She refuses a DNA test so where would I stand with the CSA?
July 18, 2013
Back a few years I was in a relationship with someone, who I was more than happy with, but she didn’t seem so happy with me. Several times she would brag about sleeping around behind my back, as she was so free to get away with it because we lived 50 miles apart (though not exactly long distance).
Inevitably, we split up. One day I had a call out of the blue, asking to meet. It was then she told me she was pregnant, despite her going for regular pill injections (which I found out via a member of her own family that she wasn’t going because she wanted a baby).
Despite the deciet I was up for it, but all the bragging about sleeping around was niggling away. This coupled with her own mother telling me the baby wasn’t mine made me doubt the baby would be mine. So, I requested a dna test, which she refused. She also refused to tell me the due date and how far gone she was. This made me even more sceptical.
Anyway, the baby was born, and given the timing of the birth, this would have meant she caught in the last few days of our relationship. Then, thanks to her mother yet again, I found out the baby was more than a month premature, so there was no chance the baby could be mine.
Being me though, I wanted to know the truth, and once again asked for a DNA test. Once again, she refused, so I walked away. Was I wrong to do this? I have watched the child from afar, and had bumped into them both, although the mother didn’t recognise me due to significant changes in my appearance. As much as I would love for the child to be mine, all the evidence weighs against that, and the mother had previously refused to provide any evidence to say I am the father. Nonetheless, this plays on my mind many years later.
So, what has this to do with CSA? Well, where would i stand if she were to try claim CSA? I am still in contact with some members of her family, who still say the child isn’t mine, but i know full well she denies that i’ve ever asked for dna tests to everyone, and says i just walked away without a care. I would not put it past her to try claim csa at some point.