage with regards to the CSA. If this affects you and you’d like to speak to someone from The ONE Show read the below message and contact the BBC on one of the phone numbers, or the email address listed.

The ONE Show- Film about Disputed Parentage

We are making a film on ‘Disputed Parentage’ for The ONE Show, a primetime topical magazine show that transmits every weekday evening on BBC ONE at 7pm.

For the film we would like to speak to men and women who have been in this situation.

It will be an informal chat with a view to doing an interview at some point this week.

You can contact me on 01612443248 or 07843023251. Alternatively you can email me on [email protected]

Comments

  • letfo1n says:

    Hi there me and my partner split up Sept 2007 and he sees his son twice a week. We agreed a mutual agreement of £80 a month from June 2008. I wsn’t happy with this knew, he was entitled to more but did not do anything anout it as did not want to cause confrontation. And because the father keeps getting out loans with provident and debt prolems he said cannot afford anymore. So each time I went to the CSA to set up a claim i was cancelling it just as quick as I was setting it up due to this.

    I returned to work after having my son part-time whilst my new partner worked full time and went with a private registered childminder paying out the £271 myself and just getting his £20 a week. I was getting working tax credits help to help towards the cost of childcare but this stopped when the review came round (where the inland revenue takes both of your earnings for that year into account.) anyway both of our waes was taken into account and the £70 a week stopped from June 2008. So struggling to meet paying towards chilcare and paying a £394 a month for loans and £20 a week off the father so thought was enough was enough. I am going to see what my son was entitled to as heard from others I can receive more. So 18th dec 2008 set up the claim with CSA. They decided the father was to pay £30.86 a week plus arrears £12.86 making it £147.52 a month up to jan 2010. He appealed about the arrears and I have to go to a tribunal 3.6.09 in Brighton about it.

    The thing is I have received one payment only since I set up the claim 18th dec 2008 on the 23rd march of £167.18 and asof today not received the fathers March’s in April.Aprils in May yet and by the time I go to court will be due the Mays one. (10-15 days apparently it reached the CSA after the father gets paid then I get it so a month later.)

    I have phoned the CSA numerous times saying where is my money as the father reckons he has paid the CSA. CSA said not received any payments so ring again saying the father said he has paid you they say they are contacting his payroll still hear nothing a aweek later..I receive a letter from susan yates director of delivery saying their debt dept is setting up an attachment of earnings order and will come back with an income.(i thought they set it up at the beginning.)so I ring again 2/5/09 customer service said. Debt dept are seeing what the father has paid,should be paying,and arrears should be paying she will put a note on then screen and they will ring with an outcome. As of today still heard sweet FA.

    Why does it take for me to ring the CSA 0845 number costing me a bomb eac time for me to find out not received any payments surely they should have rung me. I have not had one sorry,one call to say what they are doing or follow up call even though I had sent them an email of complaint no reply no phone call stillll waiting 17th may 2009. So have sent the tribunal in brighton where I have the hearing 3.6.09 confirmation of all of this. And even sent watchdog anm email now you. I and others will agree that CSA has too many depts that do not liase with each other. Just a sorry or a phone call at least is good customer service dont take too much. I am totally annoyed on the way I have received no money for nearlly 3 months. no phone call from CSA once. Me and my partner all we do is argue about the fathers appealing of an extra £5 a week my son is owed and the CSA. As this is all I go on about all day to him. I tell you it is making me ill. I wish I could wake up and think of something else but can’t.

    Its like getting blood out of a stone. Miss Natalie Letford. I am so annoyed at their rubbish service. I just hope I get my money.!!!as someones got it if the father said he has paid them.

  • Amanda Hart says:

    I’m sorry you are going through with this but i am sorry to tell you that this is only the beginning!!!

    I have been trying to get money from my sons father for 10 yrs and the most I have ever recieved is £2.50 a wk!!!!!!!!!

    REASON-
    Works full time for a few wks/months.
    I get to know employers address and details
    contact csa
    Sons father goes to local doctors complains of being stressed and is signed on the sick
    CSA contacts me to tell me yet again no money cos he doesn’t earn enough.
    No money for months
    Gets new job
    And the circle of my life and the CSA continues

    Constant phone calls from me my expense!!!!!

    What annoys me so much is that he does owe me so much money and I have never recieved any money because of this the CSA say that the bailliffs are now going to get the money

    NOT CONVINCED

    In process of writing to my local MP and also writing a leter of complaint to my local doctors surgery that they are letting an able working man to go on the sick for the past ten yrs every time he has to start paying money for his son!!!

    GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE ELSE WHO IS IN THE SAME SITUATION AS ME AS I KNOW I AM NOT ALONE.

  • I have not had any payments for nearly 2 years. My ex is self employed he has had £36,000 from an insurance claim and he has a motorbike 2 cars a caravan a good lifestyle and still wont pay every time i ring the csa they are looking into it.

  • Sanity says:

    Why does your EX having “£36,000 from an insurance claim and he has a motorbike 2 cars a caravan a good lifestyle” have anything to do with the cost of bringing up your children, so you like many others out there believe that when you EX makes more money all of a sudden your children start costing you more to bring up!

    This is just one of the examples why the CSA is just a weapon for jelous or vindictive EX’s to get back at the bad ex husband!

    Just wait for the counter claims to roll in, soon happen when the CSA folds and all those EX- HUSBANDS claim for trauma and loss of earnings!

    He who laughs last and all!

  • Jaime says:

    I have been fighting with the csa for 5 years. My ex husbadn paid nothing for years, has gone to tribunal twice. He is now a director of his own complany, has a clever accountant who has shown the csa he earns nothing. His lifestyle shows the opposite. Anyway he finally paid off his arrears last week, and I am still WAITING for the csa to pay me the money. I raise these children off my own back, could really use this money he has paid, and they are now telling me I have to wait for their systems before I will receive the money. They are HOLDING my money and I need it. I spent an hour (on my phone bill) trying to get someone to call the finance dept today to have my money sent to me, and they wouldn’t.
    I can’t believe I have to wait any longer. The child support agency has let me and my children down, time and time again, while my ex lives it up….. Its disgusting. When will it be illegal to not support your children????????

  • James O says:

    Jaime –

    Sounds like you feel your ex partner is not allowed to prosper?
    Why is it you begrudge him the life he has worked so hard for – why not start your own company and make money the same way he does?

    Women allways think they have the raw deal – why dont you ask him to pay for childcare so that you can get out and work. Being an entrepeneurial type, he would REVEL in making you go out and EARN a living and some respect and would probably be more open to that than just handing you money every month.

    A different approach could work a miracle!

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