New CSA rules 2011

October 24, 2010

I heard that CMEC is one of the quangoes to be quashed by the government, however, the csa will remain but a new system will be introduced in 2011, I found this on a lawyers website to explain it, People most likely to benefit from changes to the Child Support Agency are the self-employed, says a Kent family law solicitor.

The CSA is to be replaced by the Child Maintenance and Enforcement Commission(CMEC).

Susi Gillespie, 33, a solicitor in the family law team at leading regional law firm Furley Page, comments: “The new regime is assessed on gross rather than net income. If you are self-employed you can ‘pay’ yourself in ways that incur less tax and you can also claim tax relief on all kinds of things that wouldn’t be possible under PAYE. In effect, you can generally keep more of your income.
“This doesn’t mean you’re acting illegally. It’s just the inevitable result of a tax system that allows people to claim reliefs because they have to go to the trouble of completing a tax return – and different types of income are taxed at different rates.”
There are three main changes to the CSA, explains Susi.

First, percentages applied to the paying party’s income under CMES above £800 a week are lower. The paying party will now pay 12% of gross income up to £800 a week in respect of one child; 16% for two, and 19% for three or more children. (The current CSA rates of 15% for one child; 20% for two, and 25% for three children are applied to the whole of the paying party’s net income below £2,000 a week.) Income above £800 a week gross (the ceiling is £3,000 a week) will be subject to the above percentages for the first £800 with lower percentages of nine per cent for one child; 12% for two, and 15% for three or more children applied to the remainder.

“However,” says Susi, “the potentially unhelpful rule allowing the paying party a reduction of one seventh for every 52 nights a year that the child or children stay over with them is unchanged so the other party still has a financial incentive to restrict this facility.”
(For people already being assessed by the CSA for maintenance, the new rates won’t come into force until 2011.) Second, private agreements will be upheld – even where the receiving party gets benefits and payments in kind such as contributions towards school uniforms, clothes or holidays.

But Susi points out that as the existing rule allowing either party to apply for an assessment after an agreement contained in a court order is more than 12 months old continues to apply, it will be impossible to negotiate financial agreements with any certainty that the agreed levels of child support will remain the same.

Third, child maintenance will not affect the receiving party’s benefits claim in any way. This change will be implemented from April 2010.


73 Responses to “New CSA rules 2011”

  1. Brokenfather on October 24th, 2010 11:07 am

    Where exactly did you hear that CMEC will be disbanded?

    The new ‘gross earnings’ assessments is not news, its been known for some considerable time.

  2. graeme on October 24th, 2010 11:56 am

    This will be another failure. I say this because they will probably do the following:

    1. All new cases from 2011 will be put on this scheme.

    2. All cases currently under CS2 will then be transferred over… that will take another 7 years.

    3. ALL cases on CS 1 will remain on this till CS2 has been transferred, hence another 7 year wait.

    So in 14 years time when my son is 27, I may expect to get transferred to the new scheme.

    Hell I have been waiting 7 years already to get transferred to cs2 . Would save me a load of money. But they wont do that.. Why?… because I am an easy target fot the thieving corrupt malicious parasites in this Agency. I work I pay.. I want to pay for my son.

    Rant overwith.

    In the meantime we will all be merrily screwed financially.

    Have a nice day everyone.


  3. Sylvia Dunai on October 24th, 2010 4:26 pm

    So are parents with care gonna be worse off then?

  4. Kate Camilleri on October 24th, 2010 5:16 pm

    aren't we always!! We are after all the ones left holding the babies and being made out to be heartless cows for so much as hoping for some money off the kids dads. I feel for those that actually rely on this money!

  5. Juliet-Amber Jolliffe on October 24th, 2010 6:42 pm

    I feel for both sides as I am a PWC and also a NRPP. Three of the biggest mistakes I can see and to which time and time again bring resentment and anger are these:1. Giving NRP's a discount for new children or stepchildren – harbours resentment by PWC and also original children. Why should original children lose out because NRP has new family?2. Taking second family's ctc into account as NRP's income. So unfair but from the other side – this credit is paid for the children in the new family, not for the PWC to cash in. Percentage should be based on NRP's earnings only. After all, this wouldn't change if he was still single.3. The percentage discount if children stay with NRP overnight. For some PWC who struggle financially, of course it will be tempting to stop NRP from having children overnight. This is so blatently abused by SOME PWC to ensure they get maximum money but breaks down relationship between NRP and children and harbours resentment.If these issues were addressed, a lot of the bitching and resentment would disappear.Base percentage on NRP's earnings only. No discounts, no child tax credit. The overnight one is difficult – not sure as to the answer for that one!

  6. Lee Hughes on October 24th, 2010 9:30 pm

    Overnight stays, automatically assume it is equal and then make BOTH parents decide whether they want to deviate from it! If the PWC doesn't co-operate then the threat of prison should be there (and enforced), after all if it is for the NRP then it must be good for the PWC!

  7. Duncan Edwards on October 24th, 2010 9:34 pm

    Perhaps they could turn it into the Shared Parenting Enforcement Commission and become responsible for mediating a fair balance of financial support for the children from BOTH parents and contact with BOTH parents.

  8. Phil Lee on October 24th, 2010 10:34 pm

    Just an elaborate taxation stunt.

  9. Lee Hughes on October 24th, 2010 10:41 pm

    Exactly Duncan! There should be a set procedure if you seperate with kids which you should go through. After which, if things still cannot be agreed then it should go to court to sort out.Contact/Custody should be presumed to be shared and the costs of raising the child should be BOTH parents!After which Contact matters should be enforced without delay by the courts and Maintenance matters through a government agency BUT only for what would be classed as DEADBEAT!!! It should be a matter of last recourse!When will the politicians realise that they are playing with the interests of the children, when will the people say enough is enough and stop co-operating with them and actually do something about it!

  10. Stewart Putty Nicholson on October 25th, 2010 12:17 am

    no doubt this will cause more errors from the csa when this does come in .. wonder if any csa employees on them phones try and still get the old percentages when theyve changed ! …So glad i dont after to deal with them any more and pay my ex directly…

  11. Big Lou on October 25th, 2010 1:53 pm

    I just worked this out and I will be paying more.

    Why do the mothers seem to come out shining and better off.


  12. Jason Wallace on October 25th, 2010 1:40 pm

    Don't misread this. Although the percentages are LOWER, this is LOWER of your GROSS income. This means a HIGHER payment – especially if you are a higher rate tax payer

  13. graeme on October 25th, 2010 3:51 pm


    Are you sure that you would be worse off under these new assessments?

    Hsaving calculated mine all ways that I can think off, I estimate that I would be over £300 per month better off….

    Oooooppppssss better not type that otherwise the Little Hitlers will be on to me , cant have that can we…


  14. Rach on October 25th, 2010 7:21 pm

    we will also be worse off and thats only because under csa1 they at least take your mortgage/rent into account. I think anyone who has a large monthly mortgage/rent payments will also be worse off.

  15. Trevor Franks on October 25th, 2010 7:36 pm

    going of the subject a bit the goverment need to cut back 81 billion pounds over 5 years everyone knows the csa doesnt work it costs 500 miliion to run the csa a year they are so many billion pounds in the red why doesnt the goverment start with the csa closing down ??

  16. brokenfather on October 26th, 2010 8:43 am

    There will be slight differences between CS3 and CS3 because the new calculations appear to exclude the tax charge on any benefits in kind, a company car for instance.

    This is grossly unfair because if the parents were not separated then the family would have to make do on the net pay, whereas the resident parent suddenly doesn’t when they separate.

    The basic minimum will also increase from £5 pw to & 7 pw under CS3.

  17. Sylvia Dunai on October 26th, 2010 12:42 pm

    If all NRPs paid their dues properly, there would be no need to set up such a useless agency like CSA. And our children wouldn't have to suffer.

  18. Big Lou on October 27th, 2010 2:46 pm

    Is the money going to be taxed before my ex recieves it ?

  19. David Cleveland-Dunn on October 27th, 2010 3:35 pm

    Sylvia, how can you make such a statement. How can you dare to be so generic about all NRP's ? Its people like you that use the word 'our' when you want money, and 'mine' when you use your children like a possession. Im pretty sure your the type of person that is abusing this system using your children as bait when you want. Perhaps you should question your own motives.

  20. Helen Lewis on November 2nd, 2010 10:12 pm

    Totally agree with you Sylvia

  21. Barry on November 3rd, 2010 2:10 pm

    My problem is i get working family tax credit with my new family and the CSA currently count this as part of the calculation.

    Part my wages and part Tax Credit.

    The part of the tax credit they take i basically have to replace to pay nursery fee, so i basically loss double on the Tax credits part.

  22. Lorraine Moore on November 5th, 2010 10:27 am

    If that is the case Sylvia, why were/are so many NRPs who were ALREADY PAYING MAINTENANCE made to get involved with the agency?The answer? easy targets. The NRPs who have never paid will never pay. The CSA cannot be bothered to work hard enough to find them. It's shameful. Don't ever believe they are there for you..

  23. gemma duen on February 19th, 2011 10:02 pm

    so the PWC loses out again and a new computer system with the same feckless, stupid, rude, insensitive staff.. wicked – what a great plan..

  24. samantha foston on February 23rd, 2011 12:22 pm

    i have been going over and over the ways in which the csa work our payments out, i am a woman shock horror and yes i am a nrp due to my ex being very devious our daughter now lives with him she is 14 i have tried with solicitors to get her home but was told that it is her choice even though after going to court many years ago we have shared custody i know i was foolish and thought my ex was going to be a decent guy. i hate that people slag us nrp off in my case it isnt that i dont want my daughter or want to see her i do everything to get her to visit and i didnt even know you got a reduction if they did. i know the csa cant be taking my rent into account as they have never asked how much i pay, i am also a student doing a level 2 nvq in beauty but have been told this doesnt class me as being a student ????? i work part time my husband can not work due ti an illness so i get tax credits with the nursery fees included in it now those nursery fees make up the bulk off my tax credits but i am being told it doesnt matter i still get assessed on those too so how can i work and get my children looked after when i have to pay the csa so much i forgot to say i have another 3 children at home and they are all aged 7 and under. i want to pay maintence but i still want to be able to feed my other children what am i ment to do ????

  25. Bryan on March 1st, 2011 10:57 am

    OK does anybody really believe the £539m “EXTRA” spent on the computer system
    at the CSA is for collecting money? of course not it is to monitor the Irish factions amongst others…the biggest clue is in part of the name “Agency” no wonder it costs a bomb

  26. H on March 16th, 2011 9:41 pm

    I have paid CSA for 8 years (the old system), my child left school in Sept 2009 and did not live with the PWC from that date, this effectively means that the PWC gave up her responsibility and her title as PWC, my liability ended in Oct 2009 as per letter from the CSA.
    I moved on with my life free from the CSA. My child went to college in Sept 2010, 1 year after leaving school and the PWC has submitted another claim which the CSA has allowed.
    As my child left full time education then I should not be held responsible for her upkeep and certainly not to have 15% of my earnings paid to the PWC.
    Does anybody feel it is just or fair for the CSA to reopen a closed case with no regard for the financial comittments of the previously known NRP?
    God the CSA are driving me mad AGAIN, they treat the NRP like TRASH.

  27. hadenough on May 12th, 2011 12:15 pm

    the people at the cmec/csa, whoever, have no idea about the personality changes of the nrp. First he looses any say with his own children, becomes a slave to the mother. And then like in my case, she buggers off with the children and I still have to pay for the privelege of my family life being taken away, and all the years of fighting her in court just to spend two nights every two weeks with my own children. Now they are constantly chasing me for money I do not even owe, what is the point!!!!

  28. Emma on May 13th, 2011 9:55 am

    ive been getting csa allowence for my son from my ex for last 11 year and suddenly he hasnt gotta pay anymore cause the new law changes, how can he not pay for his own son cause his claimed living with his partner and her 4 kids as his ……. shouldnt he by law have to pay for his own son until he is 16 no matter of the changes in the law. cause my claim started back in 1999 they say its under the old law and they have closed my claim, any advise please as im not letting him get away with this his nothing but trouble and doesnt even wanna know his own son his not had contact or cares about his own son but think his all hard cause his taken on 3 kids that are not his and has had a baby with his partner last year i think its unfair that his real son has suffer the loss of csa due to him being a arsehole. help me please this is stressing me out

  29. SIM on May 25th, 2011 6:15 pm

    I goy assessed in october 2010 dont know if new or old system had private agreement paying ex £400 per month in place since she left me for someone else in april 2010

    Im a director of own company and becasue of ecconmic situation and loss of marriage business was struggling
    csa contacted me was worried as heard scare stories and all know people who been robbed by csa in past
    i must say as a man they were very very helpful told me dividends are not guarnteed income so not counted
    i earn 467 a month salary for tax reason and this all they calculate on so for 2 kids see 1 night aweek overnight i pay just under £29 per month gave her the choice and turns out her freind toldher she get over £500 per month pure greed

  30. John Linden Jones on June 19th, 2011 10:29 am

    I have been paying CSA for two adn a half years now and have no access to my son at all CSA tell me that this is a totally seperate issue and that no matter what teh situation I still have to pay. I’m a father of a son who will be three this year and have seen him twice. Ive paid off all her debt and made sure that she was set and secure in the beguinning and after CSA was set and debts paid she denied me any access what so ever and CSA tell me that all the money I have paid into her debt wont count to my payments, over £20,000. Surely CSA should look at each case more closely with a degree of fairness. This woman has caused me nothing but heart break and financial distress simply by using the completely fluwed system that is the CSA.

  31. Andy on July 7th, 2011 11:44 am

    Hiya John. I feel totally for you. Back in 1998 I did a similar thing and took on all of the debts from the marriage totaling £47000. I contacted the CSA and was told to produce receipts for everything. Not possible from a thirteen year marriage. So I ended up going through an IVA and also paying the CSA with no reduction. This left me with no money to visit my children at the other end of the country. I truly hope that you eventually get access to see your son. My children are both young adults now and thankfully we are in contact and are starting to build a relationship again, I can only say it takes a while and a lot of frustration i wish you well but you will get no sympathy from the CSA as unfortunately despite being a good NRP you are tarred with the same brush as the scumbags that escape their responsibility

  32. Kevin on July 18th, 2011 2:52 pm

    I have no sympathy for the CSA whatsoever…I am currently a NRP and being shafted 40% of my salary. My ex was from another country and we had split up before we found out she was pregnant. Infact it was the day after she got the Visa in the passport she took off. After contacting the Home Office to explain to them she only married me to get the right in the country I was told as she was pregnant she has an automatic right to remain.

    Now 14 years on, she does not give me any access whatsoever to see my child and theh court orders are not worth the paper they are on. I have since got on with my life with a 2nd family and the assesments these idiots make are unbelievable. I was out of work for two years and submitted the proof that I was un-employed but they still make me pay backdated payments.

    I have no sympathy for all those women who just want to claim benefits, use their childrens as weapons and make life difficult for honest people like myself.

    My family have to go without for an immigrant who is not only milking me but milking the system and the CSA do not give a damn. They only care about the cut they make and the last time this was calculated was £80 from a £800 pound a month payment for one child.

    Rip off Britian…no wonder many fathers either not pay or simply commit suicide.

    Rant Over

  33. sirena on July 23rd, 2011 6:32 pm

    I understand the frustration of the fathers who dont see their children, even though they pay child support. However, there is usually a reason why mothers stop contact. If you fathers sorted yourselves out and stopped being crap dads I reckon there would be no need for the CSA.

  34. sirena on July 23rd, 2011 6:42 pm

    @ sim.

    SIM you know what your doing with that whole dividends thing and you should be completely ashamed of yourself. Paying yourself extremley low salary to give pay such low child support. How do you sleep at night knowing your robbing your own children.

  35. dawn on July 30th, 2011 6:36 pm


    My ex is doing a similar thing, he’s self employed & diverting his income so he claimes he earns £100 a week therefore pays £5 a week for our 2 children. They are starting to realise the situation now that they are aged 12 and 11 and have no time or respect for him Whatgoes around comes around and I’m just waiting patiently for the lightening strike to hit him!

  36. gary on September 8th, 2011 1:44 pm

    been through various departments of c.s.a. since 05
    finally at appeal in birmingham
    charging order next month in county court
    plenty of ammunition nrp but due to data protection/ freedom of information/childrens act the court won.t release information to give to c.s.a
    hope to finally put a final nail in the coffin
    no equal rights
    no rights to family life
    no human rights

  37. Ian on September 27th, 2011 3:43 pm

    I’ve been paying the CSA for over 11 years for my now 13 year old daughter. Up to this month I’ve been paying £127 PM for her, but on the new system it’s going up to over £180.

    I don’t mind paying me way, although I’ve not seen my daughter for over 6 years due to her mother poisoning my daughter’s mind against me. I’ve spend several years having pay to go through the courts in a futile effort to keep in contact with my daughter.

    I’m now married with a wife and 3 beautiful daughters to support. And yes, I do resent paying out money to an abusive mother for a daughter I don’t see for no fault of my own.

  38. michelle on October 8th, 2011 11:15 pm

    Men should pay child matience instead off running as soon as you say im pregnant. I need the help and support off csa as my ex and his family would have strong reglion beliefts and would prefer my child didnt exsist in their eyes. Hurtful but he should be paying no matter what. CSA should be free if not many single parents are not gonna name and shame the little boys that thought leaving a woman in a mess was nothing to them

  39. michelle on October 8th, 2011 11:19 pm

    The government want the men named now that so many women have finally stood up now their wanting charges. Their all for their selfs and no body elses feelings matter

  40. gAZ on October 12th, 2011 3:06 pm

    i think it is a discrace,
    i have paid my sour ex 130 pounds a month since my daughter was born.
    plus given her loads of extra needed things that i have full recipts off.
    she has found out i have a new girlfriend and since banned me having contact.
    so i have stoped her payments in protest untill she allows me to see my girl.
    i have no problem paying her way what so ever but she is just being dam evil.
    now im told she will get the csa on me and they will take 15 percent of my wage.
    i have a mortgage and bills and the vists to her are 200 miles away an invole a hotel stay.
    so how the hell can i afford to live if these rules apply.
    what a joke this is to fathers that want to see there children but can because of jelous discrasefull behaviour…

  41. tonybach on October 14th, 2011 2:25 pm

    please to god wil csa be scraped!ilfe is tough.ivw worked all my life doing 50 to 60 hrs a week,but now since csa is involved they are just taking to much money off me and have forced me onto jsa,which is not wat i want.but the truth is i am better off now.and i can even work under 16 hrs a week.and pay nearly nothing to my is easier for me now,but its not what i wanted.please make it worth it for fathers to work……taking half our wages just aint worth it.

  42. star on October 19th, 2011 8:30 am

    i know all you are complaining about the csa but the csa woulnt be on your backs if you agreed to go through your ex, im a single mother of 2 and im on a rubbish wage i begged my ex for help after he left and he refused it takes two people to bring a child into the world so why should it be any different in raising it and financially supporting the child i waited 9 months then informed him i had no choice and its taken 3 years to finally get the support for my children

  43. Terry Roberts on October 20th, 2011 3:56 am

    @ star
    I complain about the csa and i did try to make a private agreement with my ex. I offered her the ammount that the current CSA calculator says i should pay which is £60 pw. She refused because our case is on the old system so instead of 15% i have to pay 30% so she gets £100 pw off me. Is it fair for the CSA to run 2 seperate sytems? Is it fair that some one who earns exactly the same as me would only have to pay almost 1/2 of what i am paying just because the broke up after 2003? I do not mind payiing for my daughter but i begrudge the stupid amount that the CSA are taking. I say it should be one rule for all. Maybe if these charges are bought in then my ex will agree to a private agreement instead. I wont hold my breath though as being on CS1 i doubt that i will be transfered over to CS3 before my daughter is 19 in 5 years time.

  44. ian kenny on October 23rd, 2011 9:20 pm

    Terry i am in the same situation as you. There is no way that my ex will agree to take a cut in her child support. Some clown decided on benefit disregard from april 2010 so me ex gets all her benefits, rent council tax plus £469 amonth csa payments, no wonder she dosn’t want to get a job!! I have been stuck on csa1 for the past 11 yrs and was told in 2006 that i would be going onto csa2 but it never happened, I think that NRP’s like me and you keep the collection figures up and people in a job as csa1 takes so long to work out!! If you read gingerbread site and the green paper on the reforms they state that the average weekly payment is £34 aweek!!! so anyone who has never delt with the csa will think that its true!!. The new gross income scheme is supposed to start in 2001?? lol the csa sent me an email that once it starts everyone on both schemes will be invited to join!! when i phoned them how i got a invite they refused to tell me> you and everyone else should email them about the new scheme and then goto there M.P. about an invite!!

  45. Terry on October 27th, 2011 12:45 am

    Done that. lol.
    All i get off them at the moment is “We havnt been given all the details yet so we cant tell you what we don’t know”
    At first they were going to transfer everyone from CS1 to CS2 but because the government didnt say that they have to do it they decided not to. What i can see happening now is the government once again forget to say that they are to put everyone on the same scheme so they just decide not to bother again.
    Or the other thing i have heard from different sites is that they will transfer all CS2 cases first which could take upto 5 years then start transfering all CS1 cases. My daughter turns 19 in 5 years so by the time CS1 cases are transfered i shall be out of the system anyway unless they decide to invent some arears to make me pay.

  46. amanda on November 12th, 2011 10:29 pm

    hi, can anyone help me? my daughters x has told her that she can’t get csa because she isn’t working. his mother has told him that the only way she can get any money out of him is when she gets a job. my daughter is on benefits and doesn’t have a lot of money at all, so myself and my husband are trying to keep her head above water. i have had to sit and watch my daughter cry herself to sleep because she doesn’t know how she is going to pay the bills and that little shit is sat in the pub laughing at her. it takes 2 to bring a baby into the world. i feel so sorry for the mums and dads that do pay and want to see there babies, and carnt or are not allowed for some silly reason . then theres the so called men who think its funny just seeing how many women they can get pregnant. my daughter has asked him to be in my grandsons life and he can’t be bothered he would rather be sat in a pub, than buy his son some shoes as my lovely grandson has just started walking. at the end of the day he is the one losing out on this special time. its not that she wants a lot of money she would just love it if he offered to pay for some shoes or clothes for him, as we all know how much it costs just to buy a decent pair of shoes. at the end of the day its not my grandsons fault. he never asked for any of this. all my daughter wants is for him to be part of his sons life, she doesn’t want him back, she just wants a dad for her son. thats not to much to ask. is it?

  47. Aidy on November 15th, 2011 3:48 pm

    Have been re-assessed this year after paying for 16 years,have got data reference my case from CSA,I am on CS2 from 2006,but Belfast says I am on the old system,I am paying £424 for 1 child has anyone had this experience ?I think they are all mad.

  48. tonybach on November 19th, 2011 11:15 pm

    i would have to tell them,say that to me in writing!pwc have to pay 100 pounds soon to start geting money off us,and they just aint got the money,so…that forces a lot of pwc to start talking with us to get money,and at least theres one good thing,we get to see our kids,i havent seen my boy in months.cant wait for this to come into force.

  49. Melissa Douglas on December 12th, 2011 6:50 pm

    Well I work in CMED and I can tell you that i don’t care about all your bitching! You NRP’s should just pay your maintence and just shut up. You PWC’s should also stop bitching because if you can’t sort out your own lives out and can’t get enough money to look after your children then maybe you should give custudy of your kids to the children’s fathers or have shared custudy so the father can have equal responsibility, so stop being so selfish and think you are the victim when deny the father his right to look after the children!!!

    At the end of the day all of you are responsible for the mess your in because if you can’t sort out your own lives then don’t expect others to do it for you. Even then if CMED doesn’t get it right? So what! You can’t expect other people to sort out your mess and expect them to make things out to be exactly how you want it to be, if you do expect this then get your finger out and sort it out yourself!!

  50. Fraser on December 23rd, 2011 9:47 am

    Im responding to some posts on here destroying the fathers regarding payment. One even says that the mother would only stop contact for a reason!
    I left my wife 6 years ago and gave her everything, car, house and furniture. I left with my clothes. I wanted as little disruption as possible to my kids. I even took on the £13k of debt.
    I immediately began paying her £500 a month in cash as she didn’t want the CSS involved. Being a clever bloke made her sign a receipt book.
    6 months in I received a letter from the csa saying my ex had applied for maintenance and I should pay £432 a month. Fine. They also claimed 6 months arrears as my ex informed them I had paid nothing. A bit of photocopying and posting of the receipt book and that was it. So the first point being that my ex is a lying, greedy cow!
    For the first year she lived local and I saw my kids every weekend and spoke to them every night on the phone. She then decided to move 200 miles away so I could only see them every 2 weeks. I asked if she would help with the driving, only 50 miles of it but it would save me 2 hours on a round trip and would mean my kids would get to bed at a decent time on a Friday evening (due to starting my journey after work, not money)
    She refused, obviously.
    Many times I travelled to collect my children only to be refused access on the door. I have had her arrested for assault 3 times due to her demanding more money when
    I arrive and she gets aggressive when I refuse.
    She has tried to get me arrested for abusive behaviour (kicking the door and shouting and swearing) and that’s why she refuses access. Again being a switched on cookie I ask one of her neighbours to witness my collection each time. This neighbour completely refutes her story to the police each time.
    I had to work in Germany for 6 months and travelled back on my own expense every 3rd weekend, including the 200 mile drive from the airport, to collect my kids and would often be refused to see them ( even though she had agreed prior to getting on the plane)
    I have had constant dramas with her using the kids as a weapon, refusing to let me talk to them on the phone.
    At my divorce I learned that she was receiving £1800 of benefits, including csa, of that she only pays out a rent contribution of £180. Her disposable income is astounding!! I work full time, been in the same job for 17 years now, took on the marital debt and she is minted!!
    I asked the csa

  51. Fraser on December 23rd, 2011 9:51 am

    to review my payments taking into account that my travel expense exceeded £400 per month and my ex refused to pack my children clothes for the weekend, I had to buy them a whole new set of clothes periodically, which is expensive. I asked if they could assist at the times she refused access but they said no. They are happy to demand money but that where the line is drawn. So I had to incur further costs in court for a solicitor.
    The csa is useless and from my experience only favours the woman/resident parent.
    Rant over.

  52. donna on December 23rd, 2011 12:39 pm

    Ok so how come men complain about paying for a child that is theres by blood???Does it make sense to you??it doesnt me seeing as i was in a domestic violent realtionship which ended up me gettin courage and kicking him to the kerb where he belonged and agreed to normal contact to which he would point blank refuse to bring her home and even at times try to bribe me into bringing her home if we talked to get back together?!?!Then my solictor ordered court proceddings to try and avoid this and try to establish normally agreement which would be obyed by both parties to which yet again he kicked up a stink and then resulted in him attacking me and was proven guilty in court and charged even though he refused to anyone he did such a thing!!Contact then was stopped by a judge and a restaning order slapped on him to which he didnt care he still sit outside my house and brake into my gardern and follow me which then resulting in me moving miles away and him having to do courses to start contact rolling again to which he has refused all the while this was going on his payin 5pound a fortnight and thinking his providing for his daughter when infact it didnt even buy her nappies!!My husband pays and has payed for everything for her since we met.He now knows how to get round the system and work 16hrs a week to still only pay 5 pound a fortnight and not pay any of the 800 arrears off!!!!!Now thats what u call a low life father!!!If u men or women who r like this feel the need that u dont want to part with ur beloved money or not think u should provide with ur offspring why dont u have safe sex!!!!!!!

  53. Paul on January 22nd, 2012 1:02 pm


    I can understand the frustration. I never went as far as you did in my case but I certainly did my best for at least 5 years – starting with by setting up immediate payment to her from the outset, in advance of contacting the csa to inform them that I’d left the family home. She did at least have the house and the car which, at least while the kids are there should be expected. Sadly though, anything I ever tried to do after I left (despite living over 100 miles away), including expensive and difficult travelling to visit as often as I could I gradually saw the degeneration of any respect the kids had for me along with a continual bombardment of ‘mind games’ being channelled towards me.

    Being open and honest towards my kids didn’t pay off at all; in fact it was only ever turned against me one way or another over a long period. To boot, my mother(their grandmother) was totally shut out – as she had been for practically all the kids lives – even when I was married. In fact most of my familly were. In the end though, whatever love I had for the kids and whatever I did was totally dismissed. They’ve been poisoned so badly I had no chance.

    I’d always paid the ex directly (while letting the csa know each time about changes to keep the record straight. At the moment I pay far less, because I lost my job but I went self employed and am working really hard to develop business. Not all of us NRP’s are bone idle or have no self respect do we. Nobody owes me a living. When things improve I’ll certainly willingly pay more – and even now, although she doesn’t realise it, I still pay her more than the csa would assess. I also live very very modestly; a room in a shared house, no car etc etc and my rent is unavoidably expensive. No chance of downsizing!

    My kids were obviously waiting for the the chance to be openly abusive and have done just that. I received two vile abusive letters from the two eldest (one now 20) proving what I suspected for years about the influence they’ve been under. So, finally, I really did decide to walk right away for my own sake. I had to in order to stay sane and concentrate on earning a living – which naturally affects them too. And I had to accept that there was nothing more I could do. I also deserve some life too and thankfully have a fantastic range of friends, old ones and many new ones. Thank god I have a strong mind and am able to move on. My ex will have to live in her own miserable poison and everything she’s created around her, without my involvement now. What a terrible legacy for my kids though.

    I don’t blame the csa for any of those things of course; they’re our problems, not theirs, but I think there is very little, if any support for fathers in this country. It’s very weighted towards women and many take full advantage of that in the cruellest manner – as there are also fathers who think that it doesn’t matter to bring kids into the world and forget them. Thankfully, I haven’t lost faith in all women and realised that sometimes it’s better be as honest with yourself as possible, to do your best with the cards dealt and look after yourself if someone else is so determined to destroy you.

  54. john mckee on January 25th, 2012 4:08 pm

    old rules new rules they are the only agiency in britain that have 2 sets on rules i would be 40 pounds a weak better of on the new rules than old alot of money a year saved for retirement i live weak to weak at the start of weak no money at end of weak pay money out living for nouthing if put on new rules i would not look for any money back to which we have all paid to much it is a breach of human rights and i got told by mp the only way i could take them to eauropean court of justice is if i have a spair half million when the banks got told they were in wrong for payment protection they had to give back all money to customers they wont admit they are in the wrong cause it would be millions they would have to pay back but cant cause the mothers have already spent it and no way would pay it back to them i dont want no money back i just want one set of rules thats all a fair system for all why should the man next door earn the same as me work same hours have same contact but be better off 40 pound a weak this countrys gone wrong i hope people will leave there comment

  55. BrokenMendedBlendedFamily on February 8th, 2012 4:53 pm

    I’m currently having numerous frustrating interactions with the CSA.

    My ex and I separated well over 18 months ago. I began a CSA claim in October. I have the kids, they spend 2 nights a week with him. He is a freelancer (as am I) so is a Ltd company director, and has told them his net income is £274 a week. In fact, he earns £250 A DAY. They have worked out that for 2 kids, he should give me the grand total of £31.25 a week. He says as he is now paying that, he doesn’t have to contribute anything else.

    He is living in our marital home (he wouldn’t leave and I had to get the kids out of that situation) paying the mortgage of £250 a month, while I am in a rented house paying £1700+ a month in rent alone.

    Yet my partner, who doesn’t see his child, and who only earns £1500 a month, is expected to pay £47 a week for just one child.

    How can that be fair or right?

    The CSA don’t take into account people’s legal financial obligations, and as a result I’m effectively subsidising my ex and my partner now as he doesn’t have enough left to contribute 50% to the rent and bills – as well as paying for everything for my kids, school dinners, childcare so I can work, hobbies, shoes, clothes and providing a roof over their heads.

    The system is screwed and doesn’t seem to help the people who genuinely need it.

    My only other option is to take my ex to court, which I can’t as I have no money once I’ve paid for all of the above, so there is literally nothing I can do.

  56. frank on February 8th, 2012 5:29 pm

    i just recieved my csa review after 2 years of a steady 2 weekly payment .my wife no longer works prefering to see our girl grow up at least for primary school. i was delighted to give over all my income details thinking my payments would drop due to less overall income. how mad am i to get my hopes up my payments just doubled thanks to this new calculations. im pretty sick of it all im more than happy to pay a fair amount .but the ex is off her head with rage .no way of coming to a private agreement when the csa will do all the leagal dirty work,

    access to my boy , whats that .. when i popped in at his birthday with his little sis aged 4 , him aged 12 the ex took my boy hid upstairs pretending not to be in .craaaaazzzzzzeeeeee nut ball. when she finaly answered the door cos i used my wee girl to shout ; :its your brthday present : she stood and said what do want??? soon as that came out her fat gob my wife came bursting out the car and took my wee girl back to the car talk about annother women to peacify .lord help. needless to say after the ex aandd my son had told me where to go that was all i was prepared to take till hes a little older then i can try contact with him on his own instead of going thru a psycho nut bitch.


  57. Andy on March 3rd, 2012 7:01 pm

    I was on the first scheme until the CSA “accidentally” closed my case. The new scheme then took over, I don’t mind paying the amount now, however I am now separated and living in rented accommodation with all the additional costs that incurs. I am correct in thinking the new system will not take into account my housing costs?

  58. A mum who puts her kid 1st forever on March 30th, 2012 3:57 pm

    To all you pathetic low life, loser men out there…….

    You all owe HALF (50%) on anything bought for and paid for by the parent who did not walk out on there child(ren) ….that includes….

    Days out

    It all amounts to thousands, yet you all moan about getting screwed over by the CSA because you are all so pathetic you can’t just give what your meant to to the parent who brings up the child directly, you have to go through the CSA because you’re so selfish, can’t be trusted& worst of all you put yourselves before your kids….pahahaha!
    I really hope CSA re-evaluates how much maintenance is paid by you sperm donors, it should be a lot more!

  59. excityboy on April 20th, 2012 2:23 pm

    A mum who puts her kid 1st forever.

    Rent and Bills you would have to pay anyway, regardless of children. And guess what, some fathers are refused contact by vindictive Ex’s so how can they buy clothes and toys or pay for hobbies and days out.

    Oh! I get it…… The father should just pay the mother what she demands regardless of her behaviour and refusing access…………………..Yeah Right!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    50/50 don’t work like that love.

  60. stew90 on April 23rd, 2012 11:16 am

    I have 50/50 custody, I pay for my own house (plus I took on the debt of mortgage aswell) and my little girl wants for nothing, she spends quality time with me and she has lots of hobbies some of which my ex wife does not contribute in helping with, yet how can it be fair that I still pay out for maintenance? I provide clothes so she feels like she has two homes to go to, we eat well, indeed we have a very happy life, I’m sorry to say that the system lays heavy on the womans side and to be honest women play the poor wife card very well and abuse the system for what I percieve as pure greed. 50/50 custody I think should be that exactly which means I pay my half and she pays her’s, I pay my half providing a safe and loving home for my little girl to come too and for all the outings and treats she recieves, yet on top of that I pay £240 to my ex wife……..Ludicrous

  61. stew90 on April 23rd, 2012 11:17 am

    ps that 50/50 is 182 days plus with me

  62. stew90 on April 23rd, 2012 11:28 am

    A mum who puts her kid 1st forever.

    so how do you explain that????? I concur with excityboy on April 20th, 2012 2:23 pm you would be paying bills anyway I have equal custody and my girl gets the best of both worlds as I see it, she now has two happy homes instead of one unhappy one, it is not my daughters fault that her parents marriage broke down but you make the best for them, sadly ex partners trying to sting money from you makes it so much harder and it is easy to not see “the wood through the trees”

  63. Jimmy B on May 3rd, 2012 10:24 pm

    Have been reading all of these stories with interest and thought I’d share what happened to me! I met my ex 8 years ago and we hit it off straight away, things were great however she was pregnant! The babies father wanted nothing to do with her so I took it upon myself to bring her up! We went to court and got parental responsibility. 4 years later we had another daughter. We were due to get married and were happy, I thought. I got a loan and bought us a family car and with the rest of the money I cleared her debts from a previous life so to speak. 3 months before the wedding she started going out more, she said to relax. I thought nothing of it. Then members of her family, my family and friends of us both told me they thought she was seeing someone else! I didn’t believe them. I was wrong. I was at work one day and she called me to tell me it was over. I was devastated but decided to do the right thing by her and my children. I left them everything!! I was even almost homeless but thankfully something turned up. It turns out she had been having an affair with a young lad from our village! He was having family problems and while I was still with my ex I used to lend him money, my car and feed him!! I felt sorry for him!! All the time they were laughing at me and had been planning things for quite some time!! Anyway as I said I left them everything and we came to an agreement on how much maintainence I would pay!! I never missed a payment. I also bought clothes, shoes, brownies outfits etc. My ex or her boyfriend barely work and she contacted me recently to ask if I could give her money in cash due to the bank charges eating all her money up. It turns out she is in debt again!! I know from others that he is in debt aswell!! It came as no surprise that she recently contacted me to tell me she wanted more money. When I asked how much she said however much the csa suggest! I went onto the calculator and almost fell over!! I earn a good wage but my out goings are high! I’m still paying off the lone that cleared her debts and pays for the car that her and her boyfriend drive around in, my rent is quite high and so are my bills!! The amount the csa suggest I pay her would leave me, after my outgoings, with basically nothing!! And that is no exaggeration!!! Under £100!! So, not only did I loose my home, my family, car and the life I knew and loved I am now going to loose what money I had left a month!!
    I am not condoning fathers that don’t pay for their kids, I think they’re wrong! You should pay, I do pay, I’ll never stop! Those girls are the most important thing in my life. My question is this, after everything I’ve been through being basically set up over the months leading up to the break up with my ex and everything I’ve given financially in the past, how can the csa say that I need to pay the amount they do?? Surely there must be some morale ruling for the people, fathers and mothers, in my situation! The money I give her I doubt goes to the kids and coincidently I’ve found out recently that while I’ve got the kids for a period in the summer she/her and him are going abroad on holiday!! I cannot afford to go in this country let alone abroad!!

    The csa or whoever they are called need to look at individual cases in more detail! I’m not one of those people who pay nothing or lie about their wage to payless, I pay for my kids, I buy them toys, clothes, everything! I’ll now, it looks like, have only enough money to eat beans every day!! While she can go abroad and drink sangria or whatever!! And neither of them work!! Something seriously wrong with our system!!

  64. mark guryn on May 5th, 2012 11:29 am

    Just a thought for people who have 50/50 custody. the csa laws are in stone, they have no discretion or common sense they will automatically make the father pay. You need to put in a counter claim. dont argu it. if there is no residence order in place you can put in a counter claim.

  65. johnb3 on May 14th, 2012 7:10 pm

    Hi There listened to you all. some good some bad. i have just gone back to the csa and i dont care what its going to cost. i only seen my daughter once this year. Thats because my ex’s family tell her she can make the decisions of when she goes to her dads. She’s Eight i was going to get a custody order which i was told by my ex that if my daughter does not want to come to me then her family will all be there to stop me from taking her. I have now been diagnoised with stress and have had to cut contact with my daughter as it was making her upset as she did not know what was right or wrong.
    What im trying to say is it doesnt matter who you are your kids are not pawns in a game of chess. Nrp’s just want to be treated equally as Pwc’s we want a fare pay system as its not always the Nrp;s fault things are the way they are. And Pwc’s need to understand that ranting and raving at the nrp only gets our backs up and make us resentful in paying. As long as we are shouting and not paying there will always be a CSA.

  66. John Barnes on June 19th, 2012 9:03 am

    Some women are plain evil. I split up with my ex after she started a relationship with another man when my child was 6 weeks old. She left me devastated and since then it has been a struggle to see my son (now 10 months old). Although she was constantly telling me the new man in her life would be my sons dad she demanded more and more money. I told her id support her as much as she needed, i just wanted 24 hrs a week with my son and she wouldnt need to worry about anything…seriously i wanted 1 day out of 7. To her that was me being controlling and she hated that she was at my “mercy’- her logic! I have been subject to three arrests due to false allegations and now i only see my son in a contact centre 2 hrs a week! all this and she went to the CSA. I know have to pay the privilege to see my son 2 hrs a week (i pay for the private contact cenre and her expenses to travel there). i live each day knowing my beautiful son is being brought up by another man who may not be there next year when he has a dad that adores him. My only saving grace is that i am self employed so can control when i work, what i earn etc. Trust me i want nothing more than to support my son, i put money away for him each month; if the CSA were taking 15-20% of my salary at this moment i think id seriously think about ending it all. Its hard enough not seeing my son but putting myself into debt and misery while some other guy is playing happy families (for free) would be too much for me. I used to be a strong person, when i had my son it was the best moment of my life, we have such a strong bond, that was taken away from me and the CSA want to compound this misery!

  67. ron on July 17th, 2012 3:07 pm

    I have just suffered loss of two good jobs two relationships and ended up with a debt of nearly £4000 over a two year battle with every dept and procedure of the csa. I was seperated in 1997 from a wife that had two affairs,I lost 5 yrs contact with my 5yr old daughter and 3yr old son, I lost a house I OWNED FOR 15 YRS BEFORE I met courted or married this one. I ended up declared bankrupt for two years after being served 5 money orders for her and my two kids. I had a order put on my house so I could sell it etc etc.
    this person had many relationships,poisened and kept my kids from me,which caused me to abduct my kids for 5 days to make her realise what it feels like not to see the kids. I unfortunatly had to attend a crown court hearing to gain access to my flesh and blood and was informed I could only see my kids supervised and watched over at a detention place, I refused and ended walking out of court retracting all my case and evidence,she won custody and residence automatically,she had to serve a two yr seperation order to gain a dissolvement of marriage , ITHEN moved abroad from the stress oand loss of everything material job money and dignity wise.
    she continually abused me verbally and statement wise to everyone she met making me out to be the worst.
    I returned to uk 2 yrs later never saw my kids,I started another relationship with a women and her two kids ,when she found out where and what i was doing working etc she filed for maintainance, in the process the csa wanted my partners details wages bank account etc to assess my payment, but under data protection and human rights law we refused to give the csa these details ,so they interim assessed my payments, the payment was excessive and due to a accident at work i become unemployed and on incapacity benefit…… soon after my new relationship suffered problems of hassle and torment which resulted in me parting company and living with my father for a few months. this was now around 2003.

    my case with the csa was filed in some dusty shelf somewhere and stayed there till june 2010 never actioned or dealt with.I had took my kids on holiday abroad and paid direct money cash for school uniforms clothes etc along with birthday, xmas presents and such sent always all through from 1997 on wards and such.

    the actions that happened in between 2003 and 2010 was nothing. the reason of 2010 was that my ex wife after having no contact as she didnt want the new partner of hers knowing the truth of her past.had poisened my kids to not seeing me for the last 5 yrs, she had poisened my kids to have me sign for their names to be changed to her maiden name. and she stated that her and the kids wanted for nothing and that also they didnt need my money or contact any further as they had everything they needed and was happy with the new 5 bed detached house,own buisness partner and everything else hunky dorey.
    so i have always been forced to accept what ever poisionous action she has served and had to deal with the abscence of my children of which are at the ages of 19 and coming up to 18. my daughter is living with a boyfriend and has given birth to a daughter whom ive never seen and never will.and my son still lives with his mother ,goes to college two days a week and doesnt work. and i have had over the last two years my maintainance payment go from £58 @ week to £132.08 @ week for a son who is nearly 18, the mother works partime 12/15 hrs a week and wants for nothing and pays nothing he pays for everything. and his statement too me was we dont want your money or contact.

    but backtracking to june 2010 she had an affair and he found out ,he kicked her out took her car off her and sold it and she was on the street with no job ,no money,one 17 yr old son ,and no home or furniture , so she put in a csa claim for maintainance against me the not wanted abandoned NRP. since she has gone back to him under strict house rules,she still works partime and gets child benefit cos my son is at college and she recently kicked him out because he has a girlfriend she doesnt like and she paid his best friends mother £15@ week to keep him whilst she receives £132@ week maintainance from me.
    I met up with my son after a call that he wanted £40 / £50 @ week from me to survive and live……… I showed him in paperwork wage slips and court /csa papers what I was paying his mother and he was shocked…..but he is back home and living the life of riley with his money grabbing / freeloading mother.
    and all this goes on because of two rule system and the pathetic sham of a system and the csa.
    Ive been through two tribunals god knows how many times and departments of the csa and their complaints ,appeals and whatever system,also I have had the local MP, citizen advice and another organisation in birmingham NACSA involved ,also independant case examiners and also two face to face interveiws with a csa person at a local jobcentre to show and discuss points of paperwork and wrong calculations & assessments of the csa….but all to no avail the csa still rules with their bent fob off atitude and procedures.after the loss of two good jobs and 3 deduction of earnings orders i have decided to live a life of poverty and the final loss financially emotionally and practically might be on the streets come sept 2012 if not before ….because of the csa and its pathetic system. and this is all because that money grabbing, gold digging, freeloader of a ex wife has never and will continue to use the system in favour of her the PWC having full control will not close the account and file that has been active from 2003 as an old scheme assessed case.she refuses to appear at a tribunal case,she refuses to give he employer details and she has on four occasions never reported change of circumstances. but she controls everything and she wont send letter in to close the case….because she financially benefits £660 @ month from my skills qualifications and hard work. whilst she and my son sit at home.
    SO MY FORCED ACTION IS TO CLAIM Job Seekers allowance and lose everything and finally end up on the streets homeless.

  68. Skint for ever on February 4th, 2013 7:56 pm

    Hope you,ve all heard of transition!!!!!!!
    I was on csa1 for 11 years. I payed 30% of my salary. then my ldest turned19, I still payed 30%. I had a relationship and that paracite had an affare had a child bt didnt know who the dad was.
    Turned out to be mine. I was moved onto csa 2 were I assumed I was going to pay 20% for two children??? no!!! The CSA paracites are making me pay 30% for my youngest daughter and 15% for myson from the unfaithful bitch. They told me they cant pull the rugg from under my wifes feet so av to reduce her payments gradually over the next five years. My payments are over 600 a month for the next 10 years, I should retire at 55!!!!!! now I must work till I drop because of TRANSITION!!!!!!!!!!!! Decent Honest dads BEWEAR!!!!!!!

  69. carol on February 4th, 2013 10:05 pm

    FFS skint for ever….

    Is there no way you can become self employed? Let them have your version of transition because what you wrote there was pure evil.

    Their rules are changing to suit….

    I am speechless….

    Jesus Christ……

  70. j on February 4th, 2013 10:46 pm

    Hi Graeme,

    Just read your post – “graeme on October 24th, 2010 11:56 am

    This will be another failure. I say this because they will probably do the following:

    1. All new cases from 2011 will be put on this scheme.

    2. All cases currently under CS2 will then be transferred over… that will take another 7 years.

    3. ALL cases on CS 1 will remain on this till CS2 has been transferred, hence another 7 year wait.

    So in 14 years time when my son is 27, I may expect to get transferred to the new scheme.”

    You forgot to mention the most important bit, all those low grade civil servants who will have jobs in areas of high unemployment for years to come so that unemployment figures are ‘massaged’ making whatever political party (they are all the same) in power ‘look good’ in their own eyes.

    Its not ‘proper’ jobs, they don’t make anything or provide a valued service, they just collect money, much of which goes back to the government.

  71. PG on February 17th, 2013 8:05 pm

    I have read a few of the comments, and on the whole the CSA system is fatally flawed as a NRP i know this only too well the demands placed on me.

    YES – the Father or NRP should pay their bit, Both incomes and essential bills should be taken into account not just Tax and NI, mortgage/rent, gas, electric and water.

    The income of the PWC should also be taken into account i.e. if the NRP is pot less and / or genuinely ill and unable to work and the mother or PWC has money or now partnered with money, why take it as it serves no purpose to make the NRP suffer as it may not be wholly their fault.
    If two people stayed together and had no money they would go with out and not have some things even go without food or delay bills etc with agreement from lenders of course.

    Under CSA when separated one or the other still has to pay regardless, or is self employed the amount doesn’t change for 6 weeks,

    Please note the children need food, clothes, water and washing, a roof and a bed, contact with both parents is essential always or when and if possible.
    Although you may hate with a passion the PWC, whatever the PWC gets financially it at some point will pay or go towards the up keep, health and welfare of the children.

    There are however some PWC’s and NRP’s who miss this and the children suffer abuse and neglect as a result, end up hating and fighting. This can be avoided.

    CSA think again on your rules and REG’s they are CRAP!!!!!!!!
    PWC think about the kids and the NRP
    NRP think about the PWC and what they do for YOUR children.
    DNA testing is available.. LIFE IS TOO SHORT… just think before speaking or acting.

  72. whatcanyoudo73 on March 27th, 2013 7:43 am

    Firstly i would like to say that fathers/NRPs will never ever be treated fairly by the CSA. Its a fact of life so we just have to accept it. We would all love to challenge it and change it but it just wont happen because no politician will stick their head above the castle wall to be shot at by the ‘poor, hard done by’ PWC!!

    My ex chose to leave with my child as she claimed it wasnt working out, which is fair cos she is mentally unstable.

    I have always paid what the law says i have to pay as i believe that i am responsible for my daughters upbringing and i have no argument with that. What i DO have a problem with is the way that you are treated by the CSA. They class you as some kind of criminal, that you are lying to them, that you are hiding things and that you are automatically trying to avoid payment!

    My ex tried to destroy my life by dragging me through courts for access, moving so far away that i would find it very difficult to have access to my daughter, having me investigated by Social Services etc and many other things that want to make me puke. She is a disgusting human being and should be locked away from society, especially my daughter.

    I have survived her attempts to finish me off and thought things had settled down. Now i have the CSA trying to claim monies that they say are due from years ago. They have provided no evidence or breakdown as to when these alleged monies are from and are going to apply for a liability order to secure the debt and make me pay. Having read many other forums about the horrors of CSA cases involving liability orders and your complete helpesness in avoiding them i am starting to become a little concerned.

    I would just like to say to all fathers/NRPs out there, NEVER trust your ex to do the right thing and be fair< they will screw you over as soon as look at you, no matter how amicable the split was, there will always come a day when they think ' i will get him/her with this…..'. NEVER trust the CSA, get everything in writing, keep accurate records of every single payment you make, send any correspondence to them by recorded delivery as they mysteriously ' never receive' things. Dont think that you just cant pay, keep your evidence of the reasons why you shouldnt pay and then challenge them in court with it, IT WONT HAPPEN, its a done deal before you get to court and the magistrate wont be interested in your evidence.

    My final advice would be, as best you can, get a private agreement with the PWC and if possible get some kind of legal person to oversee it. Bottom line, stay the hell away from the CSA at all costs. Once they are involved they will hound you until you give them the clothes off your back.

    P.S. my ex is so mentally unstable maybe SHE should be employed by the CSA :-)

    As my Grandfather used to say ' Dont let the bastards grind you down'

    Good luck everyone

  73. michael thomas on May 26th, 2014 8:20 pm

    i pay csa out of my wages and i have my son every weekend without fail, but his money pockets the money for herself my son is always dressed scruffy when i pick him up and i still have to pay for his hair cuts and underwear and have to buy his clothing to. i think fathers who pay csa have not got a leg to stand on i think its disgusting and more should be done.

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