I paid ex for one child while ex paid nothing for three who lived with me
January 10, 2013
I am embroiled in an ongoing battle with the CSA which has been going on for over 10 years. I have 6 children and when my husband and I split 4 of them were school age. Most of the time my eldest son lived with his father and I was assessed and had to pay maintenance for him.
All fair you would say except that I had the other 3 with me and as my ex husband was self employed!! has managed to evade having to pay any maintenance at all to me for the last 10 years. Currently I still pay support for my youngest two, who are now aged 18 and 16 and living with their father. Both have left school and my ex husband is now living on benefits.
As a result, even though he owes me money for back child support the CSA will not collect it until his circumstances change. In addition, the ex is also claiming child benefit on the basis that the children are in full time education when in fact one of them has been working full time since September and the other one has attended college for even a day. Ive reported this to the child benefit agency and to the CSA but what do I get – nothing.
The only time they contact me is to chase a payment. In dealing with the agency over the years I have in fact managed to obtain compensation for their failures on my case – hooray you say – £75 was my compensation for them not obtatining child benfit payments. Not bad to bring 3 children up for 10 years!
I am increasing frustrated by the manner in which the CSA operate, it is so geared towards the parent with care, even if that parent is lying throught its teeth to claim benefits. Im not sure how loud I have to shout to get my voice heard but it seems that the ex has a louder one so he gets heard first. I now have another complaint ongoing. Has anyone ever taken their case to tribunal??? Is it worth me proceeding that far?