My daughter adopted but still CSA want me to pay
July 19, 2010
Whilst married my ex-wife and I moved about 60 miles away. When we split up I moved back yo be near my parents. It took me a while to find a new job.
In the meantime my ex wife contacted my parents (she refused to speak to me) and stated that her new partner wanted to adopt my daughter. I took a month or so to think about it, a lot of soul-searching and definitely not a decision I made lightly but agreed and signed the relevant forms, returned them to my parents to forward them to her. I heard no more from the CSA.
In late 2007 my father died, 3 months later my mother died. My ex and my daughter turned up to my father’s funeral and I phoned my daughter when my mother died but could get no answer to calls emails or texts(after renewing contact at the funeral). They did not come to my mother’s funeral but I immediately received a letter from the CSA. The letter stated that I owed £11,000 in arrears and they had made a new assessment of £95 per week. Obviously I phoned them straight away and explained my daughter had been adopted. They called my ex and then phoned me back saying my ex had told them ‘we never actually went ahead with the adoption in the end’. The CSA said that as I am still legally responsible I am liable. I agreed with that but said that surely this should now be treated as a new claim? They said no, its still an open claim on the old system and I owe the arrears.
I went through my MP – don’t bother with that, all they do is get the CSA to review the case only to get the same result .
There is absolutely nothing I can do, the CSA treat this so flippantly its scary. They don’t care about the fact that I spent all those years with no contact which broke my heart. I did waht I thought was right for my daughter to have a stable upbringing with their child and I was just stitched up.
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I think it would be wise to check if your ex is telling the truth or not.
If the adoption went through the Court should have advised you, however this is not foolproof. Things go missing in the post for example.
You will need to ascertain if an Adoption Certificate exists, this link tells you how to get one -
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Governmentcitizensandrights/Registeringlifeevents/Familyhistoryandresearch/Birthmarriageanddeathcertificates/DG_175654