hi folks, get comfy... make a brew...
right here is my situation ... i have a child who is 10 with a girl who was a one stand, she wanted nothing from me and i didnt want to know at the time.... i then met someone and settled down and had 2 children with her... that relationship ended after her unfaithfullness after 7 years... i am now with my present partner and she is due to give birth to my fourth child in 2 weeks time , she also has another child from a previous marriage that lives with us who is autistic.... now i currently have my 2 children from my previous relationship stay with me at least twice a week and they also stay with my mum once or twice a week (still in the care of my family not hers)... we have an agreement between us in that i pay her £250 per month for the kids (which is half of the rent on her house so the kids have somewhere to stay)... this is done via a standing order and is completely traceable... now today i have found out that the mother of my first child has now decided to contact the csa after finding out i have another child on the way.... i have not had contact with my first child regularly for basically 10 years, she never wanted anything from me and was happy that i wasnt in his life ... but she did contact the csa when he was born when things were really bad between us...
so basically what im looking for is how much im looking at paying ?
10 years worth of backpay?
and what will i pay for normal payments based upon my circumstances with a £348 a week wage after tax etc.
will my other children be taken into account and will i have to pay for them through the csa aswell now they are involved, even if we have a traceable agreement ?
i know this all sounds like something from the jeremy kyle show... but its all real life... iv never been on benifits or anything like that and always worked and paved my own way... just that things are already really tight financially and i just want to see what im gonna be looking at.
iv tried the csa's online calculator thing but it doesnt give enough options to cover my situation
thanks for any help and advice in advance
