If my ex has our son for 10 nights a month, would my payments be affected?

December 3, 2013

I currently have a private arrangement with my ex husband for maintenance towards our son. I was awarded sole custody, no shared access and he is allowed to have his son 8 nights per month.

My ex has now asked for 10 nights per month. Although I have not agreed, would it affect any of my possible CSA payments in the future and also custody arrangements. Many thanks.


12 Responses to “If my ex has our son for 10 nights a month, would my payments be affected?”

  1. Charlotte Rosevear on December 3rd, 2013 12:09 pm

    Give them a ring and just say your thinking about agreeing to it and thry should be able to tell you if it changes or not xx

  2. Michael Davies on December 3rd, 2013 12:33 pm

    Or you could try putting the child first, the more time the child has with the missing parent is better for the child in the long run. Well unless you want a teenager who resents you? Its not all about money put the child first not your pocket.

  3. Becky KJ Mummywright on December 3rd, 2013 1:01 pm

    yes it well but all he has to do is take it to court for them to say yes. your child need to come 1st not what money u get

  4. Kelly Ann Thornton on December 3rd, 2013 1:03 pm

    So ur more interested in money…..

  5. Ellie Sellars on December 3rd, 2013 1:18 pm

    Disgusting to see some people are only interested in money. Never mind the happiness and well being of your child.. Get a grip so what if you loose out on a few quid a week!!!

  6. jo on December 3rd, 2013 2:06 pm

    Surely contact your son has with his father is more paramount than csa payments?

  7. Lee Patsyfraser Foley on December 3rd, 2013 2:42 pm

    Omg honestly cant believe you have questioned money over your childs relationship with his father … Ladys and Gentlemen … this is a prime example of the messed up system . I prey he one day gets full custody …

  8. Martin Field on December 3rd, 2013 2:50 pm

    It will decrease your payments and also be beneficial to your child as the more time your son spends with his father can only be a good thing, right? But parasites like you are only interested in £ signs to the detriment of your sons welfare…… Leech!

  9. Lisa on December 3rd, 2013 6:46 pm

    Whats more important money or your child being with her dad?? Obviously another greedy cow, instead of lining your own pockets put your childs needs first!!!!!!!!

  10. Mrs Beckham 2 on December 4th, 2013 11:46 am

    This is WHY I am right when I say the CSA encourages parental alienation, as it’s the PWC seeing the CSA money as ‘their’ payments!!! Like relying on the ££ as income!! FFS what you should be thinking is how lovely it is that the NRP wants to see his child more, have his child more nights……….not whether or not it affects your ‘earnings’!!!
    Have you considered the needs of the child?? The NRP?? And also, why can’t you see it as the more nights the NRP has the child, the less ££ YOU have to pay out re food etc!!
    A child is not YOURS or HIS….a child is shared, and the love should be shared, why can’t NRP and PWC agree that just because they can’t stand each other, the child still needs BOTH of them. 50/50 shared care is a child’s RIGHT!!!

  11. Christina Shields on December 11th, 2013 2:20 pm

    My god people like this disgust me ! I handed my ex back £100 so he would have enough for petrol to pick our boys up at the half way point and enough to have a quality weekend with them ! Every time my ex has my kids I’m 50 out of pocket for petrol with him not paying any maintenance atm either I put my boys first and fkn do without myself rather than have my boys end up hating me for putting up barriers to their dad !!

  12. anon on December 12th, 2013 4:17 am

    In short, yes. It would reduce your payments by 2/7ths. But surely the relationship being built between father and son is more important than an extra 1/7th being deducted from your maintenance (assuming the CSA are already aware that there is band 1 shared care in place at present).

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