I reduced my ex’s overnight stays from 3 times per week to 1

March 2, 2013

Me and my ex partner had agreement set in place for me to receive £40 per week towards child care towards our son. He recently has said he his stopping that as from next week and lowering it to £26. He said he has rang csa and this what he has been advised to give.

However I feel he will be giving false income details as he is in full time work as a gas/plumber engineer. He did have my son 3 nights per week but I have recently changed this to the once as his picking up and dropping off times of my son are not acceptable when my child has school and needs routine.

Could you please advise me what to do next and what I’m entitled to. Thank you.

Comments

19 Responses to “I reduced my ex’s overnight stays from 3 times per week to 1”

  1. Amanda Johnson on March 2nd, 2013 5:00 pm

    personally id contact csa yourself to see what or if he has in fact been in touch etc and if he has ask them to investigate his income via inland revenue if you feel hes lying about it

  2. Duncan Smith on March 2nd, 2013 5:09 pm

    you only care about money, like my ex SCUM

  3. Marlene Bonser on March 2nd, 2013 5:14 pm

    You find it not acceptable hubby has reduced your payments but you find it acceptable to reduce his contact.Put your childs needs first he needs a dad as well as a mum.

  4. Duncan Smith on March 2nd, 2013 5:15 pm

    WELL SAID MARLENE XXXXXXXXXXXXX

  5. Mark Curran on March 2nd, 2013 5:49 pm

    Difficult to sympathise on this one as a child has had time with father reduced for financial reasons. Find out what has actually happened with CSA before using your child as a weapon.

  6. wilf on March 2nd, 2013 6:06 pm

    Leanne:- You are not entitled to change the shared care arrangements unilaterally.

  7. Alice on March 2nd, 2013 6:11 pm

    CSA will ask for wage slips from the NRP, or income details direct from his employer if he has not supplied them. They will then base the maintenance calculation on the income details supplied. He will also be awarded allowances for any children who live in his household and a shared care allowance for the amount of nights he has your son at his house.

    Is the agency collecting your child maintenance for you – if so they will collect the amount calculated. If a new maintenance calculation has been done the figure they have based the calculation on will be on your MC letter – if you think this is inaccurate you can appeal the calculation but you will need to justify why you think it is wrong and possibly provide evidence to back this up

  8. stuart on March 2nd, 2013 7:10 pm

    Alice why do the CSA not have to provide evidence you owe an amount before they take it? yet you do to prove them wrong? very strange.

  9. Martin Holden on March 2nd, 2013 10:37 pm

    You should be ashamed of yourself using your child for financial gain. Shame on you.

  10. Alice on March 2nd, 2013 11:32 pm

    on CS2 the there is a running account which shows each payment due and each payment made – if the payments made do not match the payments due the balance unpaid is what is owed – any NRP can request a client statement to show what is owed by them for their children

  11. Amanda Johnson on March 3rd, 2013 10:17 am

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  12. stuart on March 3rd, 2013 4:33 pm

    on CS2 the there is a running account which shows each payment due and each payment made – if the payments made do not match the payments due the balance unpaid is what is owed – any NRP can request a client statement to show what is owed by them for their children

    So the CSA do not have to provide this and investigate it before attaching a DEO and taking your money at source? Contrary to British law? How is this allowed then?.

  13. Lisa on March 3rd, 2013 6:17 pm

    Stuart well said, we would all like to know the answer to this question???

  14. Alice on March 3rd, 2013 8:21 pm

    NRP’s are issued with a maintenance assessment letter, this informs them the amount they are due to pay per week- if they do not pay then they will be in arrears with their child support – as such they will be issued with an arrears warning letter giving them 7 days to contact the agency to make payment or arrangement to pay, this letter advises that failure to do so will result in enforcement action being taken to recover the debt

  15. Leanne on March 3rd, 2013 8:31 pm

    To all whose of u with your nasty remarks, I am not bothered one bit wether I received money of my son father, i work and will provide for my son ethier way! but so you are say he is not entitled to his up keep aswell! And none of you can dare judge me or know of reasons why contact as been changed!! I also have police involved on my behalf because all crap and harassment I receive off him. And thats just the start of the sistutation which you all do not know! So do not judge until u know! I was simply seeking advice not to receive abuse aswell!!!

  16. wilf on March 3rd, 2013 9:49 pm

    Leanne:- If you only tell half a story what else did you expect.
    Your post implied that you were reducing shared care because the NRP was talking about having a reassessment from the CSA.
    The picking and dropping at school seem a feeble excuse as that would be the NRPs responsibility 2 days a week if he has the child during the week.
    This a very sensitive topic for many NRPs who feel that the CSA allow PWCs to used the shared care issue as a means of increasing the maintenance required thus leaving many NRPs bereft and out of control.
    The CSA would never tell a NRP to reduce payments before a new assessment had been completed, it is not in their nature.
    He will have to provide evidence if he is saying his income has reduced.

  17. Amanda Johnson on March 3rd, 2013 10:17 pm

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