I’ve been stopped from seeing my son so she can get more money

August 16, 2013

Denied the right to see my son by my ex so she can top up her benefits with the full CSA amount that am forced to pay!! as I work I can’t afford to go to court and pay the solicitors fees etc, where as she gets everything paid for!!

Currently in the process of bankruptcy as am currently struggling to even top up my gas meter and pay the bills that’s not taking into account by the CSA, totally unfair but quite easy to solve take into account living expenses and if contact is denied by the parent with care tell them they will receive £0 it really is that simple!!

Comments

  • Bella says:

    Definitely go to court yourself. You don;t need a solicitor for a contact order. This is a really good guide to representing yourself: http://www.dad.info/dad-talk-forum/legal-eagle/10255-guide-to-representing-yourself-in-court

    The judge won’t take kindly to her restructing access at all, never mind if it’s not get more CSA money. She doesn’t stand a chance. You might even get more access than you had before! We took my partner’s ex to court and CAFCASS advised the case to be rushed to contact could start immediately. She came across very badly in the report – it highlighted she was putting her issues above the children.

    Don’t leave it too long though – they’ll give you less access at the start if there’s been a big gap to ease the kids into contact (they don’t understand these bonds don’t just break!).

  • carrie says:

    Another nrp in work forced to leave their job because the CSA believe everything they are told by the pwc .He is quite happy to pay but because the CSA leave it so long to assess you there is little chance to catch up.Being in an arrears situation means they can automatically take up to 40% of your wage (and your tax credits IF you get any!) The money to pwc is calculated on your wage BEFORE this amount gets given to the pwc so nrps often find they dont qualify for tax credits themselves at all despite losing almost half their wage!! Nrp’s need to have enough left to provide a place with several bedrooms to have the children when they come to stay(IF the pwc’s let them come -it reduces the CM so a lot dont !!)They need to feed the children when they are with them & often travel quite a distance to collect & return the children on a weekend to say nothing of actually having to money to take them out & do anything fun with them ! Things need to change very soon !

  • Darren says:

    Hi,sorry to here your story it is so common and you are not alone my only advice is to talk to people closest to you so you don’t get too depressed and make a diary ,it helped me just to wright everything down and have a filing system in place as it is a very long road in dealing with the csa remember head held high as you are not in the wrong.

  • John says:

    Go to your M.P.and tell them that you are being criminalised regarding your children. Not the governments children, not the CSA’s children…. your children.

  • Mr.Whitey says:

    “Denied the right to see my son by my ex so she can top up her benefits with the full CSA amount that am forced to pay!! as I work I can’t afford to go to court and pay the solicitors fees etc, where as she gets everything paid for!!”

    Another example of “Broken Britain”, a country where idleness is rewarded by the scumbag Government and their lickspittle lackeys of the CSA…

    Absolutely disgusting!

  • Mike Hunt says:

    So common this problem. CSA actively promote this by telling PWC more money if stop overnight access. Make sure your boy knows his bitch of a mother has tried to stop you having contact.. My cunt of an ex did this. Went to court twice and obtained two contact orders as she still tried to stop me seeing. Now she says they don’t want to see me or they are ill etc. can’t wait to bump into her on a dark night somewhere when she is out on her fuckin broomstick..

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