Comments on: My ex tells the CSA he has no money to pay them http://www.csahell.com/my-ex-tells-the-csa-he-has-no-money-to-pay-them-174.html Child Support Agency Advice and Complaints Sat, 31 Jul 2010 09:46:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: jamie http://www.csahell.com/my-ex-tells-the-csa-he-has-no-money-to-pay-them-174.html/comment-page-1#comment-2407 jamie Fri, 28 May 2010 20:27:42 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=174#comment-2407 You need to accept reality , just because the decisions don't go your way move on , support your son the way you claim to and not visit your self serving justification as a hard done by person.The truth is the truth get used to it and stop arguing from such a weak position , the law is the law , you need help and soon , may i recommend a stay in a suitable establishment or some form of counselling , you know what you say is lies.you are a liar! You need to accept reality , just because the decisions don’t go your way move on , support your son the way you claim to and not visit your self serving justification as a hard done by person.The truth is the truth get used to it and stop arguing from such a weak position , the law is the law , you need help and soon , may i recommend a stay in a suitable establishment or some form of counselling , you know what you say is lies.you are a liar!

]]> By: Tracey http://www.csahell.com/my-ex-tells-the-csa-he-has-no-money-to-pay-them-174.html/comment-page-1#comment-1027 Tracey Sat, 05 Sep 2009 06:52:17 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=174#comment-1027 I also nearly gave up - it gets so frustrating and upsetting battling for what you believe is right. My child's father has never paid any monies at all and only one christmas present since my child was born 3 yrs a go. I started CSA involvent only at the beginning of last year and still nothing. He has given up his well paid job of £60k a year to start his own business with he says only a few thousand a month payout. He is clever and has played the system - when he got the CSA notification that he had to pay he appealed the decision and it has taken over a year as he cancelled one appointment due to work commitments. He has not paid anything and the CSA have been unable to enforce it until the tribunal hearing!!! The CSA tribuanl though decided the decision held and the debt enforcement dept is supposed to be trying to extract the arrears and the monthly payments from him. The Dept enforcement dept have said it could take until Christmas before I get anything for my child as if he refuses to cooperate they will have to take him to court etc. I am just sick of it all, if he is that adamant that he will not pay do I really want his stinking money? On the other hand why should I have all the financial responsibility and he has nothing? Fed up with the system and men who abuse it... They said if he won't pay then they will take legal action I also nearly gave up – it gets so frustrating and upsetting battling for what you believe is right.

My child’s father has never paid any monies at all and only one christmas present since my child was born 3 yrs a go. I started CSA involvent only at the beginning of last year and still nothing. He has given up his well paid job of £60k a year to start his own business with he says only a few thousand a month payout. He is clever and has played the system – when he got the CSA notification that he had to pay he appealed the decision and it has taken over a year as he cancelled one appointment due to work commitments. He has not paid anything and the CSA have been unable to enforce it until the tribunal hearing!!! The CSA tribuanl though decided the decision held and the debt enforcement dept is supposed to be trying to extract the arrears and the monthly payments from him. The Dept enforcement dept have said it could take until Christmas before I get anything for my child as if he refuses to cooperate they will have to take him to court etc. I am just sick of it all, if he is that adamant that he will not pay do I really want his stinking money? On the other hand why should I have all the financial responsibility and he has nothing? Fed up with the system and men who abuse it…

They said if he won’t pay then they will take legal action

]]> By: Briar redgrave-Plumb http://www.csahell.com/my-ex-tells-the-csa-he-has-no-money-to-pay-them-174.html/comment-page-1#comment-954 Briar redgrave-Plumb Wed, 22 Jul 2009 21:16:44 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=174#comment-954 David Mayers. I feel this man has a real problem.I do not feel his comments are helpful or kind. This sort of comment leads to upset.Anyone involved in the CSA is already wound up and we do not need people like him airing their huge chip on their shoulder on a public site.Please ask him to seek medical help. I would be interested in the reasons he got to be so bitter. Maybe he should share those feelings, rather than critise those that are trying to get justice for their children against appalling odds David Mayers. I feel this man has a real problem.I do not feel his comments are helpful or kind.
This sort of comment leads to upset.Anyone involved in the CSA is already wound up and we do not need people like him airing their huge chip on their shoulder on a public site.Please ask him to seek medical help.

I would be interested in the reasons he got to be so bitter.
Maybe he should share those feelings, rather than critise those that are trying to get justice for their children against appalling odds

]]> By: mehmehmeh http://www.csahell.com/my-ex-tells-the-csa-he-has-no-money-to-pay-them-174.html/comment-page-1#comment-952 mehmehmeh Wed, 22 Jul 2009 14:03:07 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=174#comment-952 My ex-wife has diverted her income through her partner. I have been going back and forth to tribunals. It has cost me a fortune. The best advise I can give any one is this: 1. Forget trying to ask the CSA for help and just bring your children up as best you can. or 2. Hand the kids over to the non-paying resident parent and let them have all the ups and downs of raising the children, while you just have them every other weekend and can spend quality time with them The CSA just does not work My ex-wife has diverted her income through her partner. I have been going back and forth to tribunals. It has cost me a fortune.

The best advise I can give any one is this:
1. Forget trying to ask the CSA for help and just bring your children up as best you can.

or

2. Hand the kids over to the non-paying resident parent and let them have all the ups and downs of raising the children, while you just have them every other weekend and can spend quality time with them

The CSA just does not work

]]> By: David Mayres http://www.csahell.com/my-ex-tells-the-csa-he-has-no-money-to-pay-them-174.html/comment-page-1#comment-950 David Mayres Wed, 22 Jul 2009 13:55:10 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=174#comment-950 Wow.... bitter much! If it's taken this long, why don't you give up. I have seen many people like you in this situation that twist the story to the point of idiocy. I can guarantee 100% there are lies in this text. I know people are gonna ignore this as your all as bad as each other. But I laugh AT you. Its pathetic, sorry.... its really pathetic. I am the son of someone who has been through this process with a lying cheating ex wanting money... using a shit loophole. Your son is an adult... you don't need the money now. Sounds like you need to let go and worry about your future... not your past. I am furious reading this. Furious. Sad sad sad person. Wow…. bitter much!

If it’s taken this long, why don’t you give up. I have seen many people like you in this situation that twist the story to the point of idiocy. I can guarantee 100% there are lies in this text.

I know people are gonna ignore this as your all as bad as each other. But I laugh AT you. Its pathetic, sorry…. its really pathetic. I am the son of someone who has been through this process with a lying cheating ex wanting money… using a shit loophole.

Your son is an adult… you don’t need the money now. Sounds like you need to let go and worry about your future… not your past.

I am furious reading this. Furious. Sad sad sad person.

]]> By: Cheryl http://www.csahell.com/my-ex-tells-the-csa-he-has-no-money-to-pay-them-174.html/comment-page-1#comment-906 Cheryl Wed, 08 Jul 2009 10:38:26 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=174#comment-906 Dont give up. My ex earns over £60,000. He managed to pursuade CSA he had taken a drop in income to £12,000. He forgot to tell them the rest of his income was paid direct into his pension!!! Almost 4 years and two tribunial hearings later, I have the decision I have been waiting for, the SOB owes me nearly £12,000 in back pay! Even now though, there is a hicup and i'm back to writing letters, calling MP's and making numerous calls. I will get this sorted. What I'm trying to get across is, despite wanting to give up many times, the thought of 'going through it all again' just think about your kids. This is their money you are fighting for. What ever the reasons you and your ex split up, they are half his responsibilty and he MUST pay his fare share. Keep going honey, DONT GIVE UP!! Dont give up. My ex earns over £60,000. He managed to pursuade CSA he had taken a drop in income to £12,000. He forgot to tell them the rest of his income was paid direct into his pension!!! Almost 4 years and two tribunial hearings later, I have the decision I have been waiting for, the SOB owes me nearly £12,000 in back pay! Even now though, there is a hicup and i’m back to writing letters, calling MP’s and making numerous calls. I will get this sorted.
What I’m trying to get across is, despite wanting to give up many times, the thought of ‘going through it all again’ just think about your kids. This is their money you are fighting for. What ever the reasons you and your ex split up, they are half his responsibilty and he MUST pay his fare share. Keep going honey, DONT GIVE UP!!

]]> By: sue baker http://www.csahell.com/my-ex-tells-the-csa-he-has-no-money-to-pay-them-174.html/comment-page-1#comment-893 sue baker Sun, 28 Jun 2009 19:21:50 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=174#comment-893 My ex husband has diverted his income through his partner. I have been going back and forth to tribunals. It has cost me a fortune. The best advise i can giv eany one is this: 1. Forget trying to ask the csa for help and just bring your children up as best you can. or 2. hand the kids over to the non paying resident parent and let them have all the ups and downs of raising the children, while you just have them every othe rweekend and can spend quality time with them The csa just does not work My ex husband has diverted his income through his partner. I have been going back and forth to tribunals. It has cost me a fortune.

The best advise i can giv eany one is this:
1. Forget trying to ask the csa for help and just bring your children up as best you can.
or

2. hand the kids over to the non paying resident parent and let them have all the ups and downs of raising the children, while you just have them every othe rweekend and can spend quality time with them

The csa just does not work

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