Comments on: Parents who work 6 months out of the country avoid payments

By: Ex owns two houses and still I pay CSA | (CSA) Child Support Agency

Ex owns two houses and still I pay CSA | (CSA) Child Support Agency — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 11:31:21 +0000

[...] yes as i said nothing but thieves so good on the father for doing what he is doing [...]

By: Mikel

Mikel — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:26:31 +0000

I whole heartedly agree with your comments, this system is fundamentally floored. I am, in fact, from the other side of the coin; I have an ex-partner who has done nothing other than try to stop me seeing my children, despite them repeatedly stating their desire to see me, for the last 6 years in a somewhat elongated legal case. Thanks to the CSA; I am now in a position where, if I take a job and based on the 25% of my wedges they propose to take, I will become homeless! It is a ludicrous situation, I am an engineering graduate who would like to buy a house, yet at a time when the government is complaining of a shortage of home-grown engineers as vindication for immigration of the same, I will be essentially forcibly exiled from my indigenous country if I want to earn a living! I am also reliably informed, by my children, that any money I have sent, prior to CSA involvement, was not spent on my children but on my ex-partner’s new partner’s children! Indeed I often have to buy new clothes for my children, despite sending money for clothes etc., as soon as they are handed over to me, as they turn up looking like extras from the musical Oliver. Social Services are less than useless; I am in fact convinced they operate to accommodate their own personal ‘politically correct’ agendas (never met a Caucasian, heterosexual male social worker yet). This ultimately leaves me with the option of moving abroad, while travelling back to maintain a relationship with my children, and paying for essential educational or other items such as clothing etc. whilst simply placing the maintenance I can afford into some form of high interest account for the children to use at a later date. And, of course, a house left to them when I ‘josh it’ to give them a decent start in life. Am I wrong?

By: chall

chall — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 17:55:19 +0000

Quote Nicola; ‘Hope one day this gap will be filled so that no more children are affected..’
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There are many gaps that need to be filled…
There’s good and bad on both sides of the fence, whether they are NRP’s OR PWC – Its always our child/ren that end up losing out though!

Sadly, its a system that our children are going to inherit, unless we are ALL prepared to stand up and be counted – can you sit back and let it happen?

Join us at http://www.afairercsaforall.co.uk

By: Nicola

Nicola — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 12:27:58 +0000

Hi there. same situation, been told ex is now resident in non reciprocal country therefore no jurisdiction. He lives 10 mins away from house, home every 8 weeks for 2 weeks parading around in his porsche and mercedes with his partners and her kids. Doesn’t keep in touch with his own child and refuses to financial support as he thinks he is no longer financialy liable. Not nice feeling written off by government in which I have been a taxpayer all my life. Only action I can take is to accept decsion made my laws of our land. Whatever happened to enforcing Childrens Act??

Hope one day this gap will be filled so that no more children are affected and lead into poverty for the sake of selfish NRP’s.

By: toma76

toma76 — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 17:55:50 +0000

I have read your comments and boy I thaught I was the only one feeling this pitfall. I have been supporting my daughter from birth, even lived with my expartner for two year of my daughter being born. CSA had stung me in 2004 (daughter age 4 ) which made me have to leave my job as I couldn’t afford to pay for my living expense.. Yes you guess change my job..The mother and I had made an agreement on supporting my daughter which I thaught was fine for years, but I seem that CSA alway influence her by saying she could get more from the father which makes her greed progress. My outstanding debt is now £19000. which has now gone to debt collector who contacted me once and promised to send me a form for payments as I refused to give payment details over the phone..Now in 2009 I have been contacted CSA debt team stating I owe the state over £2000 and this is a new case from 2007. What is going on…I have also been told whatever I been giving my daught is a gift and they will preceed in withdrawing from my earings until debt has been paid off and will calulate what I should..I have been married and new born ect and all these details they need expecially present partners..I have now stopped giving anything to my daughter and I don’t see her as much as I don’t have the funs to do so..

This system is not about the children its all about the there pockets on so call systems.

This will now lead me to leave my job, move or even drop my hours down at work and go on benifits (last option)..

I use to have my daughter from fri/sat and take her to school on monday morning, but now I just a phone call.. This sytsem makes me feel I don’t do anything at all.

When will this be over..

By: ivan

ivan — Thu, 28 May 2009 19:13:47 +0000

Im fed up of all the anti ‘absent father’s’ comments. I was forced out of my own house due to the behaviour of my disturbed ex wife. Then she sued for divovorce and decided to milk me like a cash cow, even though she repeatedly refused me access to my 3 young sons. She shacked up with a window cleaner and cohabitted even though I paid the mortgage every month and suypported my sons whenever I could. I got into terrible debt to support my sons.

Now that I have a small inherittance comiong and have opened a small business, guess what? she is pursuing me again with the impoverished, left without a penny stories again to the CSA. She just got £34,000 last year from the sale of our ex house, yet the pikey window cleaner she married also seems to want cash from me. I pay money every month to my son who is the only one under 16, which is more than the CSA would take anyway. But the venegeful ex wife wants this for herself to fund her lavish lifestyle.

There are always two sides to every story. Its just that the Dads get all the bad press.

The bottom line is, if your wife goes mental, she shacks up with someone else. remarries and does everything in her power to keep you away from your own children, I’m sorry but she should not gain a penny from the sucker ex husband. The CSA are nothing more than financial facists.

By: Csa victim

Csa victim — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 10:02:27 +0000

My problem is, last night a recent phone conversation with a lady at the csa, was completely un helpfull towards my situation, the person in question tried to force me to take out debt onto a credit card which i do not have, i said i did not have a credit card, i was then told to use a friends credit card. Tell me, do you have friends that would put 3,000 pounds on a credit card for you? I explained my situation to the person, and her responce was that i would be sent to prison for 56 days if i failed to pay up immediately, as i’m in no position to pay up immediately, looks like i’ll be going to prison for christmas! thanks very much to the man hating csa!

By: Rowley

Rowley — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 18:53:05 +0000

If the CSA do not jurisdiction because of off shore activities then the courts do under the Children Act 1989. Go see a solicitor. There are recipricol arrangements with overseas countries re maintenance.

By: Jem

Jem — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:18:15 +0000

Hummm… as a father who’s looked after his kids 50/50 since 2003 since ex played away; has a job that frequent overseas travel yet negotiated to work from uk 2 weeks in 4, one of which is WF; put a Consent Order in place that completely covered care & financial arrangements (CSA have the power to over rule this); bought out ex from home to give kids stability …. and this is just the tip of the iceburg but lets not write a life story… the CSA’s attitude is just rape the bloke who does more than just the right thing because they can and forget what it’s all about, caring for MY kids becuase their mother let them down.

The CSA is just legalised thuggery, only interested in hearing and interpreting the law in their way, so easily see why so many NRP’s sell up & work permanantly overseas … and let the welfare pick up the pieces. There’s all this rubbish about ‘a criminal offence if you make a false declaration’… not if you are my ex there isn’t, as official response all they way was no case to answer when conclusively proved her many submissions of lie after lie.

… and then they wonder why people take the law into their own hands, bunch of Muppets the lot of them ….

ah… feel much better now… and for any of you that feel like giving up, remember, one day it will be over, so look forward to that day & never give up…

By: Paula Barrett

Paula Barrett — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 12:46:59 +0000

Hi, thanks for all your comments. I really did need payments from my daughters father for quite some time as I really struggled but its true what they say what you dont have you dont miss. I feel sorry for her dad cause he has missed out on seeing his daughter just so he doesnt have to pay money. I did invite him and his family and even put them up at my mums house and even my own at one stage. I contacted the csa on a few occassions to ask them to cancel the case as it was really disheartening when nothing ever appeared after the letters telling me that I was getting money for her. I dont depend on his money now cause I have worked hard and at times had 2 jobs and studied to improve my job prospects. If I had some help financially I wouldnt have had to do so much but I also wouldnt have appreciated all the things I earned especially the valuable time with my daughter. I really feel for some fathers who are messed around but I never once said no to access and I had no choice but to involve the csa when she was little as I continually asked for money but he drank it all and bought items such as bikes and cars so he hadnt any left over. If a father wants to pay he should without being forced I agree but if they did pay in the first place they would be more of a man. I have no hatred towards her father he is welcome anytime however being labeled a dad is something he will have to earn as like most parents you have to earn respect from your children as much as we respect them as individuals.